girls/women - how important is 4 u that a man is a gentleman?

Question

Describe a gentleman in ur own words and don't forget to mention ur age and ur marital status. I want a sincere not affected by others viewpoints answer.
Men can answer what they actualy think females expect of them, also mentioning age and if married.

Answer 1

I am female and married, (48 and by the way most of us gals above 30 do not usually care much for questions about our age!) It's like this, if you screw up and give me a senior discount, then I am ahead, and if you are smart enough to card me if I am buying a bottle of wine, you may get a nice warm smile (I would know the cashier was flirting with me)!

I like attention but not too much, when I put on a dress and my "face" then I expect you to wear neat ironed clothing, (I may or may not help you with the ironing)...a mother does her son a favor when she teaches him to do his own laundry. If he is doing laundry, then he can do mine too (if I am busy with other chores or work).

We have been married for (nearly) 10 years, and he opens doors for me, holds my seat at the dinner table, stands when I am getting up from the table, and now that both of us are semi-retired he pitches in and helps with the housework. We are polite to each other, I try not to take him or his good manners for granted, in exchange for him being a gentleman, I do my best to be a lady! When I ask him to do something I always say please, or if he does something for me, I remember to say "Thank you," and I praise him. I usually cook and do the dishes, but when I begin to do the heavy housework, he will give me a hand. He knows I have asthma so he will run the vacuum or clean the oven for me (the oven cleaning is an extra special treat for me!).

Our place is big enough for each of us to have our own space, but we often choose to do things together even when we are just relaxing around the house. He's kind to me, and we seldom disagree. I was fortunate enough to find a true love, who cares about my feelings, and although we are not wealthy people, I consider our lives to be richer for the love we have in our home.

Does this sound sappy? Well, sorry...it's just the way we have always been with each other...Gentle with each other's feelings, and with each other. If one of us gets sick, the other is there to make life more comfortable. I really believe I am in this marriage for life, and I always hope that he is as happy as I am now and have been for the last 10 years! (Actually the 10th anniversary is not until November), I am hoping we can have a gathering of some of our friends and family. Even if we just have a nice romantic dinner at home, it will be a very special day for both of us...It means that 10 years ago, the two of us joined our hands and our hearts and took a leap of faith to give our lives to each other! What could be more of a gift than having that love and security in our lives?

If you are looking for a good relationship, you will find someone who will return all of the love and consideration you try to give to them. Being a gentleman is great, but if you have a woman who doesn't appreciate it, it may be a wasted effort. A lot of women think that it has to be all about what the man does, but it's at least 50/50 if you want respect, you have to give it, and deserve it! It can't just be all dependent on the man and his actions and attitudes! I think a lot of women have lost their perspective, on what their own responsibilities in a relationship should be. So for most men, my best advice is if you are going to put forth the effort to do all of the things a gentleman should do, then don't take any crap off of the woman! If she insists on acting like a "b" word, then you may be wasting your time, if you put in your best, and she gives you nothing back, you should probably move on. I have seen a lot of nice men get involved with women who really dogged their men (not the other way around)! So guard your heart, and be sure that the critter you have hold of is capable of being a lady and a life partner and a help to a real man who is gentle with her.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I'm 23 and have a wonderful Husband :)

It's very important for any woman (including me) and society as the whole. I don't know what would happen if Men were not Gentlemen either in one way or the other.

Gentleman is the one who treats a woman like a Lady (and not a bug that can squashed with no remorse). It means a lot of things to many people but most importantly:
- For him to be respectfull, patient, loving, caring, good listener, understanding, gentle, kind, someone to feel safe with and protected by. Being a good listener is a chanllange between Men and Women since both seemed to talking in different languages and on different level of understanding. However, it's not an impossible thing to do... everyone knows how to without even realizing it. In case they don't, others will be more than happy to tell them :)
- Someone who's always there for you no matter what and can be a shoulder to lean and cry on, who won't bring you down either verbally (i.e.: negative name calling) or physically (i.e.: physical abuse).
- Someone to be able to communicate easily with, and not thinking that he would judge / be angry / mad at her for any reason, being open-minded and receptive to her emotions (at least when she's upset).
- Be her Knight in shining armor and always know right from wrong (even though it might sound silly to others, but it's important). Someone she can depend and rely on, being supportive of her and let her at times be as silly as a kid if she so chooses, be someone she can confide her darkest / scary / painfull secrets in.

Seeing this long list of "requirements" might look very demanding and impossible to do all of them at the same time. However, every man is a born and natural Gentleman no matter what many others may say negatively. It's just the Society has a different view of it and because of so many high demands on Men, everyone starts to forget that if given a chance and time, and treated with patience, kindness, and understanding... The modern Men won't have such a headache of trying to figure out just what is it that Women around them want? And, the Women will be a little bit more receptive and open to the Men and their attempts to love and care for a Lady just the way she wants them to. This trait they'll be able to pass on to their kids: boys and girls alike, giving them the most important message that they can learn: "(for boys) Be a Gentleman and treat a Girl / Woman like a Lady, and (for girls) treat a Guy / Man like a Gentleman. Treating others with respect and kindness, it'll be repaid to you a hundred-times."

The only thing that Men will have to do is to look into their hearts and see the answer that's allready in there (regardless of the Society's harsh point of views on Men expressing what they feel): THEY (Men) have the answer to that question and they hold the key to any Woman's heart :)

Answer 3

I am a 32 year old female and I've been married for 12 years. To me a gentleman is someone who opens doors for ladies, puts his lady's needs before his own, uses good manners, actually listens when women talk, and doesn't bash or put down women, either to their faces OR to other guys. It's a tough job, but somebody's gotta do it!!!! :)

Answer 4

i am 17 years old and ive been w/ my bf for 3 years. Hes not really a gentleman i sure wish he would be some times. I just love it when someone opens the door for a lady. Its really sweet....i think a turn on for a lot of women

i also agree w/ Fashionista

Answer 5

I am 40 and single. My definition of a gentlemen is a man who puts the lady first everytime! My brother has been married for 30 yrs and to this day he still opens the car door for his wife. I think that is awesome. He always is very courteous and polite to her and actually any woman he comes in contact with.

Answer 6

well i think that it is reallly important not to sound like a geek or anything but inside a girl will always apreciate a nice gentle man i cannot give out any personal information but truthfully all a guy needs to do is be nice when you talk to a girl and respect everything she does and always ask her if she cares if you kiss her or if you want to hold her just put your hand on her shoulder and then put your head on her shoulder and then make ur move its really not that hard >>> womens advice

Answer 7

I'm 14 and i'm single. I think a perfect gentleman would be some one who opens doors for girls. takes them to places, actually talks about real issues. He would all so not want to make out like most other guys I've dated

Answer 8

well i am 16 yrs old, and i have a boyfriend. he is a great guy that knows how to treat a female. well a gentlemen would be a generous and caring guy. that would open doors for you, and of course at least have mannors. also, he would have to a good listener and have feedback for you. always be there for you no matter what, and put you first before friends. and he does not put you down in anyway at all.

Answer 9

I'm 19 and my best friend and I started dating 2 years ago. In high school, he impressed me a lot by how nice he was. He opened doors for me everywhere and took me out for lunch sometimes. He won me over because he was charming and well-mannered. He dresses nicely and compliments me... And it's always good if he looks clean cut and makes a good impression on your parents, but then takes you home and bangs you like there's no tomorrow.

Answer 10

i think a gentleman is respectful of a woman and is willing to stand up for her. someone who is kind and caring counts too, but this doesn't mean the man is a wimp, someone who is confident in themselves (but not cocky/obnoxious!) is very important. i'm 26 and am engaged to the perfect gentleman (excluding his belches of course!)