she says she only did it because she was hurt. I only dumped her because i was afraid of marriage, and needed some time to think. I realized i want to marry her, but it hurts what she did when i was gone...should i be angry? she says i do not have the right.
2006-06-24 06:08:39 · 16 answers · asked by downtokissit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well , you did dump her , so in a way she had every right to do what she wanted.
But do you really want a girl that has sex with 3 different guys in 2 month?And if she hurts again how many will she sleep with ,then?
Think about that one for a while.
2006-06-24 06:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Einstein 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have no right to be angry - you dumped her. Instead of dumping her you should have talked to her honestly about your feelings and fear of committment and none of this would have happened.
She reacted out of being hurt and she told you that - it's not like she went out and found another boyfriend. If you realize that you love her and want to marry her then you should do it. What she did while you were broken up was not a reflection of her feelings for you or your relationship. Everyone reacts different when they are hurt or angry - and her reaction was to sleep with 3 guys to make herself feel better.
As long as she was faithful to you when you were together you have nothing to fear - she is a faithful woman.
2006-06-24 13:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be angry. You were the one that called it off. How do you think she felt when you did that, especially since you were afraid of marriage. That's not a reason to break it off. You could have remained together and worked on your feelings about marriage. She didn't cheat of you, therefore, you have to try to get over this. I know it's not easy, but you have to look forward, the past cannot be changed. If you love eachother, move on! Learn from experience. Now you really know how you feel about her, let her know how much you love her, and that you are sorry for putting her through this. She probably found herself lonely and lost. She is only human, just as you are. Forgive eachother and make yourselves happy.
Good luck
2006-06-24 13:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion, you don't dump someone because you're afraid of marriage, just simply explain you don't feel ready.
As for her, if she loves you, I don't see how she could just up and sleep with someone else so soon.
Yes, if you broke up with her, you have no right to be mad, but have the right to feel hurt and upset. Because I'm sure you're thinking that if she loved you or so much as cared a lot about you, she wouldn't have jumped in the sack with someone that soon. Let this be a lesson learned: To open up about your feelings and discuss things, try to work things out instead of running. When you get married, it won't be that easy to walk out.
2006-06-24 13:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by Wanna get down not the 1st night 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was single (because you dumped her) then she has every right to sleep with whomever she wants. It may have just been a "rebound" thing and not have meant anything. You need to accept the consequences and decide whether or not you want to move on with her in your life. You are at fault here; but understand that this situation is a very COMMON one. People sometimes take "breaks" during long relationships because they are unsure whether they want to be with that person for the rest of their life or not. You either need to both move on and forget about it, or go your separate ways. You should not be mad at her for sleeping with other guys.
2006-06-24 13:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can feel any emotion that you want to; it is YOUR life.
Obviously, some of your worst fears came realized with what she did after the break up. Obviously, she didn't care that much or she would not have done that. Sleeping with three other guys in such a short time span makes me think she was either doing it WHILE you were together or she has some other deep seeded insecurities. Patch yourself up and move on. There are better women out there. You never have to settle.
2006-06-24 13:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Number one, yes you should be angry! Who wouldn't be angry if their girl friend of over 5 yrs slept with 3 other guys! I mean 1 is bad enough, although sometimes people DO werird things like that not to intentionally hurt their bf/gf but because they feel scared or trapped. But 3 times. Oh heck no. There's no excuse for that. It's like the saying "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice...shame on ME". If I were you I'd call a spade a spade and RUN FOR Z-HILLS!!!!! You do NOT want to be legally married to someone who could do that to you!
2006-06-24 13:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by staygold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you have no right to take out your anger on her. I was in her shoes once. Dont' you think she was equally hurt/angry when you decided to dump her? Hello!? If you broke off your relationship, that gave her free reign to get over you in any way she saw fit. And another guy is the perfect way to forget your pain. I'd say, you both hurt each other, now work through it and move on.
2006-06-24 13:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on don't be angry just forget her! Think about it : if you married her, at first fight she would go and slept with 3 or10 or...other guys just for revenge?
By the way in this time when you were thinking of marriage did you slept some other girls too?
2006-06-24 13:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by iulia_nne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she was full of resentment because she probably feels that after being together for FIVE years it should have been a no brainer. Needing time to think makes her feel that you never cared about her at all the entire time. So she did that to get back at you for making her feel like a piece of crap. You knifed her in the heart with your two month hiatus. So now you have to deal with what you created.
2006-06-24 13:28:03 · answer #10 · answered by myjamsandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋