We started the affair 3yrs ago, he's somebody in the town and his wife well-reputated in the society; and i'm married to my husband and he doesn't know this secret relationship. I know it's wrong to see the married man but i don't know how to stop seeing him, an experienced, rich but selfish- i just can't bring myself to say NO to him. WHAT SHOULD I DO???
2006-06-24 04:00:07 · 19 answers · asked by vb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks guys .. I hope I have enough courage to end this relationship. Is there anyone who cares to share his/her experience?
2006-06-24 04:54:12 · update #1
commit suicide
2006-06-24 04:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get counseling. Why are you having an affair with a man that can be your father. Is it because of money.... ask yourself some questions. You mention that he is married, but you need to realize that so are you... Why are you even bothering with this kind of stuff. He probably thinks of you as some kind of a conquest. Remember, he is very much older than you, and since you are married, he finds it very safe to know that you wouldn't risk getting caught with him, therefore, he can keep you on the side for play for as long as you're married. I can bet that if you were to get a divorce, you would be history, because then he would be afraid that you'd become a fatal attraction. He couldn't ruin his wife's reputation like that.
Why would you want to be somebody's toy, anyway. I don't care how rich he may be, which is the reason I believe you're interested in him, it doesn't make up for the fact that you are belittling yourself and selling your soul for it.
Ask yourself one important question.... and really think about it.... would you want to lose your husband over this? It's very possible, what goes around comes around. I do believe in Karma.
You obviously want to stop this, otherwise you wouldn't be asking this question... so start going to counseling and start working on your marriage before it's too late and you lose everything. You mentioned this man is selfish, therefore, if you lose your husband, you're on your own and you'll have a lot more pain.
2006-06-24 04:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know love triangles never work and many of them end in disaster. If you don't end this relationship soon, someone is going to find out and tell people and/or your husband and/or his wife is going to find out anyway. And if this older man will do it with you, he will do it to you with someone else! I'm guessing both of you have cell phones so if you are too tempted to see this older man, don't answer his phone calls and/or email. Delete his number off of your cell phone, delete his messages and change your number if you can! And by the way, get yourself checked for any STD's. If it turns out you do have any, it's a possibility that you could have spread it to your spouse, then that will be the time to come clean to him.
2006-06-24 04:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he brings out something in you that your marriage does not give you. However, you are being manipulated by what you are getting out of this.
I would cut communication off with this man...it further complicates a marriage that has problems. I would then assess what YOU want, and determine if your marriage can deliver it.
If you can communicate with your husband and get what you need, that would be the best option.
If you can't get that from your husband, then you need to decide whether or not you can live without that.
If you can't then you need to consider other options that would make you happy.
2006-06-24 04:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off ur married so the thing to do is tell ur husband see what he does brake off the affair before u tell ur husband that way atleast u would have done something good and if the other guy feels like telling his wife then let him dont u be the one to brake the news to her thats their buisness u just handle urs first have a friend in tha car and then u go up to the door say u want out and blah blah blah and then say u have ur friend in the car and that u half to go then never go see him again if u ever need to tak email me at flashes_girl2010@yahoo.com ok my names elizabeth
2006-06-24 04:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad mam you need to go home and sit down you will reap what you sow and sooner or later that relationship is going to catch up to you. why would you cheat on your husand? You need some help and im not trying to be funny. Why are you degrading yourself and your family. That man is also a disgrace as well. He should be ashamed. Why even get married if you dont plan on respecting your wedding vows it is ridiculous. I would like to talk to you more email me at jus_032000@yahoo.com
2006-06-24 04:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone cheating on a good spouse is sick. You romance an old man or a teen guy it's sick. Otherwise a relation with an old guy at an mature age depends on many facors
2006-06-24 04:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by Vio Prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is for certain, if your spouses find out your going to wish you had handled it differently.
Saying no is protecting all the people involved and your own self reputation.
Learn to say NO, this on the side relationship won't bring anything but pain to many people in the long run.
2006-06-24 04:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start saying NO!!! You say that he has a wife, and you have a husband!!! Don't you find this a little tricky getting together??? Is he taking you out??? Or is it just SEX??? Is he going to be there for you if your husband finds out??? Think about these things!!!! Good LUCK to you!!!
2006-06-24 04:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to stop seee him. Because think of this way what if you were his wife and he was cheating on you. So if you guys are really in love leave your husband and get him to leave his wife.
2006-06-24 04:20:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up a more interesting question. Include lurid sexual details. This made-up story is dull.
2006-06-24 04:03:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋