My husband decided that I should move out of our new house, so I did. He had began to drink excessively, and hangs out with his motorcycle hommies all the time. We have a new baby and I love him. He says that he has love for me, but is not in love with me. What can I do to regain his interest and love, or should I give up, and move on. I get offers for dates with men all the time, but I have declined because my heart is still with him. Help!!
2006-06-24 11:57:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sister, you should thank him, and the God that guided him, that you were able to get out of this distructive relationship so quickly and easily.
I've worked with TOO MANY women who have stayed with abusive men for years -- until they're too beaten down to believe that they deserve anything better.
You sound as if you're still young enough to recover from this "hiccup" in your life's journey, and I can tell that you are a beautiful, loving person on the inside.
My advice is to take care of that precious baby that God entrusted into your care -- and know that HE loves and cares about you even more than you do that child. You'll do just fine! :)
2006-06-24 12:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by mother_jazz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship description as the one your wrote above always makes me wonder what made you fall in love with him in the first place, and to the extent that you married. It sort of sounds like you've described a man with mostly machismo interests, probably came from a family that wasn't a supurb role model in how to nurture lasting relationships, and he chooses motorcycles and homies over wife and child? If that's even a scant close, then there's no "happy" future in it. Leave and start anew.
2006-06-24 19:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he gave you the boot from the home you two share, then I think it's probably best for you to move on with life. Give yourself some time to heal before going back into the dating game. Find a man who will appreciate and love you as much as you do him.
2006-06-24 19:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by Erato 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it sounds like your husband has chosen drinking and his hommies over you and your baby. You should probably consider moving on like he asked. Your heart will heal in time. Just be patient.
2006-06-24 19:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by qti36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do understand matters of the heart however God gave us common sense and he has made a choice and unfortunatly you will have to respect that and move on-For your sake and the sake of your child-something you should consider--God only qualified him to carry the seed not to raise it--This is your way out of a bad situtation before things get worse-Fact a woman is abused every 15seconds and have no way out so they think unitl death-You are one of the lucky ones wither you believe or not.
2006-06-24 20:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by LATASHA C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but his true love is the booze and you will never be the love of his life. sad to say but your better off away from him. if he's very lucky, something will happen that will shock him into stop drinking(hit bottom). time to move on, dear and remember that love DOES NOT conquer all. i should know because i'm an ex-alcoholic and my wife did the right thing by leaving me to save herself
2006-06-24 19:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by oldguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He pressured you to leave, now if you divorce everything goes to him. Move back in with him, tell him you can't afford to live on your own, then have him committed to a treatment facility. If he still has problems with drinking, get HIM to move out.
2006-06-24 19:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say move on because one day he would realize he had lost the best thing that has eva happen to him. and he would come around till that day move on find u a new man that will love u,u can do better.
2006-06-24 19:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by Devon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he wait until beer goes on sale before buying it? If so he is a keeper, If not kick him to the curb!
2006-06-24 22:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by betterletterheads 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say, but it's over!! you need to move on and forget about him. It sucks that happens, but get moving!!
2006-06-24 19:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by gernblanston 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋