Alright. There has been no sex between me and this guy since 2001. I met my husband in 2002. Let's start there.
I met him in 1995. We moved in together in '96, bought a trailer home in '97, were going to get married in '98, but he moved out. We dated on and off for the next three years, wound up being platonic roommates at one point, and he stood up in our wedding in '03.
Since our wedding, he asks us for rides all the time. We were over there nursing his heating problems when it was 30 below zero. He stayed with us when his power was out during a storm. We've taken him food on several occasions.
We've hit some financial difficulties and have resorted to "payday advance." We've had situations where we've borrowed the money from him to make our payments, readvanced, and put the money back in his account almost immediately. He left a message for us saying this this is too much of a hassle for him. How would you respond?
2006-06-24 08:04:10 · 5 answers · asked by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm gonna give you two answers on how i would deal....my carnal(fleshly) answer and my spiritual answer
you can choose which one to use
CARNAL: hey I scratched your back, now its your turn to scratch mine.. and if he refuses, say fine, then don't come to me the next time you need something
SPIRITUAL: (this one is harder to do) keep my mouth shut and just don't go back to him for ne thing, but still lend him a hand when he needs it..... when you do the spiritual thing.. God tends to bless you in ways you cant even comprehend
2006-06-24 08:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by jesus_freak_forever3days2grace 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get off your duff and tell him you won't help him anymore. We've done enough for you over the years, it's time for you to grow up and take control of your own life. Or something to that effect. Your husband must be a kind caring man to be part of this back and forth fiasco for so long.
2006-06-24 08:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by hipcat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank him for his previous assistance, get some financial consulting and move on with your life.
2006-06-24 08:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kanuk Komputers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop the dude NOW...no more favors.
2006-06-24 08:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu know u should live your life. do watz best for you. its you
2006-06-24 08:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by Edwin D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋