why are more women becoming bad mothers?

Question

a recent survey shows that women have lost the art of being a good mother,,,,,does it therefore show women are becoming less interested in looking after children and feeding them junk food.?

Answer 1

We are becoming bad mothers because of the STUPID MEDIA, the root of much evil.

Answer 2

The type of motherhood being refered to, a la Donna Reed or June Cleaver, no longer exists for three basic reasons.

1. The need for two income households has eliminated the ability for mom's to stay at home. Day care "schools" are taking kids in at 6 weeks... WTF!!!

2. Culture has changed. The 60's were permissive and that extended into the 70s. The children of he 60s had children in the 80s and the 90s where everyone was selfish and the idea of sacrificing oneself or one's dreams for your kids was totally abandoned. The new crop of moms are too selfish to be like Mrs Cleaver, and the fathers are too selfish when compared to Mr Cleaver.

3. People are so busy keeping their kids busy that they don't even know them. We are raising a lost generation. Moms don't stay at home because they are busy between work and their activities. The typical 8 hour day is now a 10 hour day, so dads aren't there either.

I recently went ot a birthday party where the moms were all grouped together talking, ignoring their children, which is something modern moms never get a chance to do, socialization is all but gone... so they have joined the dads in letting the kids do their own thing. Basically when parents get together these days they are abdicating their parental rights and allowing their children to do whatever they please under the (usually) misguided belief that another parent is watching the kids.

So I can boil the answer down to one sentence:

Women have become bad mothers because they don't have time to do a good job and are too selfish to make the sacrifices they need to make to be good mothers.

(I know this doesn't apply to all mothers... some do make the sacrifices... others are just crappy moms. I respect and honor all good moms, I pity the bad moms because when their kids are teens they'll look back and see what they missed doing with their children because they were too selfish to spend that time with them. By the way, when kids grow up they realize all those activites and clubs and team sports were not for them, they were ways of keeping the kids out of mom's hair. And the question should have read "why are parents bad"... because all of this applies to todays dads, except the June Cleaver and Donna Reed parts.)

Answer 3

I take offense at that question. I have brought up 3 children and consider myself to be an excellent mam. My children have grown to be decent members of society and I am proud of the fact that I contributed to that by setting a good example to them. Although I have always worked, my children have never suffered. I have had my priorities right and have been there for them whenever they've needed me for whatever reason. My children have always had a proper meal waiting for them when they get home.
It's only now that they are older that they have had a tendency to spend their own money at the chippy, pizza bar etc. I can't be held responsible for that as they are 22, 19 and 14 years old. The older ones influence the younger but I still make sure that they eat a proper meal.
Granted, some women have children for the wrong reasons and therefore don't take care of them as they should, but your question generalizes mothers and puts them all in the same bag

Answer 4

What does society class as a good mother? It it someone who stays at home, cleans the house and makes fresh bread and cakes everyday, with tea on the table for 5.00 on the dot? If thats the case I'm a dreadful mother!!!
More and more women don't have the option to stay at home because of expensive housing and the pressure to make ends meet. My children however are clever, happy well adjusted individuals who occasionally have to make do with a bit of junk food because that have such a hectic schedule homework/dancing/football/gymnastics/friends etc that there are not enough hours in the day for me to cook for them!

The media puts too much pressure on women to be perfect as it is, give us a break eh?

Answer 5

Are these "bad mothers" married? The trend of less and less women being married while spitting babies out of their uterus's with no thought to a stable father figure being around to help with the responsibilities (finances, discipline, role model, housework, and most of all... LOVE) is definitely a factor. I'm not saying that women aren't capable to raise a child on their own. It's been done many times over, but times have seriously changed and it's time for men and women to realize the importance of a mother AND father. (1) About 70% of all men in prison grew up in homes without fathers, (2)Children of divorce do worse academically, are more prone to delinquency, are more vulnerable to the appeal of substance abuse, are more likely to bear a child out of wedlock, and are less equipped to enter marriage themselves.

It's an epidimic and it's a fact........

Answer 6

nope...it doesnt mean anything like that-it means that more jumped up little twats that pretend they are mature enough to help bring up the family, have buggered off, leaving the woman to do the work of two cos we are the stronger sex,so they know we will cope fine...then it all goes pear shaped cos men then have spare time on their hands, and some end up getting jobs with social services or the people that decide women arent as good at bringing kids up anymore, and u all put your 5 eggs in and this is the best you can throw at us!! as for feeding them junk food...youve been feeding us crap with a question llike this so cant really see you cause to complain?!

Answer 7

its a common belief(also in italy where i come from) that junk food makes children happy. i personally totally desagree with that im a 'hugs,geniune smile n compliment' kind of parent.my 4year old never really got junk up to the pre-school's birthday partys(1st year about to end).i would give him treats every now n again with very little or no sugar,no artificial stuff(E numbers) n no fizzy drinks unless diluted 1:5 with water.i spent the first 3years of his life reading stories,playing,doing things together n i know im not the only 1. i think im doing my best to be a good mother

Answer 8

I truly believe it's because of how they themselves were raised and how over the past few generations - families and mothers have drifted away from Godly morals, direction and traditional family loving secure units - and from the traditions of eating together as a family - praying together - vacationing together - loving and respecting each other - the sanctity of marraige and parents which gives stability to children and the view of children being a blessing of love and from God - instead of a "mistake" or an "accident" or a "burden" -- I am sure it hurts God's heart - as much as it hurts mine since I can't have my own children (due to tumor at a young age) tho have been blessed with my stepchildren.

Answer 9

I wouldn't put much weight on studies like this as they tend to result in whatever the group gathering information intended to discover & communicate.

If women en masse started being bad mothers it would result in the extinction of the species. When no one is left on the Earth because of bad mothering then they'd have a legitimate argument.

Answer 10

Only a man could ask such a stupid question. Women reign superior mate, you try giving birth, bringing them up to the high standards that is expected of them, looking after the house cooking cleaning washing ironing and doing a little job to keep the families head above water, whilst jerks like you sit on your bums and criticise us... do us a favour mate get stuffed.

Answer 11

When it comes to diet, I think marketing and advertising is around us everywhere and it makes it seem 'OKAY' or the 'done thing' to feed your family MacDonalds and other junk food. Not that every mother does that, but I don't think mothers of earlier generations were subjected to the marketing / brainwashing that we are today. It should be stopped.