my 17 yr old sister lost her baby & her dumb azz BF blames me for it. The doc said that she lost the baby because of too much stress or something. my sister's BF says it is my fault because she & i get into a lot of fights. But i do not think i am the root of her stress because she is only 17 yrs old & she had to think about how she was going to make a living & that could of caused her 2 stress out.
yesterday she ran into he bathroom & started bleeding out the baby in the bathtub & she was in a lot of pain & having severe cramps. she was crying & her BF got upset with ME & said "shes bleeding out the fcking baby because of u!"
& i thought he was going to hit me or something because he was really pissed & yelling into my face. & then he pushed me. i was upset so i pushed him back.
i feel nervous around him because i feel like he could be abusive. i wanted to talk 2 my mom to & have him kicked out but i dont know if "pushing" counts as really being abusive.
2006-06-24 09:36:17 · 11 answers · asked by Jam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
FYI limendoz i did not yell & him he yelled at me first. i pushd him back in fear of getting hurt. self defense duhhhhh & thank god u aint momma
2006-06-24 10:26:11 · update #1
You need to get them(sister,boyfriend,yourself)and your mom together in a room.Set them down and tell them your true feelings.Tell your sister that the fighting is going to have to stop and bring up all the details of the pushing.Let them know that this is un called for and let them know that you want to live a calm home life.If he is the abussive type of person,then he will probably get a little irritated over the fact that you have brought the whole family into this.Then your mom will see the real him and want him out herself.If this does not work and you are not comftorable with him being there then find a close relative or friend that you can move in with and tell them you are going to do it.
Remain calm and keep a strong heart child.
Good luck and god bless you.
2006-06-24 09:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by jlthomas75844 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If your sister was "bleeding out the fcking baby" and the only thing that you and her boyfriend could think of doing was to yell at each other and allow that to escalate to pushing...Damn!...both of you need to get kicked out. You are both selfish and immature and need to step back. Just be glad I'm not your mom.
FYI: Stress will not cause miscarriage! Doctors will name it as part of a list of possible reasons because 99.99% of the time they have no clue.
2006-06-24 16:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by limendoz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My deepest sympathy for your sister's loss. You were not the cause, period. The bf sounds very immature. You need to tell your mother what is going on and your fears about this person. Doctors don't know for certainty of what cause the vast majority of miscarriage and fetal deaths. Tell your sister how sorry you are for her losing the baby and encourage her to join support groups for those who suffered loss(es). The bf could be lashing out his grief in anger but all of you need to learn how to get along better. Good luck, dear.
2006-06-24 16:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im asuming you all live together?? pushing is a form of abuse yes and he has no business pushing anybody if he wanted your sister to be stress free why dont he get a job and find her own place to be relax...... you tell your mom that you feel treaten around him and that you want him out. and try to not argue with him because he can hurt you if you all start to argue you get up and leave the room or the house go for a walk.
2006-06-24 16:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately talk to your mom. Anytime someone makes you feel uncomfortable you need to let your support system know i.e. your parents. There are so many reasons people miscarry I'm sure it's no ones fault. Hopefully it was just the stress and fear talking and everything will be okay.
2006-06-24 16:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by lady25mo2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often, when really really tough things happen , people just sort of explode. They just need to blame something or somebody other than themselves, especially if they feel really guilty about something they did. Try to let it go. If he is usually a nice person to you and your sis, maybe cut him some slack this time. Make sure your sis gets medical attention.
2006-06-24 16:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone puts their hands on you, it is abuse. Yes, tell your Mom. He sounds like he has lots of anger. The way is sounds, he causes the stress. He had no right to blame you. Talk to your Mom and see what she has to say.
2006-06-24 17:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The minute he touches you without your permission, he is being abusive. If he was any type of real man he would have a J-O-B, marry your sis and have their own place. Talk to your mom & get him thrown out!
2006-06-24 17:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by Rob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey didn't I see you guys on Jerry Springer?
And you went after she lost the baby you found him having sex with your mother and you and bill Bob went and sacraficed hamsters...
2006-06-24 16:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by moonspawnhotmailcom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a 5 sum
2006-06-24 16:40:05 · answer #10 · answered by ny_designer211 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋