after knowing each other all through high school, we finally hooked up five years later. we live together, he's told me he loves me and even made little comments about "when we get married" even though he hasn't asked. then suddenly last night he said he's moving back to his moms and he thought we moved too fast and he thinks he needs to be single for a while. he packed his things but then totally "made out" with me and spent the night, he said he would see me tonight when i left for work this morning. WTF is going on? is he scared or is there annother woman?
2006-06-24 03:54:55 · 21 answers · asked by Mz. Tanning Bed Junkie! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am at a loss too as to why he would do that. Especially since he made out with you and spent the night. Maybe he's getting scared, maybe there is someone else, maybe he's gay... who knows? One thing is for sure, you should walk away from him. Let him know that you love him, but you love yourself more. Let him know that you hope he figures it out soon, but that you are a strong person and won't allow yourself to go through this pain any longer than necessary. I know it is very difficult, but cut ties as quickly as possible.
One of two things will happen:
He will realize he misses you and come back. Or he will realize that he doesn't really love you.
Now, listen closely, if he doesn't come back, it isn't the end of the world. He is actually doing you a favor, even though it doesn't seem this way now. He's setting you free to be able to be with the person that you are meant to be with. He's setting you free to find someone that can love you the way you are meant to be loved.
Now, pick yourself up and put on that smile. I know it is a fake smile, but you have to fake it until ya make it. You keep smiling long enough and it will be real.
You deserve happiness and someone that will be there for you, not run back to mommy.
2006-06-24 04:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by MissCan'tBeWrong 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is the case of someone who doesn't know what they want. Whether or not there's another woman on the side. This guy isn't marriage material because you don't have him completely and he isn't there for you completely. Hello?! He moved back home to his mom's! People who have problems in the relationship should be mature enough to work it within the relationship and not move back home to mommy! If you want to spend your time and energy waiting around for this guy, then you won't be happy. You know you're not happy right now anyway. So it's best to divert, keep yourself busy, meet new people. Anything you can to get over him.
2006-06-24 11:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's living with his mom, I doubt there's another woman ... unless it's his mother. Obviously he's not ready to get married and settle down. If he wants to cool the relationship, cool the relationship. You know, really, deep inside you, whether or not this is a relationship you WANT to keep. If it is, if he's really that good, be patient, let him live with Mom, rewind the relationship a little, and let it go forward. If it's NOT a relationship you want to keep, then tell HIM, when he wants to make out, that it's moving too fast, you want to be single for awhile, and could he please give you space because you've got a hot date at 7:00. Only you really know what you should do next.
2006-06-24 11:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by crispy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oi....since I don't know all the details and I don't know the guy I can only guess. I think he may just be kinda scared thinking he's taken things too far too fast or he may have met someone else and wants to be with them. Personally I'd ignore him kind of, if he wants to make out I'd say that I'd rather not until we have things sorted out. You need to see if the relationship is going to last first. If he can't decide then that's his problem, but do talk it over and don't make any quick decisions. Good luck.
2006-06-24 11:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kirsten T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please read.
Another woman! May b u are
1.A threat 2 d other and he needs 2 prove u are not. Or
2. He wants 2 have enough time with her and does not want u 2 catch him or suspect his unfaithfullnes.
He has now got a new woman and thinks u're bored. But when he realises it's all d "same thing", he will definately come back. U've made memories.
Don't force or fight. Don't accuse him. Just Keep cool.
2006-06-24 12:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by kinny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds to me the he's really confused. HOWEVER, just because he is confused doesn't mean that you should allow him to play with your emotions. he is going to continue to leave, come back, as long as you allow him to. maybe its time for you all to take a break for a minute, let him sort some things out as well as yourself...my suggestion would be to let him go back to moms house. ask him about marriage to see what he says. also, i think the longer you allow him to enjoy the "benefits" of marriage (sex, meals, home together, etc...)he will not marry you. don't let this guy move back in...if he decides to step up to the plate and marry you (buys the ring and proposes) you got a winner. if not you know what you will be in for if you decide to stick around...
2006-06-24 15:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what the heck is going on here. I would have said another woman until you said he wanted to see you later that night and made out with you. But then again my bf was seeing someone else and I had been with him for 5 years and was mad cause I wanted to break up with him over it cause he told me not to worry he was not going to be with her she was moving.
2006-06-24 10:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by sweetblonde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow slow down... i think he might have second thoughts but is still very much in lovewith u..never think of cheating or anything like that because it will make u never see him again...he is just having a tough time thinking about commitment so u need to let him take a lil break..he will come around eventually...dont stress it u will be sorry if u do
2006-06-24 10:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by jayda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be one, the other or both. Or maybe it's that he knows he can play you like that. He knows that your there and willing to take whatever leftovers he might throw at you. Do yourself a favor sweets, fine yourself a real man and show Mr. Pathetic what you really needed and deserve.
2006-06-24 15:44:24 · answer #9 · answered by ~Mother Of Angels~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine he wants to be single and get with other women, hence seeing to you before he left.
I would say yes there is another girl too.
Sorry. Not all blokes are like that though
2006-06-24 10:59:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋