Is it cheating if you are separated?

Question

My husband and I were seperated for some months and then decieded to work things out. A few months after we got back together he told me that he had slept with someone and got her pregnant. Is it considered cheating if we were seperated?

Answer 1

I don't think it is cheating.

Answer 2

Gee, a separation, a girl friend, and now child support for the next 18 years..all that in one bundle. It isn't cheating, but I have serious doubts about your sanity. Trust that he didn't just sleep with someone...he was quite active while in bed. And although that is not the issue, that child has become a big one. You will see at least 750 per month out of his paycheck, maybe more for a life time. Every month, you will be reminded of this, over and over...are you sure you are up to this load??? Be very careful here, you future is on the line, not mine. Mine is in enough doo doo as I write.

Answer 3

It is considered cheating because he was still married, no mater how separated you were. You go out with someone else only when you are free/divorced. When you separate, there is always a good chance of getting back together, therefore you keep yourself away from anyone else until you know for sure. It's up to you now to forgive him or leave/divorce him for good. You need to talk to him and ask if he loves her; is she as important to him as you are, now that she is having his baby. You can decide what to do from his answer.

Answer 4

No, it is not considered cheating b/c you all were separated at the time; however, it may cause problems between the two of you in the future b/c she will always be a part of his life. Why did he wait so long to tell you that he was expecting another baby?

Answer 5

Nope! When you split up... that's it! You're no longer in the picture and you're on your own again... just like "single"!
When you're married AND together, there's no excuse! But when you're separated, there's no obligation!
I don't believe that it's scriptural, but it's my firm opinion!
Learn to get along; quit being stubborn and self-centered... both of you! No one's perfect and EVERYONE has flaws and makes mistakes... get over it! That's what marriage is all about... learning to accept one another, no matter what! Every marriage faces the same challenges... every single one, without exception!
The sooner you all learn this, the better off the marriage will be!

Answer 6

When you are seperated, you aren't really a couple at that time. It's as if you were single again. Therefore, you can date whoever you wish. If you weren't seperated at the time when your spouse impregnanted another woman, then it would've been an affair.

Answer 7

I don't think so...If you all were separated at the time that he slept with the other person...

He should have told you when you all first got back together though...keeping secrets is just the same as ling to you in my opinion.

Answer 8

I don't think so.. being seperated is pretty much like waiting to file for divorce most of the time.. ur lucky u didn't get divorced..
It sounds like you are about to feel really awkward being his wife considering shes preggos..

Answer 9

seperated like getting a divorce? I would say no not tequically
but I wouldnt keep him

Answer 10

when you seperate from someone with the intention of getting back later it is concidered cheating, you are only seperated just to take a break from one another(which i s dumb) but you did serperate with the intent to get back together. he cheated and you should be with hium. he cheated serperated or not.

Answer 11

Nope