how do you deal with a spouse that pays child support that is excessive and defends his ex when you bring it u

Answer 1

I would be wondering more about why he DEFENDS the EX when you bring it up..not the dollar amount spent on the kids!! If he cant see your side of things and can only defend her, then he isnt over her...and you need to realize you are going to be playing second fiddle to her for the rest of your life. You need to decide if thats what you really want!

Answer 2

Child support is set up and mandated thru the courts.. so it is never EXCESSIVE.. a child has a lot of needs and he's responsible for half of those. You've made the decision to be in a relationship with a father, you need to let him BE a father.. and maybe he isn't defending the ex, he's defending the CHILD because you're interfering with his relationship and ability to parent that child.

Answer 3

You either deal with it, and be happy that your guy truly cares about his kids enough to want to give them the best that he can give them, and know that the chances are great that if you two were to have children that he'd probably display the same type of responsibility, or you get out! Is this really about the child support? Or do you feel that he may still be involved with his ex? Hope that you'll come to a happy medium. Good luck..

Answer 4

Don't!!! My ex paid excesive child support also, for a son from a previous marriage. I think they feel guilty because they can't be there and this makes them feel like their doing the manly thing and supporting their child. It will only cause fights between you, so unless a big financial event like his job loss occurs, just leave it be.