my husband and i have been kinda argueing a little bit but he just text message me. and told me he was sorry for being a ***** sometimes and that he loves me and my daughter. but he really hurt my feelings last night. I try making him feel really special and stuff and i asked him how come he doesn't try to do that for me. and i said i just want to feel sexy just for one night and he gave me this comment. now you know how i feel all the time. and i just wanted to cry so should i forgive him or what.
2006-06-24 12:50:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well we have to take the good with the bad. We have to forgive and and move on to the next we sometimes have to be the bigger person. So for give him this time and tell him enough is enough and you have feelings too. Good Luck
2006-06-24 12:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by dangerously in love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said sorry, so accept that. But don't let how you feel go. Because it will come back and blow up in your face. Tonight or when you get another moment with him tell him. "Look you may love me just how i am, like this it may not matter for you if i put on some lingerie. But you need to feel sexy every once in a while. And theres nothing wrong with your feels. Now he can plan on making dates where you guys have a night once a week or month where you do something you want. have a candle light dinner. Let him come home have rose peddles all over the floor leaving letters with instructions with things he should be doing before he gets to the room you want him in.. GET IT... But remember you all need to compromise to what your saying. And ask him why he doesn't want to see you like the way you want to be (sexy)..
2006-06-24 20:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by unicorncatering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before forgiving him, have him apologize to you IN PERSON and not over the phone, text messaging included!
Explain to him exactly what hurt you and make sure he hears you! Did you two do these sexy things to each other before marriage and child? Why stop after marriage and child?
Forgive him, and....if nothing changes-then stop doing the really special things and see if he notices. If all fails then the most expensive thing is counceling on how to nurture a relationship/marriage.
2006-06-24 20:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by menndebi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truly thought u was special he would make u feel that everyday and visversa..i think hes having trouble with it also..you guys somewhere along the line quit making each other feel special and sexy...tomorrow is a new day start treating him like u would want to be treated then he will follow..it will take time..this is no reason for a divorce...talk about it and move on...comeing from someone that has been with the same man for 17 years..its a give and take thing.....and it willnt be the last time someones feelings get hurt...it happens and happens alot without knowing it .u get used to someone and for get the special things that makes a marriage
2006-06-24 20:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should forgive him if he said that he was sorry but also u need to talk to him and tell him how u feel and that u wanna feel sexy and other things that u want to do. just because he loves u and he says it to u that he loves u it doesn't mean he cant show how much he loves u sometimes. tell him that u wanna feel his love sometimes not only hear it from his mouth. good luck
2006-06-24 20:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by faith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should forgive him and talk things over.. there are sooo many worse things a man can do in a relationship. If its you always doing the nice little things for him, maybe stop doing those things for a bit and then he can see the difference and appreciate you more.
2006-06-24 19:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by lesleymariep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean i kinda know what u are going threw because i have a daughter and what ur saying sounds i dentical to what i was going threw did yall ever try marriage counseling or just talk to him about it ask him whats wrong ask him if anything is wrong with you or mabe he needs medication to calm his anger just don't give up on him mabe he is jealous don't forgive him just yet make him think about it if your really nice all the time when he b**ches then he will feel he can take advantage of u and yell all he wants too.or mabe he just knows he can take his anger out on u cuz he knows u love him and he knows u wont leave him.
2006-06-24 19:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by fairy_fantasies_101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always forgive cross words. Otherwise, you won't get forgiveness when YOU speak in anger or haste. The things you don't forgive are the deliberate malicious betrayals. If he made a good apology, you should accept it tell him you are glad that you tow aren't fighting anymore, that you HATE being angry with him.
2006-06-24 20:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving is about forginess and taking the good with the bad ! we all say things at times we don't mean,he's said he was sorry and that is the main thing ,he's your husband so if you really love him why don't you kiss and make up ,you will feel a whole lot better when you have
2006-06-24 20:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by okayalder62 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you still love him you should if you know that it is going to be really hard for you to let go off him and if he already asked you to forgive him I would just tell him that you dont want that to happen again and I bet he will learn his lesson . he needs to learn to appreciate you. so go ahead forgive him
2006-06-24 19:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by Morena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋