He has asked me to marry him but will not set a firm date. We have even agreed to go to Vegas but he always has an excuse why we cant go on dates I pick but will not sit down and discuss dates with me. He shows no interest in saying the words I DO! DId he ask me, so I would be wearing a ring and belong to him, without him having the intentions of following through? All his family keeps asking when we are getting married!!
2006-06-24 09:31:29 · 12 answers · asked by Lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have asked him several times what the deal is. He always says it is hard to find the right date to have his kids (from a another marriage) and parents altogether in one place. My response is .. it is our day; we plan it, they come or they dont.
2006-06-24 09:46:08 · update #1
what does he say when you ask him why he doesn't want to set a date? if you haven't asked thats what you need to do, then depending on what his answer is i'd think twice, well maybe 3 times about whether to marry him or not. do you really want to get into a lifelong relationship with someone when you can't even accomplish something as simple as choosing a date for the wedding? and since you are asking us instead of him i'd say you definitely haven't done enough work to prep for the life that comes after the wedding, yes that does happen, it all just starts at the wedding that isn't the conclusion of anything.
2006-06-24 09:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You need to sit down with him and pinpoint exactly what the problem is with him committing to a wedding date. Don't let him use his children and other family matters as an excuse for not being able to set a date.
Perhaps he is not ready, or thought he would be ready by now. Ask him questions so you can make a decision as to if he is really serious about entering into the state of marriage.
2006-06-24 20:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he just asked you with no intention of following through. it seems to be he wanted to ask you to either keep you hanging on or use you for whatever he wants. either way if he can't or won't set a date it's time to move on, because if he loves you like he says he does he would find the time to set a date.
Good Luck whatever happens.
2006-06-24 16:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him im ready to set a date for the wedding and if he keeps giving you the run around it means he aint ready..... take the ring and give it back.. tell him if you aint ready to get married im not ready to be an ninety year old engaged woman ok. set the date or we are friends and my finger stay free to find someone who will set dates for weddings ok. cant be engaged for ever.its called an ultimatum give to him and take your chance,life is too short for him to be wasting your time.if he only asking to keep you just for him that is not fair,.because your fellings count too.good luck.
2006-06-24 16:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your gut feeling is correct or maybe he asked because you where on top of him about it.whats the big deal if the relationship is really good then why get married .but if its really important to you then tell him that if he doesnt want to get married then you gotta find someone that does and if he really loves you then he will if he doesnt then he isnt the one for you anyways
2006-06-24 16:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously use caution.
The red flag for me sounds like this guy, though you love him, is a control freak.
In his eyes, it's not up to you...you'll marry him when he's damned good and ready.
Please use caution in this situation.
2006-06-24 16:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to marry this guy..tell him set a date and keep it or hit the road Jack..don't let him keep stringing you along........
2006-06-24 16:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants you to be tied to him without making
the committment himself. lots of guys want that. my
advise is dump him. if pressure does eventually get him
to the altar, a reluctant groom turns into a very bad
husband.
2006-06-24 16:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by agedlioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably he just scare to say it or don't know what to say exactly does he shine,,, talk to him or try to put words into his mouth probably not his fault just shine and quiet
2006-06-24 16:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by emma882 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that means is that you should not marry him.
2006-06-24 16:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by MSV_MGT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋