White men with Black women, why is that seem so scarce?

Question

While searching something I came across articles on white men and Black women. Out and about I see more Black men with white women. Near twenty two to one for each white male/Black female couple.

I wonder why is that? In the Black community I live in there is the the thought Black women/white man, has its roots in slavery. When the massa got tired of his wife because was too old, pregnant, saggy from kids etc, he'd just sneak over to the slave quarters, find him a young fresh one to rape. Why didn't that apply to the Black men choosing the white women? Having the white women, the Black man not only had what the white man has but has taken away from him Also there was the thought, that Black men and women bonded like they do, because they were both treated as second class citizens in a society that was runned mainly by rich caucasian men.

Intelligent thoughts with open-minds, not at pointing fingers at who is a racist and who is more noble earns 10 points.

When there is a large while elephant(no pun intended)in the room, no one wants to say anything about it, make eye contact withit, or try to move it. they just want to make sure their drink is not on the coffee table should it step on it. I am getting a wide veriety of opinions and ideals. that is what Answers is about. But in the same breath, while trying to debunk what I asked some have added validity to it. There is a common theme that Black women are arrgresive, loud, bossy etc. That is pretty much an agreement by my buddies. Is that the reason? Plausable. No, I do not think all white men or rapist, or that all whites owned slaves. they didn't. Only a the wealthy really owned them. But no matter what Maddison Av or Hollywood shows you with interracial relationships, Jim Crow has never left the building. To try to cleave cutural differences and preceptions from it would be like trying to seperate nuclear energy from the A bomb. The 2 are forever linked.

And to add, there are nice decant Black women out there. Maybe people have hard time seeing them because the media focus on the badass ones. Just like all Black males are not rappers, dope dealers or atheletes. You just don't see the black chemist much.

Answer 1

Although your questions deals more with race than with sexuality, a brief observation is in order: heterosexual intercourse being exclusively the ordinary route to natural human procreation, lifelong homosexuality is understandably rare among persons.

Perhaps as a consequence of this, most cultures seem to have adopted a 2-person form for romantic relationships -- and in some instances, homosexual relationships are sanctioned by the State.

Having so stated, and in answer to the particulars of your question, this is what I recall from my college studies:

The following sociological stereotypes were derived by scientists from years of observation, and apply only when the entire earth population of each group is considered: caucasoid males and ******* females tend to be assertive, caucasoid females and ******* males tend to be submissive.

Because race is a function of evolution, were it not for advances in travel, there would be virtually no interracial couples. The ancient aphorism is "birds of a feather flock together."

Assertive persons tend to affiliate themselves with others on the basis of ideological compatibility; submissive persons tend to affiliate themselves with others on aesthetic grounds.

Note: ideological compatibility does not preclude selfish motives; in fact, hope to realize one or more selfish aims may be for each party in a couple a driving influence (or even the sole influence).

Beauty is subjective, but within cultural groups exist parameters common to the definition of a standard. When this observation is applied on a global basis, caucasian women are generally more attractive than ******* women.

That doesn't mean there aren't stunning "Nubian" women, anymore than it means that there aren't any buggly "white" women. Rather, it simply acknowledges a general trend that is always going to be locally rebuttable.

Ordinarily, opposites attract (think of the poles of a magnet): assertive men desire as domestic companions submissive women, and vice-versa; however, the value of the aesthetic cannot be simply dismissed.

Aesthetic appeal is not limited to the beauty of physical form -- shape, color, tone, vocalization, etc. -- but includes personality.

With the exacerbation of competitive demands throughout both the global economy and local economies, psychoemotional pressures will continue to increase against effective assertive personalities -- (thus making them increasingly likely to be jerks).

By contrast, submissive personalities tend either to regard fate as cyclical or inevitable, and cope with the demands of life in a much more carefree manner. This can't be lost on the "white women" that seem to crave "black men," and vice-versa.

Answer 2

I don't know many people anymore that would consider a black woman with a white man as having roots in slavery. At the very least, not many intelligent people would think that way. I grew up in the South even, and the ostracization of such a thing became near non-existent about 15-20 years ago now. Who you are with is strictly based off of 2 things, who you are attracted to, and who finds you attractive back. White man, Black man, Yellow Man, Green Man... whatever. you are attracted by your internal chemistry... and to your exposure to the opposite sex in your formative years. Sure, there are stereotypes all around... I have a few friends that are of both persuasions interested in persons of different ethnicity as well, and some of those are based off of the stereotypical answer. If you want to base the attraction based off of that... fine... here would be the 2 types as you would list them.

Black Woman/White Man: the man is enlightened, usually well-educated.. and the woman is attracted to a certain security whereas a caucasian man can offer. The stereotype is that a caucasian can achieve more success, and in some business markets, that can hold true yet today unfortunately.

White woman/Black Man: usually this seems to be the more primal/lustful stereotypical attraction. The woman wants a strong man.. and... often enough... someone that they feel can bring a certain... endowment... to the relationship. The man in this case can have a certain desire for the physical size or demeanor of the woman, and the caveats that such can bring with it. Now, in practice, it's still based strictly off of what each is attracted to, but, generally, such a pairing is SEEN as having this as a basis.

Either way, any sort of match-up that can happen between any ethnicity... the bottom line would be the Two L's. Love... and Lust. You're attracted to whom you want to be with.. period. If that wasn't the case.. then I suppose I could've just as easily ended up with a 400 lb Lithuanian woman that I passed by the street in Herzegova in 1996, instead of the wonderful red-headed ball-o-fire woman with whom I am married to now. That's not a slight to the Lituanian woman, or any Lithuanian women either. For the one in question.. I proably would've had a fight... someone obviously was attracted to her as well.. she had an engagement ring/rock on her finger. So... the moral to the story is this... it's not about the color of the skin... it's about the heat of the love and adoration a person shares with their mate. period.

Hope this helps.. :)

Answer 3

Well that's a interesting question. but it's not an impossible conclusion. Interracial relationships whether it is black male/white female or white male/ black female have always been seen differently than any other relationship. Many who are from the old school of stick with your own kind can't see past color and condemn interracial dating. What do I think? Race is of no importance.

But where I live, I have seen lots of white male/black female partnerships. I don't know if that has to do with geographical statistics but I honestly do see it more and more. I always hear when a black basketball player marries a non-black woman he has sold out. Well, if he is happy then that should be the end of the conversation and color should not be an issue. Call me old fashion, but people have been dating outside of their race for decades in not centuries and I don't see it slowing down any time soon.

Answer 4

I can't believe in 2006 we are still having a discussion about race and the interminglings of what people do in their bedrooms. This must be the result of limited education in America. Who gives a $*&@ in a bowl full of sugar. Have you been around the world lately, have you seen the landscape of people who are hooked up with each other. It is incomprehensible that people have such a askewed way of thinking. People from all over the world have been hooking up with each other from different races since the beginning of man. If homo sapiens didn't try "something new" some of the ethnic groups that have evolved would never exist today. Including myself and members of my family. The assumption that white men are not attracted or really don't date black women is about as luducrous as some of the stereotypical generalizations that are made about each group in some of the previous answers.
Love and relationships can be so difficult to establish no matter who is involved. The heart wants what the heart wants and believe me if you get involved with someone for some superficial bs generalistic reason it will infallibly fail; no matter what the size of the endowment. Who is thinking when they see someone that completely takes their breath away, "I can't date because of the whole slavery manifestation of Americas trifling labor solution."
That thought never crossed my mind when I was in the dating world; and that was at a time when people did not really date outside their race. I dated all types of men and was receptive to the ones that were attractive, respectful and had something going for themselves, race was not a weighing factor. Everyone is beautiful in their own way no matter what their ethnic makeup. Life is short and you miss out on so much by being so narrow minded. I had to find out the hard way that you can't really control who you fall in love with. Believe me I tried and the resistance, just makes you want them more.
As for people not wanting to date outside their race, they probably never will and that is just fine but if the world blew up tommorrow and only 10 people survived and it was their responsiblity to repopulate the earth; this discussion would be null and void. The option of love or being in love is not even a consideration. There is my two cents and you can hear it clanging on the table.

Answer 5

Ok first off I find it kind of hypocritical that you are offended that white women don't usually date black men, yet, you find it ok to offend overweight or not super attractive white women by saying the only reason they date black men is out of desperation or because no one else would be with them. Second of all, I personally have a large attraction to black guys. It has nothing to do with desperation or the fact that no one else likes me. It's because I just have that attraction. I find it personally though, that black guys are more stand offish to white girls than the other way. Most of the black guys I know wouldn't ask a white girl out, not because they don't find her attractive and not because they isn't interested, but simply because they think they aren't supposed to. I find it very strange that there aren't many interracial relationships. I have always been interested in black guys and that's just who I am.......

Answer 6

I've asked about this to a few educated ppl myself.
Some answers that I got include "black men want to make their race stronger demographically" which is prolly a bigoted view from either side. From a sociology student I heard "b/c white boys think they're too good for black women" which may or may not be the case.
But if judging by personal experience, black guys seem to kiss up to white women an awlful lot, whereas black women seem more guarded and act unattractively towards white men. ::shrug::

Answer 7

Good morning,
I have a black girlfriend and after we started going out I will never date a white girl again (no offesense). We get alot of torment from people because she is obviously black and I am full blown white italian. She is amazing to be with.. Extremely intelligent, self motivated, creative, funny, energetic and all sorts of great things. Im not saying that white women don't offer this but black girls are just beatifull and when it comes to sex, my god they are the best!!! We don't care we have to deal with certain situations about our race..it's just color and we wish some people would mature enough to realize that. But as for question goes your statements are def.. a fact espically where I live in the US. Joe

Answer 8

Man that's a weak argument. Some low life people may think like that , but I don't. I married within my race, and my wife is beautiful and I love her, she is perfect. I don't need to get a woman with different skin color to make me Happy or to make anyone sad. If some one loves another person of another color-I have no problem. But if some one wants to have a white woman just to hurt someone or make people jealous-then they are stupid. We all have to live on this planet-we don't need jerks making trouble for everybody-we have enough as it is.

Answer 9

I can tell there are many kids in this blog.Join the Army or go to a gym or something where white an black men are mixed and you will find out there is no dif in the size. However, I wanted to date a couple of black women and could not get past the agressaveness of the woman. Scared me off. If they are that agressave black or white I really am not intrested. I am like most white men and don't like to be told what to do all the time and don't need to be. I would say white men are slower paced, where black men are spontanius. I really don't think black women like that slow moving type of a man. Plus white men don't like to dance. I have been married 4 times and have had 2 long term live in girl friends. Indian, Mexican, Asian, Blondes all but black. I found that Thai women and southern white women will treat their man the nicest. The rest have been out to get what they can.

Answer 10

Any effort to figure out why a race dates or doesn't date another race is silly. It is related to the individuals. I don't date a race, I date a person. The whole line of questioning is preposterous.