what can i do to stop my parnts from getting a divorce?

Question

please i f you are just gonna say there is nothing i can do then dont answer

Answer 1

YES, THERE IS SOMETHING YOU CAN DO...PRAY, BE STILL AND SEE 'GOD' WORK FOR YOU, AND YOUR FAMILY. NEVER BELIEVE ALL IS HOPELESS. IT IS NOT. WE HAVE A 'GOD' WHO LOVE US AND CARES SO MUCH ABOUT US. I KNOW, BECAUSE I DIVORCED AFTER TWENTY- YEARS OF MARRIAGE, AND SIX CHILDREN. IT WAS TERRIBLE FOR US ALL, BUT NOW LOOKING BACK, I WAS HOPELESS TOO, AND I THOUGHT ALL WAS LOST. I DID NOT HAVE THE FAITH I HAVE NOW. NOR DID I UNDERSTAND HOW TO STAND.

I KNOW THERE ARE CIRCUMSTANCES WHEN PARENTS NEEDS TO BE APART, FOR THE SAFETY AND SECURITY OF THE CHILDREN, SPOUSE. BUT IN A LOT OF CASES, FAMILIES CAN RECOVER. I DO N'T KNOW THE INSIDE OF YOUR SITUATION, BUT, 'THAT IS WHERE 'GOD' COMES IN, WHEN ALL HOPE IS LOST. 'GOD' REALLY SEES YOUR HEART AND TEARS. I GUARANTEE IF YOU JUST TELL 'HIM' ALL YOUR TROUBLES, 'HE' WILL WORK YOUR SITUATION OUT, FOR THE GOOD.

WHEN WE TELL MAN (WOMAN OR MAN ) OUR PROBLEMS, WE TEND TO GIVE ADVICE ACCORDING TO OUR EXPERIENCES, AND EMOTIONS, WHEATER GOOD OR BAD. MAN REALLY HAS NO CONCETE ANSWER, THAT WHY WE HAVE TO SEEK A POWER GREATERS THAN OURSELVES. 'GOD' WHO KNOWS THE ANSWER TO ALL THINGS.

IHAVE FAITH IN ALL YOU DO, BELIEVE ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE, WITH 'GOD;

Answer 2

You need to remember that for them, the divorce is just a symptom; the real illness is their commitment to each other (or lack of.) As others have suggested, counseling can help; but only if both are willing to work on it. If it is clear to you that one of them is unwilling to try to reclaim whatever it was that brought them together in the first place, you can try to convince that one to try harder for your sake.

You might also firmly encourage them both to read 'The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce' by Judith Wallerstein (link below.) I used to have a link to a document that summarized 5 myths about divorce & children from the book, but I can't find it now. Here are the myths, all of which are refuted by the 25-year research of the book:

1. If the parents are happier after divorce, the children will be too.
2. Divorce is a temporary crisis whose most harmful impact is at the time of divorce.
3. The best time to divorce is when children are very young.
4. The major impact of divorce occurs in childhood or adolescence.
5. Staying in an unhappy marriage is not good for children.

Ultimately, it is they who must commit to the marriage, so there really isn't much you can do about what they feel in their hearts. I know you don't want to hear it, but you need to, so that if they do divorce, you have no illusion that it was at all your fault. It will be TOTALLY their fault! Hopefully, the info above will be of some help; if nothing else, you can say that you did what little was within your power.

My heart goes out to you. Good luck.

Answer 3

Well if you knew that there was something you could do to stop the divorce you would have done it by now!! That's why i will say there is nothing you can do!!
There has to be a reason why they are divorcing and its cuz of you for sure! Maybe they are better off on their own separate ways! Sometimes it takes a while for 2 people to figure out that its for their and others own good to be separated.
The best you can do this that be there for both your parents! That would be nicely than trying to figure out how to stop this.
They are not kids they are adults and they know what is good or bad for them!
I can understand what your going thru and its tough on you but sorry to say dear there is no way of stopping them!!
My prayers are with you!

Answer 4

Well, I a married with 2 children. They maybe going through what is known as a bad patch.
Usually it starts with one parent changing, and the other parent don't like it. I would ask your parents if they were divorced, and they were out with different people, would they feel jealous? If the answer is yes, then there is still something thing there.
I would try and get them out of the house and play games. I know that it sounds funny, but that is what me and my hubby do when we start going through something. Having fun helps alot. It takes away the stress from bills, differences in opinion...it makes you feel as if you are dating again.
Take a look at both of your parents, watch them. Is one holding the other back from doing things that they really want to do? If so, talk to that parent and ask if they could encourage the other.

Answer 5

Hai

What can you do to stop yur parnts from getting divorce is try to sit with them and give the good advice .

But one thing you have to know that pray to GOD to help them so they will solve the problem and they will be together again .

Answer 6

You should ask them what faults they are finding with the other that is leading them to this decision. What has changed? Most times it is the same old problems that they have had since the beginning. The fact is these issues never are resolved and should be solved by respecting each others differences. It is also a fact that they will carry these same problems with them to their next relationship. They will be no better off emotionally and will be worse off financially, because the attorneys will get all the money.

Answer 7

I'm sorry, but there is nothing you can do. Your parents obviously have grown apart and realized it will be better if they split up.
As long as your parents love you, don't put you in the middle of anything, try to use you against the other and the get along like parents should, try to be happy for your parents that they are happier. If they are happier and you can be happy for them that they are happier, then things will be all right. Just remember your parents are both still your parents whether they are together or not and they love you whetehr they are together or not. Their separation has nothing to do with you.

Answer 8

I would be furious with my parents. I would tell them they are both being incredibly selfish and prideful. Divorce does nothing but hurt everyone involved. If someone cheated, then perhaps they need a temporary separation to realize how much they miss each other, but not a divorce. I'm so sorry you are in the middle of this.

Answer 9

Sweetheart.... Do you love your parents? Do you want them to be as happy as they can be? They are grown ups who will do what is best for all your family, not just themselves. Trust them to do what is right. You will be loved and treasured no matter what happens. Your life will go on just fine, and...there is an up side to this..children are often treated MUCH better when things are right at home, no matter what the home may be..one or two. You would not want your mom or dad to make you stay with someone who you did not get along with...day and night. Please don't try to make them do the same thing.

Answer 10

Yes, there is something you can do. That is accept the fact that your Mother and Father are making a decision that hurts you, scares you and makes you uncomfortable. Speak individually with both of your parents, and voice your fears and concerns. Tell them you trust their decision and that you love them both, you do not expect to be put in the position of having to chose one parent over the other. You do NOT want to hear the private details of their problems, you are after all a product of the love they had for each other at one time. You are not responsible for the failure of the contract they made with each other to love, honor and cherish in sickness and in health...............
Ask them if it is possible for you to get outside counseling to provide you with neutral territory to express your anger in a more appropriate way at the situation, not at the circumstances or the people involved in your life.

Answer 11

I know that you don't want to hear this,,but there is nothing you can do. If they are going to get one, you can't stop it. What you can do, is don't do anything to make it harder on yourself. Don't wish that it isn't going to happen, know that is it and make some type of peace w/ that fact.

Sorry, I wish I could have told you something else.



Don't listen to the person that told you to run away..that will not help matters at all!