there's this girl at work. She keeps asking me out. I always find excuses as to why I can't go out. She's really nice, but let's face it, I don't wanna go out with her. I don't want to hurt her feelings because she's a really sweet person. On the other hand, I can't keep playing dodge ball either.
2006-06-24 05:15:49 · 15 answers · asked by Kooties 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
be as honest with her as you have been with us...
it may hurt for a moment..but in the end you discover a great friendship blooming out of your truthfulness...
not telling her, and avoiding her, will only lead to hurt for her and you.
her, because she will always wonder why?
and you, because you are carrying a secret, that would cause no harm to share...{guilt}
2006-06-24 05:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by sparkalittlefire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her the "kiss of death" speech. Tell her you really like her as a friend, but there's no chemistry between you. If she still doesn't get it, tell her "no" in no uncertain terms. You're hurting her by stringing her along with excuses and letting her think there's hope in the future.
2006-06-24 12:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by CarolO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell her that you are very cautious about developing relationships with women you work with, because such things have the potential to be very distressing, should things ever go awry. Ask her to keep the work relationship professional. If she persists beyond that, then it is harassment and should be taken to a manager.
2006-06-24 12:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Michael D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then stop playing! You're only making it worse. Every time you make an excuse, you'regiving her hope. If she's a no-no on your list then make it clear that she doesn't figure in your future plans. You can then stop feeling guilty as well.
2006-06-24 12:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, like my granny always said....
"Plain talk, is easily understood."
Just tell her that you really like and care about her, as a friend....but, you just don't have romantic feelings for her.
Also, I know from experience.....dating co-workers can get very messy!
I just know, that I'd rather a guy come out and tell me his true feelings. Skirting the issue....not being direct, and honest...it just poor communication skills.
2006-06-24 12:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by treefrog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your situation I would write her a letter cuz I'm a little shy when it comes to saying thins like that.I do it all the time.She should understand.
2006-06-24 12:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would like keep telling her no, ignore her at work, and do everything possible to make it seem like youre NOT interested. probably not the wisest thought, but hey.
2006-06-24 12:18:22 · answer #7 · answered by Deelee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you seeing someone well ta da you are now just say your already involved with someone its the easiest thing to say and it usually backs the hounds down good luck
2006-06-24 12:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a while and tell her you're seeing someone. Unless you don't care if she talks to you, then ignore her
2006-06-24 12:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm and tell her you are not interested in dating. If it continues file a sexual harrasment claim.
2006-06-24 12:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by Tx_Ladybird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋