2006-06-24 08:48:34 · 15 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sit her down and tell her she needs to embrace the positive things in life rather than the negative. life is too short. she should enjoy it while it lasts.
2006-06-24 08:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by efraevo 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's time for a counseling session. Maybe communication between you two is the root of this problem. I mean, Is she just negative or is she rational. I don't mean to put you down, but where are you in all this, and maybe she is just being rational about things like money, when you think it's ok to spend freely. Really, it's gotta be deeper than this. That's why I think you guys need to get this out in front of a therapists, that will help you see the situation in a clearer light, and see where this negativity is stemming from.
You love her after all, don't you? So you wanna go there to see what you can do about it, cause you love, her and cause you want her to be happy, right?
I wish you lots of luck, hope you guys can find the same level again to be happy.
2006-06-24 09:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile a lot, say "yes dear" a lot, nod our head a lot, and NEVER listen to anything she says. I cannot abide being around people who are negative. Just be very careful you do not fall into the same hole...negativity is very contagious. I do have one tiny little question for you...did you not see any of this before you got married???where were you when the courting was going on..or perhaps this was an arranged marriage?
2006-06-24 08:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason for her to be negative? Sometimes men force women to be negative. Women as a group are much more positive than men, so a bit of introspection might be a good thing.
2006-06-24 08:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her get into counseling so that she can begin to see the glass as half full rather than half empty all the time,, therapy is always the shortest way to fix things like this.
She may well be suffering from depression and the therapist will figure that out too and help her get proper meds.
2006-06-24 08:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a book called the five love languages and in the book says if you know what your spouses love language is and keep the love tank filled it will make for a better relationship. I would check out the book. Sounds to me like you need to find out what her love language is and keep her feeling loved.
2006-06-24 08:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by queenie_the_big_pushen_meanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about what your part is in her negative outlook on things...either she was negative when you met and married her or something about your life with her has made her feel that way. if she was like that when you married her then why are you asking and if not what is your role in this?
2006-06-24 09:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not know she's a negative person...
Talk with her...it might even surprise her to find out she is...then perhaps if she's willing to change; she will.
However, you married her knowing she was negative...some never change their spots...
2006-06-24 08:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she's negative all the time, and tell her that it's been bringing you down lately.
2006-06-24 08:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by I-Eat-Paint-Chips 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's this cool book called "how to hug a porcupine" that teaches you how to deal with difficult personalities.. it was written by Dr. John Lewis Lund. It might help.
2006-06-24 08:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by chariot804 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋