We been together for a year now and we fell in love with eachother. and we even plan on having kids and gettin married. I havent seen her in a year. I live in Hollywood Florida and she lives in Kenner Louisana and i wish everyday that I could be by herside. I been hangin on for that long and it gets harder not being with her each day. We trust eachother to. But what should I do.
2006-06-24 10:54:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had a long distance relationship when I lived in New York, my bf lived in Maryland. We wrote to each other alot and called each other once a week. We also would drive to see each other every other weekend. eventually we moved in together, and got married. We stuck it out because we loved each other, and now we have been married for 18 years.
I suggest you try to travel to see each other at least once a month.
2006-06-24 10:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by ~•over the moon•~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance does make your heart grow fonder...
Just a few words of encouragement...
I had a long distance relationship for about 7-8 years...
We were quite young... highschool, college, etc...
It wasn't easy. We broke up a couple of times and then
wound up back together. We just couldn't be appart because we were and still are each other's best friend.
Plus, we were living in different countries. We only met each other about 2-3 times a year.
Today, we've been married for almost 6 years and have a beautiful 3 year old son.
Just hang in there!
2006-06-24 11:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mannie-mannie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sincerely, it's time to do some soul searching! I think that you need to just step out on faith, and go get your girl, before it's too late! I was to in a long distance relationship, it was very trying, so we decided that it would be best that I move to where my sweetheart was and it was the best thing that either of us could have done. It is really working out great! There were some kinks that had to be ironed out, because we meshed two lives together, but we hung in there, and persevered, and now life is great. I'm complete! Good luck to you.
2006-06-24 11:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by jusb4dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break up. If moving to a mutual location is not an option then break up until you two can be together. If it's meant to be she will come back. That's what I did. My finance and I broke up when I went to school in another state. At first it seemed like a mistake....but I ran into him again my last semester in college. We been together ever since.. Now we have 2 kids and a wedding to plan
2006-06-24 11:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by Teisha M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is an emotion that will last as long as you do. If you think this relation will last (And it should if both of you are so far apart and still trust each other) go for it. Time apart is always good but if ya'll are talking about marriage and you love her Stop talking and be about it. Actions speak louder then words. Then you and her can always be together!
2006-06-24 11:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by AnneBGood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i went through the exact same thing ....WOW ...ok so this guy i liked lived in utah .. i lived in oklahome @ the time .. we talked on the phone every night for 9mon and were so .. crazy about eachother .. well ...i went to utah .. and i left .. when i got home .. about 4mon later we stoped talking .. it was really hard .. but we talk some not as much bc wer both know its just to hard being 17 & 18 and to have a long distance relastionship .. we still talk as best friends and we both know we care .. but ... it is hard ... of you are older .. and are able to move and you know she is the one .. move .. were she is .. i know that sounds crazyyy but if you know she is the one .. dont lose it .. you can always find a new job but you cant replace your soulmate .. i wish you luck hunni
2006-06-24 11:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Ironicical Dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! we have alot if common. first off let me start out that i live in miami, fl. my boyfriend lives in newark,nj. its been 2 years and a half since ive been with him. we plan on getting married also and for the kids when were ready :) i wish that i can be with him the same way that you can be with your girl. its been hard since day one. youve only been through a year but theres so much to come. if you truly both love each other than its worth the wait. why would you want to leave her if at the end you can be with the one who makes you most happy? i know its hard trust me it is. him and me get to see each other only when we get a chance but at the end itll be worth it. next summer he plans on moving down here so we can finally be together. we trust each other as you and her do to. to me hes my best friend, my boy boyfriend, my husband in the future, my everything. hold on tight to her and tell her itll be worth the wait. one day you two will get to be together same way as i with him. trust me theres times where we cry many times a day and it hurts. in the end itll be worth it. dont leave her just make the relationship stronger and have lots of communication. i wish you luck :) email or message me if anything
2006-06-24 11:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very romantic. Maybe if you write a letter to her and tell her exactly what you told me, and others I know that she'll try to be by your side too! You two love each other, and you both want to spend the rest of your life together, so why not? Just try to get your wish. Good Luck!
2006-06-24 10:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by freikinder3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. this month i just came out of a relationship EXACTLY like this one. i live in new york and he lives in florida. we planned on getting married and having kids too. we visited each other every 4-5 months. i guess guys cant hold on too long. we were together for 13 months until he decided that he couldnt hold on any longer. he needed me there physically by his side everyday. and now im hurt because he broke up with me without me even doing anything wrong. i didnt cheat on him or anything like that. it's really going to hurt her a lot because im still hurt. still wondering y he left. it made me confused. if he held on for 13 months, y couldnt he hold on any longer. well, he just couldnt. it was making him even more stressed than he already was. to this day, im still fighting for our relationship. we're friends right now and i still tell him that i love him and i wanna be with him.
he would move here to ny, but he has to help his mom pay rent coz they just bought a new house in florida. if he didnt have to do that, he wouldve moved here already. and i cant move to florida coz the school there arent for me. i finish college in 8 months and he said that after that, we can TRY to get back together. everyday i pray to God that me and him will get back together and his feelings wont change for me. but only God knows if we're meant to be and only time will tell.
what i suggest u do is u move to louisiana or she moves to florida. that's the only option you guys have right now. if u cant, then take a break. if it's hard for u to keep holding on now, then u should end it right now before ur feelings get stronger and stronger. and the longer u wait to break up with her, the more it'll hurt her. i hope this helps. if u have anymore questions about this, email me at ladiisooswt@yahoo.com
2006-06-24 11:08:36 · answer #9 · answered by hataz_envii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't been together for a year. sometimes we focus on what is suppose to be normal, a gurl by our side and all that, but if you truly love her, then wait it out. what is normal?, our society use to think that gay people were abnormal, but look at it now, they even got rights and shyt. do what will play out for the future and don't worry about wasting your life, you are still growing as an inDUHvidual even without your g/f at your side. get a webcam and look at each other. she is having it tougher than you are, gurls like that touchy feely shyt so she is really doing without. good luck.
2006-06-24 11:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋