Need to talk. My husband is drunk almost everyday he is home, he is not nice that way. Help?

Answer 1

I grew up with two drunks as parents.... If you don't want to deal w/ it, kick his @ss out until he decides to comply.

Answer 2

Is there kids involved? If so take them a friends house so you can try and talk to him. Or talk to him whan he first wakes up. Alcoholism is not good for anyone. Try and get him into some counseling. If he won't go, there meetings for ppl who live with an alcoholic, and they will help you deal with him. My father was an alcoholic and would get mean on whiskey (when he drank it). As a kid growing up, I never seen what ppl got out of drinking everyday. Some ppl use alcohol as a crutch, to deal with underlying problems. My dad's reason I believe was unhappiness and/or guilt. The first step for your hubby is to admit he has a problem (which is easier said than done). Maybe he doesn't see what his drinking is doing to you/your family.Try talking to him first, if that doesn't work then try other actions.

Answer 3

Oh my, how I can relate to your question!!!! My husband is drunk everyday too. Everyday for most of the past 24 years of our lives together. At first I would drink with him, thank God I didn't develop alcoholism also. I was young, but now life has gotten so complicated with him. He's cheated on me recently.... even left me for the woman (who loves to drink also). He is back home, but let me tell you, only because he goes to work when he is here. It is very sad, because he seems to be trying hard... but I've had enough.

Please don't let the years go by. My husband has gone to AA meetings, rehab, detox, you name it. He almost lost this job he has now when he left me for this woman. That's why he's back home, because I depend on him financially, which I am working on changing right now. Don't get caught up.

Let me suggest you go to Al-Anon meetings. You cannot force him to get help if he doesn't want to, but you can get help for yourself. Find the closest meetings to you and go as often as you need to go. It will strengthen you and help you learn how to deal with this man. It will even help you get the courage to leave if you feel the need. Good luck.

Answer 4

Time to make one of those Important Life Decisions, do you feel like living with/cleaning up after/tolerating a lush on your couch for the rest of your life? If not, time to sit down and have a talk with him, get him to an AA meeting, something like that. And, if it's HIS house etc., start shopping your options...see what rent is like somewhere else living by yourself. Some people that are drunks remain that way all their lives, don't wreck your life because of something like that...

Answer 5

The best thing to do is to take yourself out of the moment. Go into another room, or take a drive and go window shopping, or if you have money, go shopping. Wait until he falls alseep or passes out and come back then. You can usually time his episodes and as soon as he starts in on you. Just leave ... and figure out when he will go to sleep. Also by you staying there for him to agrue with will only take longer for him to go to bed. He'll think darn she isnt here for me to abuse I guess I'll just go to sleep.

Come home and make yourself a big bowl of ice cream!

Answer 6

First you need to talk to him...that way he knows that you are upset. And then,,,,if nothing changes...hit the road. If you have kids...then you need to go sooner than later. If they see this behavior and the fact that you let him get away w/ it, they are going to think that is ok. and either grow up to be like him and drink all the time or grow up to be like you and let someone drink all the time and take all the crap.

Please don't let him continue..if he doesn't change, then you need to.

I was raised w/ a step-father who drank and life sucked. He was phyisically, mentally, verbally, and sexual abusive.

DON'T LET THIS HAPPEN!

Answer 7

You must worry about yourself and your family. Protect your kids and you. If you are strong than you can help your husband, but if you are haveing problems than focus first on yourself and kids.

Do not sacrifice yourself and family to try and save him. Your kids will not thank you for it later when they are older.

If you have the strength than focus on your support network and use them to get him into a program. They can really help. Plus, many of them are free or low cost. Fancy ones are availible if you have the bucks. His work might have programs also that he can use free of charge.

Answer 8

You should not be looking for answers to such a grave problem here, please seek marriage counselling.

UR HUSBAND NEEDS HELP and if you love him and want to stand by him, try getting that thru AA and counselling... If there are other residual problems and you think it's just too complicated for you to handle it now is the time MOVE OUT and seek divorce...

Answer 9

His best friend is his next drink, not you. The sad thing is that unless he is willing to make a change for himself, he will not, no matter how much you hope he will.

Best solution: Forgive yourself and move on. You don't need someone like that in your life and you do need to learn how to trust yourself again, when it comes to meeting new people.

Answer 10

Do you have any clue why he is drinking so much? Is this a new thing or has it been going on for a long time? You need to figure out what has changed recently that my be the cause.