My husband doesn't pay much attention to me what can i do to get him to show me more?

Question

I do the cute nighties I try to please him but he acts like he doesn't want it we do alot of things when we do have sex but he just wants to sit and watch tv and be with his homeboys

Answer 1

u really can't do anything because a male is going 2 do what ever he wants. You can't make him love u, but you can make him miss u.Now i don't mean 2 leave but make him think and feel like u don't care any more, and when u do that he gone fill like he's losing u and if he care about u he'll show it then.If he don't he ain't no good any way

Answer 2

It sounds like you both need to go to counseling. People frown on that, but that is the best medicine for a couple. Go to your pastor together and seek some advice. The problem I see is his homeboys. He is still in the high school/college mindset of a single guy. He has to realize that he cannot hang with his homeboys. He needs to grow up and be a man. Go to counseling honey and do some praying. Pray! Pray! Pray! You will be surprised how much prayer can change things. Do you go to church? If you haven't in awhile...get up and go one Sunday. Don't get him up. Just let him watch you dress up for church and leave the house. Do the same thing the next Sunday and I guarantee you it may not be that particular Sunday, but he will follow you out that door one Sunday. Best wishes and I do hope everything will work in your favor.

Answer 3

It sounds like he forgot what his greatest priorities should be. Perhaps you should try leaving him a little note where you know that he will get it and pay attention to it and let him know that you would like to talk to him for a while.

Let him know how you feel and make it a point to put some a lone time aside to where you can be together and a lone, even if it means a quiet evening walk or a quiet candlelight dinner at home.

Maybe counseling is even a necessity.

Answer 4

Make a great dinner by candle lite.... and when all is going well bring up the topic yourself..

tell him , Honey i know you love me and I love you but i was thinking about putting a little excitement to the relationship... then tell him all the things you would like to do.. not only sexually but tell him all the little things that make you feel special... like the old saying " ain't nobody happy unless momma is happy"

maybe he will "get the picture" when you lay it out on the table... NEVER bring up sexual stuff when your in bed.. talk about your needs over dinner or someplace away from the bedroom... they seem to remember the conversation better that way.... hope this helps...
Hang in there... BTDT Betty

Answer 5

Chances are he has made other sexual commitments.
Why would you or any woman want to stay with a jerk?

I am amazed at the number women that end up in similar situations and ask, what should do?

How much more can you give beside your sanity?

Find a REAL man!

Answer 6

Change some of the things u do he see often. Take one day out of a week h and Cater 2 him

Answer 7

My suggestion is to become LESS available Rather than trying to get his attention disappear for a while do the UNEXPECTED go out with the girls a few nights a week, etc, a little ' reverse psychology' dose wonders!, "we do not know how good we have it till it's gone"!... be well and have fun ;-]] [ he dose NOT define WHO and WHAT YOU are !, YOU DO!!!!..... ;-]]

Answer 8

I recommend the book "Why Men Love Bitches". It is a very good book and it explain the plain truth. I will help you, I'm sure. It is and easy read and very entertaining. It is not filled with profanity either.

Answer 9

Find a way to open the lines of communication. Maybe seek professional help.

Answer 10

cut nighties only look cute on cute girls, drop a couple hundred pounds