I'm not being X-rated, not in this day and age. I just wanted to know how to get the best out of sexual?

Question

plesure.
I hear too many stories of women loosing interest in sex after certain ages, pre,during, and after Metopause.
That hasn't happend to me so far, and don't want it to.
I have heard that masterbation can make this prosess less stressful, relieves hot flashes, helps control mood swings, vaginal driness, even slow down, or at least reduce these discomforts while the Metopause prosess is going on.
As for the sex toys, been there, done that to most of the answers I got.
I am not re - married as of yet, but I am always hopeful.
There's nothing, "dirty" about understanding ones body, or it's plesures. Anyone who thinks like this has serious issues with their, God given gift of sexual plesure, and beauty.
I am a Christian, and high in my values too.
We're talking about a God given and created pleasure to be enjoyed between a wife, and husband..
Masterbaiting is a healthy,"act". It has many proven benifits that improve the body, from lowering blood presure, to insomnia.

Answer 1

I don't think that you lose your sexuality, but you lose the importance of sex. I am 33 and married with 4 kids. We love each other and love having sex, but that isn't the most important thing in our lives. I think that if you are having a healthy "sex" life alone, then good for you. It is a God given gift and there is nothing wrong with self-exploration. God gave us minds to make decisions and give us the tools for pleasure, so why shouldn't we use it? Alone or with a partner. If you are worried about losing the response and having all the symptoms that can go along with menopause, then go talk to your doctor about hormone replacement therapy. My mom had a hysterectomy when she was 29 and she has been using estrogen/progesterone lotion for about the last 10 years. She says that she is still feeling as young and responsive as she did when she was younger.

Answer 2

This really doesn't have much to do with your question, but someone else out there may find the information helpful:

There was a recent study done (sorry, can't remeber the study or the magazine it was published in) on post-menopausal women who had lost their sex drive and were treated with small doses of testosterone. The results were all positive, inciting desire in these women as well as sexual response. I read about this study about a year ago and I do not know if doctors are yet able to use testosterone in hormone therapy, but it may be worth looking into when (and if) the time comes.

Answer 3

I'm really looking hard for a question inside the soliquy.
But for the most part...your right...there is nothing wrong with it and its probably a lot healthier to be able to find some quiet stress free time to explore your own sexuality.

I'm not sure about all the physical benifits you sited, but one thing for sure is that if you practice at what makes you feel really really good and are willing to share that information with your partner, it can make a huge difference in your love life.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I agree with you totally and it is sad that you have to spend less time explaining your question than you spend defending your right to ask it. If only people were more open and free with their sexuality, then perhaps America wouldn't breed so many sexual deviants. As for your question, I'm no expert but I think you are already on the right track. Best of luck to you in the land of pleasures!

Answer 5

They have meds now, Such as the WOMAN'S VIAGRA. HUN... I recommend You get some. My mother went through it all and is now 60 years old. She Would recommend the Occasional Viagra Pill. They work WONDERS. And may also help speed up your Hormones without.
Hope this kinda helps.

Answer 6

its very normal at many ages. many women are very hard to please sexually as far as having the ultimate orgasm. so they do it themselves even in marriage. if you did a poll which many have done. you will find most women masturbate and the married ones just as much as the years go by. just enjoy yourself and have fun.