very LITTLE problem of his. I thought I could get over it but at this point I'd rather just please myself and not put up the facade of pretending to enjoy his best efforts. Any advise on how to get past this. After 13 years I see the problems coming and I feel a pull of attraction to anyone who notices me.
2006-06-24 13:08:09 · 10 answers · asked by justbecause0040 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Having an affair doesn't take away the emptiness - in fact, it only creates more emptiness (as well as confusion). These feelings are far more severe than feeling "neglected". Obviously you're in need of intimacy, and if your partner isn't being attentive to this, it's only natural to toy with the idea of being with another man. If you don't address the issue, you might find yourself doing things that you never thought you'd do. So address it, and if it doesn't work, buy a dildo or get out of the relationship.
2006-06-24 14:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Grace777 3 · 11⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to pray! Seriously because you married him for the wrong reasons no where in your question did you mention you love him! I think you should try to get some counseling and dont continue to lead him on! You felt sorry for him and thought you could get past his problem and now His problem has created a even bigger problem! Please get help and don't continue to lead this poor guy on! Instead try loving him enough to let him go! And also try explaining to him how you are starting to feel,It will work out better if you guys communicate and put everything out in the open!I will be praying for you!
2006-06-24 20:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every woman has her needs this is not unusual at all...If he has not found a way to work it by now he is not going to...So you can keep trying to satisfy yourself and be happy with that...Or call it quits as hard as it is to go through a divorce...To have one on the side is not a good idea you still can't enjoy that...Wait till your single then enjoy what life has to offer...
Life is to short be happy live for the fullest!!!!
2006-06-24 21:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are trying to satisfy a spiritual problem with something physical. The problem isn't him or he would be asking the question. Intimacy can be acheived with others but first must be with yourself.
2006-06-24 20:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by John G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn.. U gotta be kidding me!.. hell I could have written this question, & that's no ****, hon! I got somebody who wanted to move fast (his soon to be ex wife wanted to sell the house) so he kind of 'fell in love' (w/lucky ole me, raising 3 kids) in like 4-6 weeks flat! (He 'wanted us to get married before l2-31 so he could claim all those tax deductions..' That ought to tell U something right there..) He never was good in bed he said.. he was married twice before me and said "I never gave either of them an orgasm." I did get 'em and he said the first time I did the 'ohhhhh!' thing he "thought he hurt me." He got colon cancer right after I divorced him so I felt sorry for him and got remarried to him. (He seems alright now so NOW I'm wondering what in the hell to do.. we've got an ll year old which we got because w/his low sperm count, he took some steroids at a family planning clinic.) He at first got along o.k. w/the 3 kids but then never said anything about 'loving 'em' and 'let their dad pay for 'em..', they were 'moochers' (one in college) and **** like that. It really hurt! If he comes around me, he claims to have e.d. and likes to do the 'oral thing 'on me(which gets old fast.. ) He thinks all the 'troubles with our marriage' are not HIS fault, it's the fault of his limp dick. (Makes me feel like a ho-bag... that revelation.) The last line 'after l3 years..' (we've been together l4).. anyone who notices me.' scares me.. I feel exactly like that. I can't really go out (small town of l,200) and "do" anybody .. (I think about it.) I did get an i.m. 2 months ago from some asshole EMT living in the same town who started hitting on me and when I turned him down he just quit writing me entirely. (Don't ya hate that? stupid coward figured on me for an easy piece of pussy, then bowed out.. ) I just lose like 75 pounds and got 35 tattoos, 4 years ago so I DO want to be noticed but I don't want to come across as desperate and an easy piece of *** either. Sorry this is too graphic.. as this is basically anonymous, I feel freer to write how I really goddamned well feel! I can't imagine going the rest of my life with this asshole.. he just screamed at me this morning about how the ******* kitchen plumbing getting ****** up was l00% MY friggin' fault..) this is too long. later- mel
2006-06-24 21:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie sounds like a sexual problem, unless it is missing, there is help if it an erection problem, just remember they dont work if you drink booze, and if thats not the problem go to my profile and let me know what is, also i understand a man or woman needs certain things, and its not fair to you to do with out
2006-06-24 20:33:59 · answer #6 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is a good man instead of ending everything i say have some fun but make sure it is someone who only wants boddie call thats a long time 2 be with someone
2006-06-24 20:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like a sexual problem and there's probably a treatment for it.
2006-06-24 20:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by on my way 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow is his penis that small????
i say u stay married and just do another guy on the side.... kinda mean but u do what u gotta do. or get a dildo!
2006-06-24 20:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by dvlndskyz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you talking about?
What are you trying to say and trying to ask?
2006-06-24 20:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by dean_moriarty00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋