seriously....going to let you guys decide my fate....positive or negative answers...the most of either win.?

Question

i am in a relationship.....some days are diamonds, some days are stones....i AM in love, but our love is as passionate as our fighting. do not consider my other questions, as some were for a friend....really. my ultimate question is....should i stay or should i go? you decide for me, as i have tried everything else.....been here almost a year, but we aren't learning to communicate....please feel this question with your heart and give me your answer.....an electronic 8 ball.......

Answer 1

Love is blind and sometimes you have to listen to your mind not your heart. If you let it go and it comes back then you have a better chance of it lasting, but first you have to really let go, which is hard. And if you two really want to be together then you both will seek help to make it work better the next time around. If he refuse to get help then, he doesn't love you enough. You are only going to be treated the way you allow yourself to be treated. I was in a relationship filled with passion and hate. I was passionately in love with him and I hated myself. But I had to let go in order to see if we were really meant to be. He did come back but left again. But this time I loved myself. I refused to allow him to abuse me in any kind of way. It was really hard and it took years to come to the realization that I was worth more than what I was settling for. You don't really have to put your fate in our hands. You already know what you should do. I only pray that God gives you the strength and he will if you ask him.

Answer 2

Ok. I've been there. That was the entire reason my girlfriend and I broke up. But I love her more than life itself. I would do anything for her. I have been working on myself, as has she, and things have really changed for the both of us. I promised her that I would wait until the day I die to be with her, as long as she wasn't sure what she wanted to do. Sometimes being apart is the only way to learn. But if you go, there is a chance you will find your love was not as strong as you think. If that's true, then it's good you left anyway. If you go, let them know that you don't know what you want anymore. Stay apart until you can both figure out how to argue without killing each other. You could even go on a few dates here and there. In the mean time, you will see how strong your love really is, based upon how long you can both reamin apart without giving up.

I say go, but not for good.

Answer 3

I was once in a similar relationship that lasted 7 crazy years. I was on suicide watch when it finally ended. It was absolutely the best sex either of us ever had and it would go on for hours and later when we were rested and out of bed, one of us was mad at the other for some minor infraction. After the first year of marriage (I just couldn't let her get away) we barely spoke to each other unless we were headed off to the bedroom. I turned into a mean person and she turned to drugs. It was bad. After it was over, I went into counseling for 5 years and my therapist said it was a miracle one of us didn't kill the other because that's what usually happens in those types of love/hate relationships. The passion was just too hot to handle. If you want this thing to work, you're going to need some professional help and open those lines of communication. I tried to get her to go and she wouldn't have none of that and so the rest is history.

Answer 4

I've been married 25 years next week and we still have fights like that. We have - over time - learned to get along better, but still we have those days. I am madly in love with my husband, fighting doesn't stop that. And if there are any children involved, think a minute about what you are teaching them. The two of you should sit down and have a chat about this.. You'll never know if it's meant to be or not, unless you can talk about these problems..

Answer 5

Communication is one of the most important things one should have if a long-term relationship is going to work. The love and passion can fade in time, but you must have ongoing communication and respect for one another for a relationship to last through the tough times. Ultimately of course, it is your decision, but I would suggest you move on and find that right someone. Don't waste any more time....life is too short. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 6

Ah yes, the age old question, "What price for happiness?" No one can answer either of these questions for you. As you can see, lots of people will give their opinions, but only you possess the answer. You can't give up and throw your fate out there for everyone else to decide. Only you know all the details, it's your life. The timeless words of Dear Abby comes to mind again. She always said "Ask yourself, would you be better off with him or without him?" Act on your answer, which ever direction you decide and stick to it. If you've tried counseling and everything else you can think of, you may have already answered your own question.

Answer 7

There's nothing wrong with being in love with love, we all want to love and be loved. Passion is also important in a relationship, but the fighting needs to stop. If you guys can learn to talk instead of yell, then by all means stay in the relationship. But if you are just miserable because of it, then leave. Peace is also essential in a relationship. When your relationship is comfortable enough for you to relax and be peaceful then you've achieved a close to perfect relationship. Of course, arguments are part of it, but it's essential to be able to communicate well. Otherwise, move on and find someone who is less argumentative.

Answer 8

Ah, fortune teller TC knows all, tells all~
Turning over your first card, it is the fool. Not just a fool, but the fool. You know, when Mr. T says "FOOL", it means this person.
But which of you is it? We turn to the next card

It is the lovers. "Change-the-world" lovers, the once in a leftime type, but it is Romeo and Juliet, or Romeo and Figaro? You know, some relationships are prearranged in certain societies. One year is nothing. They grow up in childhood for years knowing they will marry someone they can't get along with, and still they marry them. Maybe the next card will help...

This one is the tower. It is terribly good or tremendously bad, the tower. Just think of the Twin Towers and divide by two. Yes, that is how important it is. So next we turn to the cards for ...

The Hermit. You know, the guy who thinks he needs a lantern to find an honest man. (He's been living in the hills too long). He isn't looking for an honest woman, so maybe he knows Figaro. He's been around the elk in the hills. The ones who live in a lodge, and come running down with him to the water hole. And boy do they run when they see it is a water hole. What they are looking for is an alcohol. But they ALL know to leave the crazy man with the lantern alone. So we go to the next card, and it is ...

Wait, did you glue two of my cards together? It is not funny to put one over on the all knowing, all powerful TC. Just for that, you will need to make up you own mind about this. It is not easy to find a deck of Animaniacs tarot cards!

Answer 9

Sister, if your relationship were a healthy, strong, loving one, you wouldn't even need to post this question!

It's all too easy to mistake anxiety for passion. Just keep in mind that a truly passionate relationship is without boundaries because there is mutual trust and respect. Anxiety, on the other hand, has no trust -- it always leaves you questioning, guessing, insecure, and, ultimately, miserable.

Only you know if this relationship leaves you feeling half-full or half-empty. If it were me, however, I'd put my effort into a relationship that made me feel completely full to over-flowing!

Don't settle for less than you're worth. May God bless you.

Answer 10

You are crazy for leaving it up to all of us strangers. I am in a similar relationship. Some days are the greatest other day I wonder if I can make it through the day. If you love him, it is worth fighting for. All relationships are work. Stay until you see absolutely no way or working it out. Fight for what you want. Possible solutions - couples counseling, write down all of your concerns/pet peeves/and such then talk about it, never fight clothed - undress and no one can leave mad and if it is a dumb fight the distraction helps. Try anything you can to make it work. I am! Good luck!