Guys, you know this girl that you been going out with for a while. You love her more than anybody or thing in the world. You find out that she can't have kids though. So you still can have sex but just won't be able to have any kids with her. Would you still marry a girl even though you know the two of you won't be able to have kids? The only way to have kids is by adopting.
2006-06-24 08:38:04 · 13 answers · asked by jacoboctober11 4 in Health ➔ Men's Health
If you are wanting kids more than you are wanting her then you do not truly love her. Loving someone is accepting them for who they are both inside and out. Accepting one's strengths as well as their weaknesses.
2006-06-24 08:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Superman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If she loves you as much as you love her, go for it! As others have said, you could go the surrogate mother route, or adopt and help a child out together. My adopted friends have always referred to their parents as "mom and dad", and only really wanted to know more about their birth parents for health concerns. In addition, I have a couple of friends that just celebrated their twelfth anniversary, and they are the only couple that has stayed married among my friends. She went through menopause at the age of seventeen, and they have never had children. I really believe that a lot of their success is due to the fact that they don't have any children. I am the last male in line for my family name, but at 36 I am still searching for the right woman, and still not sure of having kids. It is a very important issue to you, however, and if she wants to adopt and/or is open to the surrogate mother idea, you've found your lady. Don't let the woman of your dreams slip through your fingers when there are options, albeit not exactly the one you would prefer, open to you two. When I was younger, I made the mistake of letting go of a few great women because of small details, and the older you get the more you realize that perfection is impossible. Just be sure to have great communication with your lady before you pop the question; be positive that she wants to raise a family as much as you do. Good Luck!!
2006-06-24 09:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by Spillski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her, then it shouldn't matter. You and her should find out why she can't have kids and then go from there. You could do a surrogate mother and like you said, adoption. There are many, many kids who need a home and if you are loving people than that would be great. Don't let that be something that makes you decide not to marry her. That is a flaw with her and we all have them!
2006-06-24 08:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not A guy, but have an answer for you.
Do you love her? Does she love you?
Do both of you love kids?
If you do, there are thousands of kids who need parents.
They need love and understanding.
The only thing is only pick the amount of children you can afford.
And give yourselves time to become close before making that decision. Even couples who can have children should wait at least a year or two, to give them time to learn each other, and start your growth as a family.
2006-06-24 08:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were able to have kids of your own with her, then you'd get to watch bits and pieces of both your personalities in the child as he/she grows. But, if you adopt, you'd see a strangers personality develope within the child. If that is okay with you, then marry your sweetheart and then adopt kids if ya wanna raise kids.
2006-06-24 08:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by Yahoo answer dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, becuase the world is made up of many different kinds of families. And if you truly love her it doesn't matter. I have a cousin that was adopted but to me he is my blood cousin. I think families are wonderful and can adapt to an adoptive member of the family. So I say "GO FOR IT AND MAY GOD BLESS YOUR RELATIONSHIP".
2006-06-24 09:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Intern 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It simply depends on how much you want to be a natural father. Personally if I had a spouse who could not have children, but I loved him/her, I would marry him/ her, because I don't really see myself having children.
2006-06-24 08:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you marrying the woman for who she is or are you marrying any potential offspring that are half yours anyway?
2006-06-24 08:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is love and everything else after is secondary and can be dealt with
2006-06-24 08:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by Brozink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a lucky bastard. at least you have a girl who adores you. as for me, no girls want me. consider yourself very lucky already.
2006-06-25 02:23:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋