ive liked my best friend forever. but its very complicated. what should i do ?

Question

its like. whenever we try to get together. anything that can go wrong does. and destiny always interferes. weve only been together once but for like a week. and shes broken my heart a couple of times. but i seem to still like her. and ive always believed that the only way to mend broken hearts is to find somebody to replace them. but i cant. and now its summer and we hardly talk and im wondering if i should stop talking to her. so that mebeh i can get over her. or try one more time and tell her whats really bothering me. problem is that she mite have a boyfriend. i know that its better to be friends with the person you love because then you cant loose them. but im insane about her.. i mean your supposed to go after the person you that lifts you off your feet. im just afraid that she mite let me fall again... and again.. and again. =/

Answer 1

i've been and gotten past the same situation. Believe me, you may think that this might be the one, it probably is not. Depending on your age, this may be one of the first attractions you have encountered. Continue your friendship, but give yourself a chance to explore and you will be amased by the amount of girls out there that will lift you off of your feet.

Answer 2

Just tell her how you feel. I know it may feel like you have a lot to loose by doing that but it worse to sit and think about all the what ifs. If she tells you she doesn't feel the same then it will make it easier to move on. Don't you owe it to yourself to know. About the boyfriend thing if you don't know don't assume. Just let her know how you feel and if you're too worried to tell her then write her a letter that's what I feel is best because you can organize your thoughts re-write it and then give it to her when you think it is perfect. Well good luck with whatever you choose.

Answer 3

Give it time and keep in touch. If she does have a boyfriend then I wouldnt suggest confessing your love because it might make future conversations between the two of you 'weird'.


Chances are that if things didnt work out before, they arent going to now. Her feelings for you need to be the same as yours for her.
Lucky for you, there is always more fish in the sea, and you have more people in your life still to meet.

Answer 4

If you look at your problem from an objective standpoint, you'll realize that she's not the right person for you. It sounds like she knows that you have feelings for her and just keeps leading you on for whatever particular reason that benifits her. Any relationship you will have with her will end when she decides she has no further use for you. Move on and find someone who will care about you for yourself as opposed to their own personal gain.

Answer 5

Hey man your situation sounds bad but, i'm sure that you shud talk to her adn since u guys been friends for a real long time talking to her about what's bothering you is a good idea
also if you like her or love her cuz it sounds like you really do
you should tell her
if you do love her don't regret your actions just make sure that you know you tried your best
but to cheer you up blame it on me if it goes wrong
;P
and good luck to you

Answer 6

Please take my advise:

Don't just let it go, I've been in that same situation on the receiving end and I didn't take him seriously when he told me. Then he stopped coming around & our friendship ended slowly, awkwardly, and it's sad. I didn't really realize that he was serious until way WAY later on. Delcare your intentions as clearly as you can and if you weren't meant to be together in that way, understand. And if you can, try to remain friends. If you really love someone, you'd still want them at least as your friend.

Answer 7

what makes you like her anyway? is she that perfect that you devote your life to her as shrine? if she dosnt like you then the hell with her. you can always find another person bec. she is obviously not the one. hoping for a chance to be together will only mak eyou feel much worse. if she has boyfriend then get yourself a girlfriend. there is no point of loving if its not returne by love itself. she is not perfect. i mean you've only been togethre for a week and she's alrady dumped you twice. duh! she doesnt like you as a boyfriend. you can still be friends with her if you like. have you watched X-Men III? scott died coz he didnt accept that the real jean is dead and that the phoenix is the one who's alive now. and in the end, logan killed her. im saying you will die or you have to kill her but that it can tear you apart. mentally of course. get over her. if your love is that strong and she refused it, she missed a lot but your love can be given to another who appreciates it. also if you dont like to be friends swith her, avoid her if she also doenst want to be friends with you. maybe she'l think your pathetic and downright creepy if you think about it.

Answer 8

you answered your own ? destiney interferes if that dosent tell back off I dont know what ther sign you need to tell you.If It were a sign that said curve ahead would you continue going straight knowing you would wreck no , so keep the friendship as a friendship, you have another path to take for love.

Answer 9

look it is hard 2 let go of someone that u love but if she dosnt like u then u neeed 2 give her a brake and back of for a little because girls dont liked 2 be buged
good luck

Answer 10

You are thinking too much.

Ask her what she wants?

If it sounds like you have an opportunity then tell her wat you want.

If she shuns you let it go.

If she changes her mind she will come back to you.

If not, at least you won't waste more time thinking "What if?"

I could quote you a lot of things to justify these actions but simply that is all you have to do to solve your dilemma.