I want to know about the sex lives of overweight women.?

Question

I was wondering how many overweight women (50 lbs. or more) are enjoying active and fulfilling sex lives, especially if you are single. How do you deal with the self-esteem issues related to being overweight and be comfortable in the bedroom?

Answer 1

I am a very overweight woman. When I enjoy sex, I sort of think of myself as a societal subversive. American society is the worst when it comes to body size. A woman is supposed to be rail thin. A man can be any size he wants, but his woman better be skinny. Well, if you look at all the societies in the world, that's really not the norm. Many societies, past and present, look at women with a sort of mystical view; the world is round, so a woman should be round too.

Personally, my sex life is wonderful. Sure, there are certain positions I can't get into, or positions where it's uncomfortable, but good sex is not about acrobatics. Good sex is not about how good you look, how tightly you can tangle your limbs, or how many times you can change positions in an hour. Good sex is all in your mind. I simply let go of all the hurtful programming that society implanted, I let go of all the stereotypes of fat women, and I just be me. I enjoy myself, and I enjoy my partner. No, I don't look like Cindy Crawford, but I don't have to. Sex is not about competing with your partner's past flings. If I am with someone and he brings up his past loves, or tries to compare me to someone else, I drop him and move on. People like that are not concerned for my wellbeing. People like that have such low self-esteem that they pull other people down so they will feel better.

As for actual techniques, I find that doggy style is my favorite position. I just don't like it as much on my back, and I don't like to be on top because I have really bad balance (My boyfriend laughed at me when I told him I was afraid I'd squish him. He had me be on top that night just to prove that he couldn't be squished.). On my side can be really fun for a kick, but I vastly prefer the rear-entry method (doggy style). We enjoy oral sex (giving and receiving), and we enjoy toys and games. We do everything a skinny couple does, just with modification.

Answer 2

Sex is about the mind. One assumes that if you are having sex with another individual that it is mutual. Yes overweight women have active sex lives. Although television makes it seem like being overwwight is a life sentence of being alone. This is not the case. Many heavy women enjoy sex lives that are active and adventurous.

Self esteem is a mind thing. There are plenty of slim women who still have issues with their bodies and do not enjoy the freedom of fully being engaged in the sex act. Sure some heavy women feel self-conscious but most people feel self-conscious at one time or another.

The key to great sex is loving you, all of you no matter what your size and concentrating on the act and the sensation and not being conscious of what someone who doesn't even know you might think about.

Actually that's the key to pretty much everything.

Answer 3

Funny, I've never been self concious of being with someone even though I'm overweight...I figure they know what I look like & if they've chosen to be with me, why worry about that? I have enough on my plate without adding that additional stress to it. That being said, I suppose if I was willing to settle for just anything & anybody I could have all the sex (with a partner) that I wanted but I'm not willing to do that. That being said, when I don't have a partner I have an active & fulfilling sex life with myself...its the safest sex around!

Answer 4

I am an overweight women of 300 lbs. loving sex with my man whom is not overweight. We enjoy each other, any position I can not get in we modify to a new postition which is even better. We can go all night . No rest just because your over weight. You rest so you can get it again. People have there own opinion of other people, some good and some are bad, we just over look the bad when ever possible. Besides when I am having sex I forget that I am a big woman. That's the best time to feel good about yourself. My man makes me feel good about myself. I advise every big women to make the best of your sex life, and forget about the world outside your heart. Let your two hearts beat as one and enjoy it.....

Answer 5

Its hard sometimes, but when you are with an understanding partner its a whole lot easier. My issue is my stomach, I hate it and sometimes it gets in the way. Also the weight makes certain positions hard to do or impossible. They are things a larger woman can do/tolerate that the smaller chicks can't handle. The important thing is to concentrate on your abilities not the weaknesses and exude confidence. My fiance says theres nothing more gorgeous than a confident woman. I'm 5'7 and 280 and he's 6'2 and 230. Perfect your strong points and accentuate the positive girlfriend!

Answer 6

Even if you are overweight, simply going to the gym can improve self-esteem. I have body-image issues as well, but I still make sure I exercise, try to eat right and use a penis health creme every day. All these things make me feel good because I know that I am least trying to improve my body and my health. My sex life has improved as a result of all of this. Hope this helps and good luck.

Answer 7

I am not single, but I am overweight. My husband makes me feel beautiful. We are very happy in the bedroom.

Answer 8

I've seen several websites with morbidly obese women enjoying all kinds of freaky sex. They seem to enjoy it rather well. Maybe you should check them out, I hear they pay pretty good.

Answer 9

im sure there doing fine

Answer 10

i think over weight woman or fat wamen may
suffer alot in bed while having sexs with there men, fat woman cant stay to long for injoying
in sex? so she have to lose her weight or lose her man?
so what will you choose?