Do men like 'large' women?

Question

Please do NOT be rude if you answer this question...(I will report any abuse)

I gained 60 lbs with my baby who's 1 1/2 years old. I am having a really hard time losing the weight. I hate it, and myself. My husband, who's Mexican (they seem to like 'meaty' women) say's he could care less. Our sex life is great. I am trying to lose the weight but it's coming off VERY SLOWLY! I am NOT huge, but obviously, bigger than when we married 5 years ago.

Here's the questions, he says he doesn't care....is that true? Do men like some meat on their women? Could he be saying that, and having sex with me daily; but really wanting a skinnier me again? (OR some other skinny woman?)

Any advice?

Answer 1

Just my personal opinion, but I LOVE a bigger woman. I have no interest in skinny girls at all, they just arent attractive to me, I like them with meat on their bones. lol.

DIfferent people like different things. If your husband says he finds you attractive, and your sex life isnt suffering, and he is still paying you the same amount of attention as before, then he is telling you the truth, your new found weight doesn't bother him, as a matter of fact, he may like the added weight more.

Answer 2

I am in the same boat. I have gained a lot of weight. My husband says he still likes to have fun, he prefers something he can hang on to. he never was interested in the really skinny types.I was about 30 lbs overweight when I met him. Lets face it when you have a baby, things go a little wonky body wise. I want to lose weight for myself so that I feel sexier and good about myself,, it just seems hard I have 2 babies 19 months and 8 months and don;t seem to have the time to get with the program for myself. And yes, there are clubs for men who like to date large women.

Answer 3

The men that reall like fat women, start dating them when they are fat and are angry when they try to lose it. It has been my experience that some men think big girls are needy, desperate and afraid no one else will want them.

Your husband may really love you for you. However, you have to love you. If you are not happy with your weight you have to do something about it. He married a thinner woman so obviously, he is really attracted to thinner women. He probably would not have choose you at your current weight, but again he loves you anyway. You will continue to feel insecure everytime he sees a smaller woman because in your heart you know that's what he likes.

Cut out the sweets, the pasta, the bread and start walking. I will come off faster.

Answer 4

The vast majority of men would rather have a woman who looks like Jessica Simpson than one who looks like Rosie O'Donnell.

Some men do like chubbier women.

He may love you for who you are, not the number associated with your weight. It is possible that because he took vows to love, honor, and cherish you in the good times and the bad, in sickness and in health, until death do you part, that your weight doesn't really matter in the grand scope of things.

I think if and when you lose the weight, you will feel better about yourself and less insecure about your marriage. He's saying the right things, hunny. Quit doubting him and take care of yourself.

If he's having sex with you daily, dear, he's telling you the truth. When men lose interest, they want sex with you less and less. Quit focusing on the problems and start getting busy with the solutions.

Answer 5

Your husbands probability of telling you the truth is about 99.99% of a chance. If he really had a problem with your weight then he would have told you or given you hints. My wife gained 65 lbs. after our baby was born and it did not bother one bit. It took her over a year to go down in weight but it made no difference to me. I knew she was trying to drop the pounds and I always encouraged her in everyway I could. Also I fell in love with her period, not her size or anything else that is material. In sickness and in health was the vow I made and I love her as much now as the day I married her.

Answer 6

He might, but he chosen you and you are the mother of his baby.He's obviously attracted to you.You will loose your plus weight in time, so relax and enjoy your life as a couple and your baby.Why be so miserable over something that it comes normal with giving birth and your baby is such a good reward.As for him, he might have quick flashes of other women, skinny or not, but all men do without giving them a serious thought (like pictures or paintings, while you are flesh and blood...now who has the advantage?).

Answer 7

He would probably like you thinner unless he is also overweight. Think of the weight as a health issue -- for every pound you add in fat, your body must create 1 mile of blood vessels to support it and your heart must pump the blood through it. You increase your chance of diabetes. As you age, that skin will stay stretched, and when you finally get around to loosing it, it will hang like rags. The collagen just cannot shrink back. To be packing 60 extra pounds is extremely hard on your hip, knee and ankle joints, making them absolutely subject to osteo-arthritis -- i.e. you are just wearing them out faster than if you were not carrying that weight. OF COURSE it is hard to loose weight -- everything is super sized, and we American show little self restraint....look at us.... everything we eat has tooooooo many calories. Travel in Italy, and there are no fat people, land back in the states, and everyone is too heavy. We Americans just flat eat too much food.

Think of this as a health issue --your joints, your cardiovascular system, and your skin will stay younger, and you will be healthier not carrying excessive weight.. Get on any diet plan that lessens your caloric intake, and exercise, even if it is only 30 minutes per day on a tread mill or going for a walk with your child in a cart. Of course he has sex with you,--- you are probably a neat lady. But he is also at the same time telling you that he'd like to have you around a long time, and healthy. So, diet for him diet for health, diet for yourself and loose the weight. You will feel better, you will look better, your clothes will fit more nicely, and you will be able to look in the mirror at your great figure, and smile.....Good luck. There are lots of diet plans out there, they all work if you follow through......

Answer 8

There are the few that actually prefer "large woman"...but to perfectly honest...most of them were black men...(the ones my husband worked with) ....I gained weight also...50 lbs...and my hubby says he doesn't care, doesn't bother him...but honestly friend, I think they're just trying to comfort us...I think the most important thing though, is that we become comfortable w/ who WE ARE. and shed the lbs as we can...but not value ourselves based on what the scale reveals. Hope this helps...

Answer 9

Some do some don't. It is just like hair color some like blonde some like brunette. My friend Sticky has never had a girl under 275 pounds. There is some one out there perfect for you and more important you are perfect for him.

Answer 10

some men do and you should just try to love yourself and accept who u r b/c relly if ur husband was lying he wooda left u by now but he hasn't which means he loves you the way u r and if u wanna be skinnier try and get dat goal but while ur doing dat just stop and think about why r u this way and wat is the real and true reason dat u wanna be skinnier.