If I really don't want a baby and I'm not ready, should I abort?

Question

I'm 18 and I've been with my b/f for over 2 years....and we were always careful.
I don't know for sure, my period is a week late....just thinking about what the outcome would be.

Answer 1

if thats what you feel is right.

No one can tell you what you should do in a situation such as this.. its completely your choice.. just research for options and the possible outcomes for any and all of the options.

good luck!

Answer 2

Yeah, no one can answer that for you. On one hand, you're 18 and you are more than old enough to get a job and support this child and if you've been with the guy that long he'll probably stick around and help- that makes a family. On the other hand, bring a child into a family that doesn't want them and won't love them is not good for the baby. There are a lot of choices here- abortion is painful and you will remember forever- you'll always wonder what would have happened, what would the baby look like or be like. I promise that part is VERY difficult to live with. And even if you use protection, you can still get pregnant- would you get another abortion if you get pregnant again? There are lots of families out there open for adoption and many of them will take care of all expenses. Just think about all your choices before making ANY decision. good luck girl!

Answer 3

You really need to think about this. A child is a life long commitment, but also can be one of the greatest joys of your life. At 18 you probably can't support a bay. You may have to live with your parents, get a full time job, postpone college, and kind of miss out on the social scene for a while. There's a lot you don't get to do when a life is depending on you. There's the financial commitment, which is huge. Prenatal care, diapers and baby food, doctor's appointments, and all the money spent to raise a child. I would see a counselor. Prehaps at a Planned Parenthood Center, perhaps at school. And if you decide you don't want the baby, but also don't want an abortion, there's always adoption. There are plenty of loving families with the means for a child who can't concieve.

Answer 4

Just read this and decide my answer is live with the consequences and have the baby. You were able to have sex early then you need to take responsibilty with the baby you made.

Month One

Mommy
I am only 8 inches long
but I have all my organs.
I love the sound of your voice.
Every time I hear it
I wave my arms and legs.
The sound of your heart beat
is my favorite lullaby.

Month Two

Mommy
today I learned how to suck my thumb.
If you could see me
you could definitely tell that I am a baby.
I'm not big enough to survive outside my home though.
It is so nice and warm in here.

Month Three

You know what Mommy
I'm a boy!!
I hope that makes you happy.
I always want you to be happy.
I don't like it when you cry.
You sound so sad.
It makes me sad too
and I cry with you even though
you can't hear me.

Month Four

Mommy
my hair is starting to grow.
It is very short and fine
but I will have a lot of it.
I spend a lot of my time exercising.
I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes
and stretch my arms and legs.
I am becoming quite good at it too.

Month Five

You went to the doctor today.
Mommy, he lied to you.
He said that I'm not a baby.
I am a baby Mommy, your baby.
I think and feel.
Mommy, what's abortion?

Month Six
I can hear that doctor again.
I don't like him.
He seems cold and heartless.
Something is intruding my home.
The doctor called it a needle.
Mommy what is it? It burns!
Please make him stop!
I can't get away from it!
Mommy! HELP me!

Month Seven

Mommy
I am okay.
I am in Jesus's arms.
He is holding me.
He told me about abortion.
Why didn't you want me Mommy?


Every Abortion Is Just . . .
One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak.

Answer 5

No.

You should talk to your boyfriend. Even if you're not pregnant the two of you should discuss what you would do if it were to happen.

If neither one of you want to raise a child, give it up for adoption, that is a noble act, getting an abortion because you don't want a baby because you're not ready is selfish. You're an adult, you need to take responsibility for your actions.

If you don't want to be in this situation again in the future, abstain or use a contraceptive.

I have two children, a remarkable and amazing experience. The most facinating time was my pregnancy, my pregnancy bible was "A Child is Born" by Lennart Nilsson...you'd be amazed how early on, the little life form has developed in so many unbelievable ways.

Answer 6

Life is more important than the fact that you screwed up. Abortion should never be an option. Adoption is the best thing you can do, for the child and for yourself. Having a child is a major decision. It takes a lot more than you think. If you're not ready for it, then you should have wrapped it up. Since you didn't, then keeping the baby might be a huge mistake. It may be better for you to give the babby up for adoption. He/she would then be given to someone who WANTS a baby.

Don't have an abortion. That child inside of you is a life, not an embryo. He/she should be a contributing member of society, not in a vial in a trash can at some skeevy abortion clinic. Please, consider adoption.

Answer 7

well there is a loaded question. be prepared for some nasty answers from people. I think you should be asking yourself this question not strangers. this is very personal and something that you will live for the rest of your life. Ask yourself this. Can I support myself and my child? Can I make a good life for this child? Am I ready to sacrifice for a baby? When you answer these questions then you have your answer. Having a baby is a lot more involved then feeding and changing diapers. Its lack of sleep, lack of money, no personal time, and you might even lose friends... But on the flip side you will fall in love with your child in a way you never thought possible. The bottom line is it is your choice, don't let other people demean you or make you feel bad for your decision. Go to planned parenthood and talk to a counselor, not strangers on the internet.

Answer 8

I absolutely would not abort. If you don't want the baby put it up for adoption. I really can't see myself doing that. When you lay eyes upon that baby or hear it's heart beat for the first time it will take your breath away. No one is really ready to have a child. Everything happens for a reason. I couldn't live with myself if I did something like that. Hope this was useful information. If anything pray about it. God will lead you in the right direction and I bet it won't be to abort.

Answer 9

No! Have the baby and put it up for adoption. Give the baby a chance to live! The untold story of abortion is that many women have emotional and mental problems that an abortion causes. It can also cause you to miscarry later on down the road when you do want a baby. Don't Abort. Find a support group to help you through the pregnancy, have the baby and put it up for adoption with quality parents.

Answer 10

GIRL I KNOW EXACTLY WERE YOU ARE! I choose to have the baby- il ove her so much she is the best thing that ever happenedto me -if it werent for her i would be dead- I think that yoiu took the responibility to have sex (which i dont think is a bad thing i did it to) but you should own up to it-- being a mother is really coo but hard at the same time it changes your whole life. I was scared like you --the guy that go me preg -also wanted to marry me-- i married him for the babys sake and becuz i loved him- but now im stuck in a fdead marrage with a great baby
you should do what i did but- you can keep your baby--its not that hard and it will always be there for you--at leat consider adoption

Answer 11

First of all go see if your pregant,and if u are,don't abort,if u can't keep the baby do foster parents so when your ready and mature enouph for a child u can get your child back,or adoption but theres no guarentee you'll get the baby back.BUt if u and your boyfriend love each other both get a job and start saving up and try to take care of the child,don't murder it's not the childs fault that you got pregant,besides your 18 so you are an adult your responsible for your actions.good luck to u both!