My boyfriend is black and I'm white what can I do about our parents? It's supposed to only matter about my happiness right?
2006-06-24 11:29:53 · 11 answers · asked by D's gurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
show them that he is a good person and how well he treats you, thats really all you can do, maybe if they see those sides to him they will lessen up on the issue alittle bit and not judge him by the color of his skin, but by his character and as an individual, if not then remember that you will always love your parents and will want them to accept whatever life choices you make, but they wont always like what you choose and it is afterall your life and you and you alone have to account for your own happiness....*good luck*
2006-06-24 11:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First it depends on your age. When I was in jr. high I started seeing a mexican. My parents were both racist, but they were divorced. I was forever grounded, they (my mom) thought that would keep me from seeing him. I'm not telling you to go against your parents, if your under 18. If your over 18 then it's your life, live it how you want. I would sneak to go see him, and somehow always seemed to get caught. I feel for you. I think racism is wrong and senseless, but it is a part of our world. Follow your heart, just make sure it's worth it. I've seen ppl disown they're own kids because of their beliefs. I've been there. But I still chose my own path and paid my own way. I have a son who is 1/2 mex.. And I wouldn't trade him for the world!!! My father came around little by little and got to know my son before he died 6 months ago (my father). And he (my father) even told his gf that he was proud of me, for the way I was raising my son. Not easy words from a man who (was) racist! I'm not saying that before he died he was no longer racist. But he accepted my son. My mother is a different story. She loves my son, but yet picks at him from time to time. Don't know if it's bcuz of his race, or maybe she's just jealous. Anyway, if it's worth it go for it. You need to make your own happiness, cuz no one else can do it for you! GOODLUCK!!!
2006-06-24 18:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by leslie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The most important thing to do is follow your heart. Do whatever you want and stop thinking about everybody wants. You have to make your own path and not your parents. If you really love him that much, fight for him no matter what. Your parents will soon understand why.
2006-06-24 19:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by one-of-a-kind 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well I am Black (African-Native American to be specific) and I am highly interested in a White girl (Irish and German to be specific) and we are very close friends, my mom is somewhat racist and doesn't want me to marry a White woman but in the end it is YOUR decision, not your parents or your partner's parents. You are right, it is all about what you think or feel is good for your life and what makes you happy. Hope he is the right one for you, reguardless of skin tone and texture.
2006-06-24 18:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by M.A.T. 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Of course it's about your own happiness! The fact that your parents don't like your boyfriend shouldn't make you change your opinion. Has he done anything to offend your parents (besides being black) or hurt you or anything? Present your case to your parents like that. They can't be *that* narrowminded.
2006-06-24 18:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by Illastic 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
To some extent - you have to make your own decisions...(and if you believe within yourself that it can work...then make it work...)
Of course if you break up it'll only give your parents more ammunition...
Also - sit with your parents and ask them to rationally think and list why they are racist? This also gives you an idea as to how to handle their questions if/when you introduce your b/friend...
Maybe convince them to have an opened mind...
You've got a struggle...
2006-06-24 18:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by du boiz 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't jump the gun honey. Sit down with your parents and ask them why they are concerned about the relationship and dating.
It may be a valid reason other than race...they may see something that you don't because you are so in love. Ask them, really listen, and then decide.
2006-06-24 20:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Of course. It's about what makes you happy. If being with him makes you happy then good for you. I'm not sure what to tell you about your rents though. All I can say is kudos to you for having your own views and not accepting theirs.
2006-06-24 18:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by ~Mother Of Angels~ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
in today's world u have to be your own person. we cannot leave off of our parents views. if u really like this person then do u .
2006-06-24 18:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by starrbound 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Adult society is not ready to accept your relationship. They will see you as white trash.
2006-06-24 18:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋