Gay or NOT Gay?

Question

I am asking this question in the most sincere way, with NO ill intent meant at all.

Why is it that gay people say they were born that way, but yet a gay man say's that he can 'get' ANY straight man he wants? Married with children or not, they say it doesn't matter, that all men just want sex and a straight man will have sex with a man....isn't that stating then, that people aren't borne gay, but made?

Again, I am asking this very sincerely and wanting to understand.
Thank You for your time.

Answer 1

Believe it or not, NOT all gay men say stupid things like this...only silly guys who get very little from anyone. Some gays think that all it takes is a couple glasses of wine and anyone will allow a BJ...this is nothing but shear, demented rot. Trust that very few Gays are like this. And in fact, most gays do NOT want anyone who is straight...straight is not a treasure to chase, not a catch, and certainly not the epitome of life. You make an interesting point, except it misses a point. Just because a guy gets a BJ from a man does NOT make him gay in any respect. Giving one as an adult is more than a little suspect, but getting one is nothing more than a momentary convenience.
And yes, Gays are genetically prone to being gay. That does not mean they will do Gay sex acts, for many men live their lives in denial of their true desires...I believe the term is Closet Case...and unfortunately, Closet Cases make the most vehemenant homophobes in existence. I am living proof that Gays marry, have children, are responsible to all those about them, and do not chase Straight men. In fact, all gays I know are similar to myself, except not all have married or had children..but many have. Most that I know are on excellent terms with their ex-wives and their ex-wives' new husbands. They care for their children, support them, and are, in all aspects, great fathers. I raised both my sons, and both my sons are straight. So what! Kids are what they are, we cannot shape their sexuality, but we can, and do, shape their outlook on others. My sons are nonjudmental to others, live exceptionally successful lives, and are, to my knowledge, very happy. My sons and I are very close to this day.

Answer 2

I think gay men might want to have sex with straight men as a challenge maybe. Not ALL gay men are born gay, some where molested as children and unconsciously scared of the opposite sex, theres so many reasons why a person can be a homosexual. But yes I think it is more of a challenge situation. Just like a woman would feel very complimented if a gay man checked her out etc.

Answer 3

Any gay man who thinks he can get any man is overestimating himself immensely. About half of the population will have relations with the same sex if the conditions and circumstances surrounding the event are right, but that is not the same as saying that you could get a straight man to have sex with you. Straight men (Kinsey 0's) have no homosexual inclinations, and it's as stupid to pretend otherwise as it is for a straight girl to think she can turn a gay boy straight. There's a fundamental rift in the understnading between the two groups that may or may not possible be bridged.
Have a pleasant day.

Answer 4

We are indeed born gay. I knew years ago that I was gay ... even back in my 1980s high school years but didn't act on them for several years. I was married, had two beautiful daughters by my ex wife (yes we divorced a couple of years ago), but was dying insided because I was pretending to be someone that I wasn't ... I was and AM 100% gay ... I now have a great relationship with my ex wife, my daughters love me, my family loves me even more, and best of all I have a partner with whom I share so much happiness ... and at last I feel whole ... it is not about how many men you want to sleep with and who you can get ..., that is an entirely different issue altogether ... to be gay does not always mean that you want to be a sex fiend ... I know because I am gay - pretended to be straight for so many years - but now I am sincerely in love with the greatest man alive in my eyes ... :)

Answer 5

God did not make a man's body and inserted a woman's mind or vice versa. Psychology changes its definitions every year. Any behavior can be excused. Homosexuality is an intensely heavy lust. It surpasses the normal attraction between two heterosexuals.

Many gays knowingly destroy family men or conquer a virtuous man. Many are very wise and can even bed the best of straight men. They put their lives at risk by stalking men. I have been chased on many occasions.

On my job, I am propositioned quite often. They think it is cute, but they will learn the hard way. Someone will physically hurt them. Often the media sides with gays. To defend yourself is a hate crime. It never talks about how that person was hounded, harrassed, and often touched by feminine acting men.

Answer 6

Honey, we are made and born. However, I believe your gay friend was just bragging. If what he says were true, then the converse would also be true: in other words, it would mean that any gay man could be convinced by any straight woman (eew! Icky as it sounds, remember I am just giving an example to further my logic) to have sex.

Answer 7

Gay sex does not make a man gay. It just means he's had gay sex.

I have gay sex, I'm not gay, I'm Bi. The difference between me and straight guys who have sex is that I fancy men (as well) straight men don't find other men attractive (but a BJ is a BJ).

Does this help answer your question?

Answer 8

Sex is one thing, although I believe these people are stretching the truth. To be gay and in a gay relationship, is different from sex and experimentation. Almost anything can get you off if you work it right, but true love is totally different.

Answer 9

That is a known fact. Gay men cruise for horney straight men who need release. They give them a BJ and automatically the Gay thinks he has created a gay man.

Answer 10

If a straight, family-oriented man with children decided to have sex with another man, then he was BORN with that attraction.

The attraction was in him at birth.
If it wasn't ...then he wouldn't have any attraction to men and, therefore, wouldn't have sex with another man.

There's a saying about straight, family men who have sex with other men....
...it's called "on the Down-Low".

Look it up online.