What would you do if your spouse cheated and won't agree to a divorce and threatens suicide?

Answer 1

I don't think anyone here can give you he advice you need.
First off, infidelity will create a strain on the marriage that may take a lot of time, effort, and hurt to work through. Communication and hopefully some professional help will help on that one.

If you are already looking at divorce as on option then you must seek legal help and hopefully the help of some local family and/or friends. Don't try to go through this alone.

Finally, it seems the situation is getting more out of control with the introduction of the suicide threats. Never dismiss any suicide threat with apathy or worse yet, with challenge. At the same time do not let it trap you into a situation where you do not want to be.

Hope you find some help. Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

Don't allow the spouse to trap you into a marriage you don't want to be in, especially if the spouse was the one who messed up. Most likely, spouse is just threatening suicide to keep you from going through with leaving him. If not, then call a counselor or even 911 if you think they're really going to do it. My ex husband committed suicide ( not because of anything marriage related, had issues with other deaths in his family), and he didn't tell anyone about it. I'm not the final word on this subject, but it's been my experience that when and if a person is going to commit suicide, they'll either leave a note, or just do it. They don't need an audience. I'm thinking you may be able to even consult a lawyer and explain that spouse won't agree to divorce and is threatening suicide. believe it or not, that is a form of mental abuse, and it's downright selfish, especially considering spouse wouldn't be in this predicament had he/she not cheated.

Answer 3

In some states you can have someone committed to a mental health institution when they present a physical danger to themselves or others. In other states you can have somone committed for being just plain wacko. At any rate, file for divorce (the court might force marriage counseling first or order a period of separation before granting a final divorce). Your spouse is an adult (I'm assuming) and should by now have coping skills. If you're really concered about suicide have them committed. Then file for divorce with the spouses emotional/mental instability as reason to fear for your own safety.

Answer 4

Most people use the suicide excuse to keep the person trapped! I have no tolerance for cheating no matter the excuses. If this person loves you so much that they are willing to kill them self if they don't have you then WHY DID YOU CHEAT?? Life is too Short to play mind games. You need to be strong. move on and find someone more mentally stable.

Answer 5

if they're 4 real convince them to try counseling and attend with them cause i do care about them rather we be together or not, then get the divorce if you still feel the same, cause the last thing you want haunting you is that they told you, you did nothing and now they're gone, but if you think they're just saying it for the heck of it , go ahead and leave cause that's a sign of future problems anyhow, they aren't too mature, and it'll frustrate you that they like to play games when its time to be serious. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I'd tell the spouse if killing themselves is what it's going to take to get over the fact that I'm leaving and not putting up with their sorry *** cheating then so be it. How they gonna do it? Use a knife? Maybe hang themselves. Hell I got knives and ropes and gasoline and matches. Just let me know and I'll see what I can do.

Answer 7

It sounds like he is trying to control you with the suicide threat. If you want the divorce, get it. You are not responsible for his actions and do not need to feel guilty for wanting to get out of a bad relationship. You need to take care of yourself in this situation.

Answer 8

Most people that threaten suicide don't go through with it.
Either way, get a good insurance on him and make sure he won't be able to frame you if he does commit suicide.

Answer 9

If he threatens sucide then 9 out of 10 chances he wont do it. Tell him you cant forgive him and you want a divorce and he if threatens it then tell him you will miss him dearly but that is his decision to take the easy way out.

Answer 10

Hand him a knife. Make it so much easier than divorce. Make sure he has a will that donates his body to science...no funeral costs. Trust that he is trying to control your behavior and relying on your sympathy to not leave him...where was all this concern before he stepped out on you? Again, hand him a knife and let him go to it....you will find the threats to suddenly stop. Just make sure to be standing at the exit door when you do this...you make have to make a dash for it when his methods of controlling you fail.