if my gf tends to hint on having a baby too much...and i dont really care for one now...is that a problem?
any suggestions would help :P
2006-06-24 03:24:06 · 16 answers · asked by Iceman 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
make SURE you have possesion of the condom at all times you wouldnt want any "ACCIDENTAL" holes in the condom forreal be careful some women are straight crazy ... just be honest and tell her look im not ready and if she keeps on and keeps on then i think she wants the baby more than a man or else she wants an easy road to marriage anyways just BE ON THE LOOK OUT if its that important to her maybe she should find someone who wants a baby at this point instead of over pushing it with you ... good luck
2006-06-24 18:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by mama lesha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should let her know that having a baby would be a decision of two, the fact that she wants a baby does not mean that she is ready for one. Tell her that you should enjoy eachother more before making the biggest decision of your life (after marriage of course) then let her know that there is time for everything. Don't let her carry you on what she wants to do....your voice counts too and if you love her and if she really loves you you both can come up with something you both agree on....Good Luck!!
2006-06-24 07:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really people who want babies so despirately are either low on self esteem or having hormones kicking in telling them to want a baby
alot of teens who want babies its because of self esteem issues, they see people with babies get so much attention because of pregnancy and baby that psychologically they develope a desire for a baby - this is entirely irresponsible though and many who have babies mess up their own lives and the lives of that child forever...
you need to sit down with her and discuss your long term plans and goals.. if you want to get married that is first.. buying a house should also be an important goal - careers etc... like this "ok you want a baby.. well before we have one we had best to get things in order, I mean we need to be better off financially since raising a kid costs thousands of dollars a year and means we cannot go out as much, and wont have any alone time. We need to calculate our budget and plan now to save for a house - then after we have reached a certain point - lets try for a baby, but right not it would be irresponsible"
2006-06-24 03:35:52 · answer #3 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious with this girl and want to make a lifelong commitment to a child, then set down a number of conditions that you have to meet before getting her pregnant. Things like, You need to have a good job with health insurance, you should have all your bills (car, house,etc.) paid off, you both should have good educations and set an age. If she is serious she will understand that you want the best situation for a child, if she doesn't understand then she is to immature for a child to begin with. Don't let anyone hurry you, You have a couple of decades to father children, make sure the time is right.
2006-06-24 03:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Edward F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that a baby is not in the cards for you right now. Be honest so she will either stop hinting, or find someone who wants to make a baby with her.
2006-06-24 03:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by Robsthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better wear protection.....condom only,your`s not her`s and don`t listen if she says she is on birth control.Sorry I know it sounds bad coming from a girl but its true some women trick there men.In all kinds of ways poke holes in condoms go off BC and say they are still on.Any way make sure your both on the same page,Tell her you don`t want any now,If she can`t respect your feelings then she`s not right for you any how.Sorry good luck.
2006-06-24 04:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by *~*dragonFly*~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her that you dont want a baby right now. Tell her that you dont feel ready to take such a respoinsibility as a baby's and that you dont want to be a father at the time. And, dont let the pregnancy-protection to her coz she "maybe forget it"....
2006-06-24 05:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that your not ready for a baby yet. dont let her tamper with contraceptives if your not ready because you might have a baby to take care of for the rest of your life and be stuck to her forever.
2006-06-24 03:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by marishka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, that's a problem. You gotta watch girls like that, some of them do crazy things like try to get pregnant by having sex with you when they are ovulating, and not telling you that they were ovulating, or stop taking their birth control without telling you. So watch yourself. I think you should talk to her, and tell her you are not ready. If she doesn't seem to get it, then you should dump her. If you're not ready to be a Daddy, you shouldn't be pressured into it.
2006-06-24 03:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate nicely with your gf about how you feel, reassuring that you not being ready for a baby does not in any way discount your love for her.
Without proper communication, you may still "get it from her" (e.g. a earful? a stare? the you-don't-love-me glare?) when you put on your condom.
2006-06-24 04:18:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋