The other day I convinced my dad to let me ride my bike 4 miles to the library. He mentioned that I should call him when I leave, when I arrive there, and that I should bring my cell phone inside. I called him before I left, but I forgot to call him when I got there. I was to excited to spend time with the person I was meeting there. I didn't tell him I was meeting anyone there. The person I met there alone was actually my boyfriend, but I knew my parents say that I'm not alloud to date until I'm 16, but I can have a boyfriend. My boyfriend and I never actuall went inside the library. We started walking to a trail and went to a pond inside the woods. I had my first kiss ever with him by that pond too ,and of course, while we're making out, his cell phone rings. He answers it and gives it to me. My dadbegins yelling at me and telling me he's been worried sick because I didn't call him and I left my cell phone in my bike. He asked who I was with and I jus said a friend.
2006-06-24 04:37:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I feel bad for lying to him and I know that telling the truth in this case will get me in more trouble. I'm grounded for two weeks and I'm not alloud to see my boyfriend who my dad still thinks is just a friend. How can I make it up to my dad? He knows that I almost never lye and I'm very trusting. I really don't want to tell him the whole truth thugh. Ant suggestions? And also, I'm only 13 and I know all of you are gonna say thats too young to be doing any of this. Thanks.
2006-06-24 04:37:31 · update #1
Time will heal all of this. Maybe even have a talk with your dad, and apologize to him for this. Eventually they'll start to trust you again, if you don't mess up again. Just remember, the stuff you do to your parents, may happen to you with your own kids. Also, parents aren't dumb. History repeats itself...they know all the tricks, because they've either heard of it, or have done it themselves. Not alot of teens realize that when they are caught in a lie, it actually hurts the parent's feelings too. The best advice that I can tell you is that you should never act in any way that would either hurt your parent's feelings or embarrass them. That way your trust will be built up, and they won't worry about you as much. If your dad would tell you to be in at 10:00, then be in for 9:30. It'll go a long way with him. Your dad was only concerned about your welfare. cause there are too many pervs out. You messed that up and now you're paying the price. If something would have happened to you, it would have really hurt your dad.....think of it like that. It's obvious to me that he loves you. And since you're so young....how about some advice about sex? Love can wait 5 years, lust can't wait 5 minutes. If you have to "prove" your love by having sex, then the guy isn't worth it, and remember you don't have to prove anything. Another thing...if you're still a virgin, girls at school may tease you about being a virgin. That's ok. Tell them this...."I can be like you anytime I want, but you can never again be like me". I wish you the best of luck..and please be careful. Have a good day....
2006-06-24 06:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start by accepting your punishment. If you are grounded, deal with it...accept it, don't argue, don't whine, just deal. If you aren't supposed to see this friend again...deal with that too. As harsh as it may sound, your parents love you, and care enough about you to have rules and guidelines for you to live by...for YOUR OWN SAFETY.
Apologize, deeply, sincerely to your father for not following those guidelines, explain to him that you understand why the rules are there, and then....obey the rules.
It may very well take a long time for your parents to trust you again...as it should. You are only 13...and the world is a dangerous place. When your grounding is lifted...use your cell phone like you are supposed to. How long does it take to keep your parents in the loop...Good grief girl.
Believe me, if you were my child, and failed to keep in touch with me, you would be hard pressed to leave the house alone again.
We parent types do the things we do because we love you and we want you safe...we were young once, and we know what kind of trouble kids can get into when left unattended.
2006-06-24 04:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by icey shine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you already know you are too young and that you were untruthful to your dad, I believe you know what you have to do. YOu may not like my answer but I hope you consider the following very carefully.
1. Rules are made for your safety and security.
2. Being responsible will lead to trust and less rules as well as understanding between you and your parents.
3. The more you are dishonest, the closer they will watch you.
4. Slow down, enjoy your youth. When relationships start, there's no stopping.
Finally, come clean with your dad and start over. Admit to him you were wrong and though it may take time, he will see the maturity in your being honest with him. That's all he wants. There are scary ppl in the world that he is trying to protect you from.
2006-06-24 04:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not to young if you think you can handle it im glad you had your first kiss but maybe you should have told your dad you were at least meeting a friend because now he feels a little betrayed tell him it was a mistake not to tell him and let him know that you can still be trusted write him a im sry card or something parents like that stuff.
2006-06-24 04:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 12:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
earning someone's trust.. especially your parent's trust back is not a piece of cake.. but they're still your parents.. he's still your dad... he will forgive you when you apologize real nice and mean what you say... you should tell him at the same time prove to him that you're really sorry...
2006-06-24 04:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by cha_ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-24 05:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jellena B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋