i like dressing as a girl and want to tell my family whats the best way i am a 17 year old male?

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i also was wondering how u girls deal with high heels pantythose and dresses on a day to day basis

i do kinda feel like i am trapped in the wrong body and no i do not get aroused that way and never been with a man

Answer 1

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Do you feel like you're truley a female trapped in a male body? Or do you just feel sexually aroused when wearing women's clothing? Have you been with other men and want to remain a man? Answer this so we can help you with your question!


Well then, it seems that this is WHO you are and you're not some sort of sexual deviant, this is a VERY delicate subject and I know you MUST be so confused. I do believe that this happens to people and is not some sort of psycological illness. With all due respect, I believe this is a birth defect (NOT meaning YOU"RE defected like there's something wrong with you, I mean being born in the wrong body MUST be tourture.

I highly recommend you find a website for trans-genders and find someone who went thru it to talk to about your dillema. (Not to say you should jump the gun and get a sex change) I just think you need to talk to someone who's been there, for support and to answer your questions. You should NOT feel ashamed, but at the same time, don't tell anyone about this just yet, until you talk to someone who's been there. I feel they can offer you some priceless advice. Also, aking the general public something as important as this, you're going to get a lot of negative feedback because a lot of people are close-minded and ignorant.

I wish I could remember her name, but 2 years ago, there was a trans-gender (male to female) on the news & she gave her web-site. I contacted her to let her know that not everyone in society is cruel and I wished her all the best (she'd been thru A LOT) but she is so confident and strong and we e-mailed each other for some time until we lost contact. You will find by talking to trans-genders that most of them are strong minded and very supportive (and great listeners) to people like you. Dispite common misconception, they are not sexual deviants into weird stuff (as you said you're not, too)

Also, remember, you are NOT turning your back on God. This is a triumph He made you to overcome in the way you deem fit. It's up to you to do with it what you will. God will put no weight on your shoulders you cannot bear.

I wish u all the luck and courage in the world!

Answer 2

Although I'm sure there is no EASY way. Try to pick a time when no one is distracted or busy, sit down and I suggest that you just be honest...
You could begin by letting them know that you have something very difficult to share with them... You might remind them that they love you and that love is unconditional...
If they are not unconditional people, You may want to ask a couselor if they have any ideas. They are trained professionals and if money is an expense, some give free consultations... Some might even answer that question over the phone since you won't be asking for treatment or diagnosis.
Good luck however you decide to handle it!

Answer 3

Well I think you should maybe slowly let you family know what you are feeling. If you slowly let them know what you are feeling and what you like maybe they will be more excepting might not be as much of a shock to them. My kids are very young but no matter what they choose I will always love them just the same I hope you family is the same. They know who you are inside and that is what counts. I also suggest maybe looking for a support group there are tons online. Explore more into what you are feeling and talk to other people who might be feeling the same way and make sure this is what you want. And if it is more power to you do what makes you happy others will get used to it :)

Answer 4

I would start by asking if they noticed anything kind of ... strange about you compared to other 17 year old guys. Let them do most of the talking, but make sure you say what you want to say. Also, not all girls wear high heels and panty hoes on a day to day basis. If you want to wear girls clothing in public and not get your parents or friends super weirded out then dont wear girly girly clothes everyday . it can get boring too. Right now im wearing tight jeans with sparkles on the *** pocket and a nice long brown shirt and its feminine , but not too crazy.

Answer 5

In my own opinion-being the friend of a transgendered person who is currently transitioning (FTM by the way) if you are afraid of how some or all of your family will react I would sincerely wait until you are older and possibly living on your own (at college or with roomates or a partner). God forbid your family would not accept the way you choose to live your life, at least then you won't have to deal with being "kicked out" of your home. You will already be out on your own.

Answer 6

Do you think they have no clue already? Just be straight forward with them. Make sure you prepare them before you tell them. Your parents may be a little upset in the beginning but they will get over it. They are your PARENTS! And if they don't ever get over it, then that's they're loss on missing out on your life. But I'm sure they will understand. Good Luck and I really mean that. You were honest with us, you can be with them too.

Answer 7

well, break it to them gently...that would be a hard one to adjust to...and if they don't accept it, just go do it somewhere in a club or a place where others do it and you would feel more at home...birds of a feather flock together...and what would you do if your mom dressed as a man and your dad had a dress and makeup on at dinner one nite? shocked, sure, but it would take some getting used to, so tell them, but be prepared for their answer whatever it is...and good luck to you for at least trying to come out.

Answer 8

Be yourself. You should just be upright honest. The longer you hide it the worse it is going to get. Tell your parents what you really feel. First tell your siblings. Then tell your mom. Finally tell your dad, and go to your friends for a sleep over for a few days. They will get over the anger and then more calmy discuss it. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Just tell your family that you want to be or feel like a woman. They will accept or they won't if they truly love you they will accept if they don't accept you then you might think about moving and forgetting about every one else and start out on your own. Good luck.

Answer 10

Just be honest to your family. No matter what they will always love you. Dude I have the same problem with heels and panthose. I can never wear pantyhose without them tearing.