Alright. There has been no sex between me and this guy since 2001. I met my husband in 2002. Let's start there.
I met him in 1995. We moved in together in '96, bought a trailer home in '97, were going to get married in '98, but he moved out. We dated on and off for the next three years, wound up being platonic roommates at one point, and he stood up in our wedding in '03.
Since our wedding, he asks us for rides all the time. We were over there nursing his heating problems when it was 30 below zero. He stayed with us when his power was out during a storm. We've taken him food on several occasions.
We've hit some financial difficulties and have resorted to "payday advance." We've had situations where we've borrowed the money from him to make our payments, readvanced, and put the money back in his account almost immediately. He left a message for us saying this this is too much of a hassle for him. How would you respond?
2006-06-24 07:12:21 · 4 answers · asked by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He's also recently gotten into a so-called relationship with someone who's half his age and he won't introduce her to any of his friends. I wonder if she's not an imaginary friend?
2006-06-24 08:00:21 · update #1
time to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with this guy, both you and your husband together. See if things can be worked out.
What are your gut feelings about where things are at in this friendship? How about your husband? Discuss it between the two of you. If you come to a concensus of where to go from here, then follow it through.
It may be this relationship has run it's course. That does happen.
2006-07-05 11:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that you two split up because you had good reason to. You have married and should focus on your marriage.
In the past you have helped each other out, but it appears now that he is unwilling to continue to do so. Take his lead and don't help him out anymore. If he doesn't want to help you then he has no reason to expect help from you. If he does he is a user .
It sounds to me as though he is moving on.... you should do the same.
2006-07-03 09:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By not responding. Do you need to be hit over the head, he apparently feels that your relationship is just too one sided.
2006-07-05 14:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by riddletricia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me like he is living off of u, if he is just around to use u he isnt a friend. i think u shoul talk to him about it.
2006-07-05 03:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by LaLo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋