I have a 1 month old daughter and she is a mommys girl. Dad is away so I do not have his help. But she never lets me put her down. I cant even take the time to go to the bathroom without her throwing a massive temper tantrum. She will only sleep if I hold her. Her crying stops immediately when I pick her up so I know its not colic or gas.
I am finding it very hard to find my balance with her and myself. Ive heard everything from " you can never hold her too much" to "you need to let her cry and become independant". Any suggestions on how I can condition her?
2006-06-24 11:39:02 · 7 answers · asked by Tiffany S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You are definitely spoiling her already...she knows that when she cries you will pick her up. You need to let her cry when you know you spent enough time with her and she does not need changed or fed. Find some interesting toys to keep her busy so that she can learn to entertain herself. You cannot give in to her tantrums because then she will know how to manipulate you later on. Good luck!
2006-06-24 12:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is to hear, a little crying (45min or less) each day is actually good for their system, it helps clear the gunk from their throats and stuff.
But what saved me with all 4 of my kids was the car seat. It sat on the floor of the bath room with one foot rocking it gently every time I had to go... my daughter actually slept in her car seat for the first 5 months, she wouldn't sleep anywhere else so I would rock he, put her in the seat and then put the seat in her crib so she got used to the sounds and smells of that room. My youngest son only slept in his swing for 4 months, which made me worry about his little legs dangling and going numb, but as soon as that swing stopped he was awake again.
You can also try Hyland's teething tablets (all natural, they have tham at Walmart) to help calm her, or it may be her tummy in which case Mylicon drops or seomthing similar may help.
I wish you luck... and just remember, this phase will pass, and then they start talking back! :)
2006-06-24 12:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by Crazy Chel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her on a routine. I bought the book "The Baby Whisperer" and it hepled me out a lot. I had the same problem at 1 month. The book does not suggest "crying it out" especially at this age. The author does suggest a structured routine of "Eat, Activity, Sleep, You time". All in that order. She also highly recommends a pacifier at 1 month. It worked for me and my daughter.
2006-06-25 02:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by 10 pts for me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to these people. Crying is NOT good for babies. It releases a stress hormone called cortisol that can alter the way their brains develop. Babies cry for a reason, their wants are their needs. If she wants to be held then she NEEDS to be held. Babies who have their needs met grow into more independent, self confident adults. Try a baby carrier or sling, that will free up your arms and allow you to get things done while still attending to your child's needs. Mommies have to multi-task. When she's a few months older she will want to be put down so she can play, providing you have met her needs and she is confident that when she asks for you she will have you.
2006-06-24 12:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by all_my_armour_falling_down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, I had/have the same problem. My daughter is 3 months old and though now she does play for a small period of time by herself if I put her in the baby gym, mostly she wants to be held and wants attention. I had the help of my mom and dad, and husband when he was home, but now, no one. But back to you, you should listen to all the advice you get, but see what works for you and the baby. It may not be clear right now, but in some time, you'll get the hang of it.
2006-06-24 13:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by icee85_76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it can be hard but let her cry for a while before she gets even more use to you picking her up all of the time. Crying is healthy for babies' lungs too. :) Swadling helps alot too....(wrapping the baby in their blanket tightly so they feel like theyre being held), they sleep better that way too. Also, only if your havin sleeping problems with her too, swadle her in her blanket and put a peice of clothing of yours with your sent on it near her. I read that somewhere and it does help.
2006-06-24 12:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she does get to sleep, gently set her in her crib (or whatever she is supposed to sleep in). Then get some work done. When you have to use the restroom or do something when she is awake, try putting her in a baby swing. It helped my kids. Hope this helps some.
2006-06-24 12:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by Twin Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋