Can someone please help me with my question even though its odd?

Question

i'm 13 and i know that some people think its too early to date, but no guys have ever liked me and they think i'm fat. The popular people at my school are like barbie dolls, and i don't want to be like that but i do want to where make up, but i don't really have much money. How am i supposed to get guys to like me? PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

Don't worry about wearing make-up. That isn't where it's at.

Do keep good personal hygiene (daily showers, clean clothing, combed hair, brushed teeth).

Beyond that ... focus on your personality! Be someone who is caring, joyful, smile a lot. Develop your own interests, do things you like to do, try lots of things to find those that are enjoyable to you. Get involved with a charity, or kids club. Get to know other people, ask them about themselves and their interests, help people out, listen.

As you do those things, people will want to be around you, because you make them feel good when they are with you, and then they will get to know you, and that is where relationships, including friendship (the most important), all start.

Answer 2

Hi hunny!
Dating this early might not be a great idea, but I know that all of the girls in your class probably have boyfriends and crushes and all that fun stuff, right?

Well you see, no matter how much make up you wear or designer clothing or whatever, as long as you have confidence and keep your head up you will be noticed. You just have to be yourself and believe in yourself. People make fun of each other every day. Not everybody likes everybody else. So if someone makes fun of you, just remember that you are wonderful and beautiful and no one can take that away from you ever.
Make sure you set your standards high because you deserve a wonderful boyfriend! So when you start getting interested in a guy make sure he's cute, nice, sweet, funny, anything that will make you smile! Never doubt yourself, if you know the boy sucks, then ex him out. :) Never take crap from a guy either!!
You are fabulous hunny, and don't let anyone bring you down! :)
Most importantly love yourself! If you have a little meat on you give it a hug and rub some lotion on it. Having love for yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself ever! If your weight is something that bothers you, just make sure you do some exercise and eat well. Bring it to your parents attention that you need help eating right. They will help you! :)

I also want to give you some makeup tips for when you get a little older. :) If you have a good complexion, meaning little to no acne, don't use coverup on your whole face, only on the areas that need it. Alot of girls mess their face up by smearing it all over their face and they end up with alot of zits. All you need to make sure is that when you apply it, you blend it right so your face looks like one color. :)
Make sure you wash your face once a night, or whenever it get's really greasy at the most two times a day.
If you need to use coverup, try to find a powder foundation, Maybelline Pure Stay is probably the best and it's only $7-8.
Another must have is mascara, even cheap mascara is good.
And lip gloss :)! Any kind is good, just make sure its a good color. Chapstick works well. Wet n Wild is the cheapest so I'd suggest looking for that brand.

If you have any other questions send me an email okay?!
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Loving yourself is the key!

Answer 3

When I was 13 I was having the same problems you are. I think the best thing you can do is stop trying and be yourself (I know it sounds cliche but it's true!). If the guys in your school are jerky and only interested in "Barbie Dolls" then they're not worth your effort anyway...trust me!

It's always a good idea to take care of yourself...if you're concerned about your weight then you could start exercising and making healthier eating choices, both of which are free. Also make sure to take good care of your skin and teeth, two things that wearing make-up can never make up for. Maybe you could get involved in some after school activities; sports, drama, student council, etc to meet some guys who have similar interests as you.

Once you start focusing on yourself and stop trying to impress the wrong people, the RIGHT people will naturally come to you :o) It worked for me, so try it!

Answer 4

Don't. Guys at that age literally want one thing. Sex. To be cool because they "bagged" another girl.
Is that all you're worth? Have you really watched to see what these guys and girls end up at? Do you see the young women wandering around with babies, no career, no future? The guys you see wandering from girl to girl, no commitments, no future, either paying child-support or simply abandoning girls with no backbone who let them get away with it.

Great life, huh?

However, if you wait, and concentrate NOT on school, but on USING school to help you achieve your dreams and goals, then when you are eighteen and no longer the responsibility of your parents, THEN worry about the make-up and guys. Be uncool. What you miss out on you will get back a hundred times over when you become an adult, particularly if you get to college (college is really cool, and makes your future so much easier).

Your parents are legally responsible for you until you are eighteen and THEY get in trouble when you do. It costs them. In addition, you have no belongings. They own everything. If your favorite object was gone tomorrow, the court would probably ask why if you sued, but they would probably back the parents. When you have earned the right to make these decisions by showing your maturity, then go for it when you are eighteen.

Of course, if you don't care about this, feel free. Go ahead.

More room for my daughter at the top when you fall.

Choose carefully.
School Work Retirement for fun and games
15 years lifetime Never
18 years (H.S) 60 years Whatever's left (2+years?)
22 years (B.A.) 38 years 20 years plus
24 years (M.A.) 30 years 28 years plus
25 years (Ph.D.) 20 years 38 years plus

Can't do school if you are raising a baby or dating alot.

I hope my daughter is not cool. I hope she is a total nerd. I intend to help her do it if she wants. Then I'm going to teach her how to be the most popular woman (right after college).

Good luck to you. Choose well.
Remember this when you feel like blaming others for your life as an adult. You might want to reconsider where the blame goes, or simply fix it as best you can.

Answer 5

Hi there. I was in your position a few years back, but the way I dealt with it was attitude. Really. The guys at this age are just thinking about one thing for the most part, and the 'Barbie dolls' are just that. Eye candy. But even they have troubles, because they are so pretty, most guys won't talk to them. Take up a sport you like, check with your doctor if there are medical reasons and build up your self esteem. If you like yourself others will too. I am still no 'Barbie doll', but I have the greatest husband, two wonderful kids and am proud to be me.

Answer 6

honestly sweetheart? your living the same world i lived in four years ago (im 17 now, turning 18 soon) 13 isnt too early to date, since i started at 10, just as long as you dont let it go too far, and the only one who knows whats too far is you and your heart.

now with that said people thnk im fat, im 160lbs and 5'6'' a lot of it is muscle, i do toning work ,and since mucle weighs more, well you get the drift. im not tiny, but im definatly not fat. dont let any one say your fat if yor not, and chances are your not, and even if, your still of the age where you will grow out of some/most of it.

popular people are b*tches. trust me, if had them do everything to me, EVERYTHING. but dont let the get you, be proudof you, and i feel you afe since you dont want to wear makeup. trust me, its nt that good. when you see thoes girls wearing makeup? be glad and think this. soon, there gonna have acne problems cause its cloging there poors and you can laugh when they get cauled pimple pox. and zit face. and remember what they say? it dosent matter that youre gonna pump their gas? yeah RIGHT! now that im getting older, all thoes people, have babies, have no one that wants then cause there ugly from being awake all hours of the day with there child. have no educauion, and work 2 jobs, macdonalds and the gas station, and does it ever feel GOOD when yoiu drive by in a sports car. now hun, if you want a man, give it time, the best thing to do is have confidence, love yourself, and BE yourself. men like confidence, and if they dont come to you right now, the only reason why is because ther too immature and are all on looks for a trophy girlfriend. but you never want to be that. give iut time and they will want you. when i was your age, no one wanted me, and now that i am the age i am, i have the "popul;ar girls" cursing me cause i have the now, goodlooking men (since the popular ons then are drufggies and ugly now) who not only have a liive in there hands, they have the good jobs, the money, and the maturity to deal with a girl, and i have so may flocking me, i have people green with envy wanting my men. rememberr that, give it time and you will find someone, and dont give up, you will, fate will find you your man. love conqures all. not popularly.

good luck and e-mail me if you need ne thing else and let me kow how it goes

Answer 7

Oh sweatpea...

Slow down - no rush to grow up.
You don't need a boyfriend to be complete.
You don't need to be popular to be complete.

You are on the right track about not wanting to be a "barbie doll"... they superficial at best.

What you do need is to know who you are, and build on that. That means study hard, relax around others, and be social. Join a school club that addresses peaks your interests.

Girl... you're 13 yrs old... You will have plenty of time for boys. BE A KID. Enjoy your young teen years.

Answer 8

Sweetie, you are TOO YOUNG to worry about guys liking you! Take it from me who was friends with those so called girls in High School....The ones who weren't as attractive in Junior High ended up being the ones who are gorgeous now. And the ones who were gorgeous ended up being the ones pregnant and alone at 16 or 17. And dropping out of school. You need to focus on your school work, then when you're old enough to work get a job and go to the mall to have someone at a makeup counter help you to do your makeup. You can be attractive, I just wouldn't do it so someone likes you. People need to learn to like you for who you are. And you need to learn that those are the only people who will matter in the long run!

Answer 9

When I was 13, I too was over weight and had to deal with my friends always getting the cutest guys and wearing the best clothes and all of that. But you know what? I made it through at the age of 16 I met my now current husband (we dated for 12 years and finally got married 2 years ago) we have three beautiful children and have a really happy marriage...and you know what? Those girls all those years ago?...they are unhappy with children and no fathers they have dead end jobs they are just miserable. So stay strong to who you are and concentrate on school...you'll get your's and when you do it will be deserving!

Good luck!

Answer 10

You can get some lip gloss and eye shadow pretty cheap if you buy from the "NYC" line at Walmart, Walgreens, Kmart, etc. For $3 you could get a nice lip gloss & eye shadow. That's all you need nowadays! Natural is in until you get old & have to hide everything! lol Honey, all that matters is how you think - if you don't think you're fat, don't worry about it. You probably are going through puberty & those other girls still look like 9 year old boys!