I am struggling on telling him because I need to make arrangements (electicity, rent...), but he has not wanted to talk about me wanting to move. He would just rather end the discussion by yelling or going out for a smoke. He does not want to make any compromises in the living arrangements. We have mold, and several plumbing problems that our landlord has not taken care of. Has anybody been in this kind of situation? I need some advice.
2006-06-24 10:28:05 · 21 answers · asked by xicka 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leaving your husband over landlord problems? that seems pretty petty to just walk out on your husband and marriage. You could really be having much bigger problems than that in your marraige.
Why don't you pick up the phone and call your landlord and say "Hey, Take of these issues we are having." You are completely capable of doing that yourself.
You also need to sit him down and talk to him and if he gets up tell him no, that you two need to talk. Because sometimes us guys don't really see that there are issues and he is thinking that this phaze will pass, of you wanting to leave. Also ask him what's bothering him that he turns it into and arguement and also isn't trying to maintain your home. He could be having issues also with something.
2006-06-24 11:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by dean_moriarty00 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. Rather than make a grand decision to end the marriage, what happened to separation? If you are truly tired of all the chaos that takes place at home, go find peace of mind.
Because of the pain and frustration, you have determined to leave and not return. Have you ever thought about leaving for a season to see whether or not anything will change?
Screaming at each other and learning to hate one another is not profitable. What about the next husband, will you do the same thing? Do not go to extremes unless he is sexually or physically abusing you. Also, what is your part in this? Are you really the innocent one?
2006-06-24 10:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Richard Stapleton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same situation. Plumbing problems for years. Electrical problems for years. He left yesterday at 7pm and has been gone now for 23 hours. I don't know where he is. I plan to leave in the fall. When will I tell him?? Right before I walk out. If I told him now, life would be hell till I left. Best of luck to you.
2006-06-24 10:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by I love winter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your just set on leaving him and not working out problems. I'm not sure I would just leave because of landlord problems... why can't you take care of the landlord problems? I think this is probably your excuse to just leave. If you really wanted to stay than you would find ways of getting these things taken care of.
Who Knows... Maybe I'm wrong...
2006-06-24 10:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cant face reality that you are leaving him he must have a lot of angry built up in him and he has no one to talk to about the problem you guy are going though and he doesn't know how to handle of loseing you that why he doesn't want to talk about it he lost he cant deal with reality right know he just want to escape it and not to deal with it so if i were you i would just get up and leave and leave him a note and take care of your rent and electric over the phone ounce you find your self a other place to live.and dint tell any body were you are moving to in less they are your close friend so your husband wont find out were you are at.
2006-06-24 11:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going throw. I left my husband a year ago. I didn't tell him until the day I left him because he would have hurt me if I told him I was lefing before hand. I 'm now divorced for him. That is the best thing I ever did. I would what until you get ready to leave him and tell him then.
2006-06-24 10:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by magickgirl_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know how dangerous your husband can be. If you feel safe tell him in advance, else tell him on the morning of the move, but first make sure there are people - other men around to protect you from his expected anger.
Good luck.
2006-06-24 10:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of it the best u can and just leave. If he is staying then u need to get any of the house bills out of ur name.
2006-06-24 10:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lookinstr8over 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah girl...we're in the same boat. I'm trying to decide the same thing, but I have 3 kids in this "boat". If I were you...I'd leave without notice...because if he loved you at all he would try to make you happy...not avoid how you feel. Good luck girl....I hope the best for ya.
2006-06-24 10:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by Candy69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont know what to do, then I would suggest leavin when he is not there then when you know he is home call him up or drop a note off at the door letting him know that you are gone for good.
2006-06-24 10:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by Piper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋