I don't want a divorce how can I stop it happening?

Answer 1

Mutual respect, listen, communication and trust. Tell them how you feel. Say positive things to and about them appreciate each other. Above all respect yourself. It takes two make a relationship work. Compromise meet them half way but don't go out of your way to make up excuse for them if there consistently negative.

Answer 2

I don't know where you are, but here in the UK, you can't stop divorce if your partner chooses it.

However, like us, you must have some rights, for example, if you dispute divorce here, your partner must wait five years to start their own proceedings.

But in all honesty, it's wiser and better on yourself to sit down and talk it through and agree an amicable divorce.

We have a saying too: 'There is no such thing as a clean divorce', and sadly, that's all too often true.

You either let the legal people in and it gets seriously messy, nasty and expensive, because that's the way they work.

Or, you do the job yourself (I did) by cutting out the legal beagles and making it much cheaper.

Before you do anything at all, try getting your partner to agree to counselling or mediation, then if after that, he/she still wants out of the marriage, sit down together and work out how it works financially, and how together ,you will share the children's needs for time with both of you. And share their long term care and income needs.

Whatever else happens, if children are involved, don't stop talking to each other, don't argue in their presence and don't use them as weapons to beat each other with.

If your partner can't do any of this, you must walk away and make the cleanest break you can, for their sake.

If no children are involved, let him/her go, because a resentful partner is not a partner at all, and you will end up the loser in more ways than with just a broken heart.

Good luck ,I hope your future will be happier.

Answer 3

You are a good woman and i ask God to protect your marriage and make it last and worth the while. Blessed with good and pious children too.
First, you need to realise that the closest word to marriage is divorce. However, it is the opposite of marriage and therefore cannot be so good. You can avoid it- as long as you are convinced you can still make the best out of it.
Men are to head and direct the home. At times the head go sick, at such a time it behove the woman to hold the reign as a deputy pending when the m,an will regain his sanity and be the man.
To make the home work and stay peaceful, you need patience and soft heart. Very hard but thats the truth. Man and woman are not equal, though many live in delution about this ascertion. Help your man to lead the home. Be his partner and matron. Be his mother at times and be his wife the most. Give whatever -is in your capacity- that he ask for. Forget detractors who'd tell you they have it rosy. No marriage is ever rosy. Two different person cannot make and live in absolute peace. We can only learn to tolerate and accomodate one another. Let love govern and keep the children to know and see him as the head and father. Without him as the head, the boat will rock. Submit to him and read his worries and be a sister in whom he'd repose total confidence.
Make him accrpt you not as a stranger anymore, but a part of his nuclear family.
Learn and accept that every relationship [matrimony] starts good and happy. With time, symptoms of crisis sets in. Be sharp in reading this quick and deploy patience and tact to live thru this period, that must set in into every relationship.
Please do not ask for divorce, your relationship will work. Go down on your forehead and tell this to God. He'd touch his heart.
Salaam

Answer 4

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Answer 5

it depends if your husband wants a divorce then you can contest it but that will just make the proceedings longer and more drawn out.

if your having problems and scared it may go to a divorce try a therapist where u can both talk out what your having problems with.

or if your just married and scared of divorce...dont focus on what hasnt happened and focus on the good in your relationship am sure if you stay just as you are as u where when u got married things will be fine

Answer 6

I don't know that you can stop it as it is the other person's decision as well. What you can do is not be that cooperative with it, I don't mean fight, but don't sign everthing right away either. The best thing for you to do is take care of YOU! Take a new course, get your hair done, join activities, buy a new outfit, etc...build a life around you! I find that when you don't want a man that bad anymore, they want you...but when you beg and plead and want them it turns them off. So be strong, be funny, be your beautiful self and concentrate on YOU!

Answer 7

You can not stop it from happening if the other party truly wants one. The only thing you can do is state your opinion, and if they are willling to listen, maybe there is a chance to not get one. If they still want one, accept it, and move on in your life. Life does not end when you get divorced....it actually begins, or did for me. Good Luck!!

Answer 8

you can't. sad thing is that it takes 2 to agree to marry, but only 1 to decide on a divorce.

the question you need to ask yourself if 'why do you want to be with someone that does not want to be with you?'. Having been through the same thing, it is not easy. I went to counseling for a while and *highly* recommend it to anyone going through the same thing. Work on your own issues (you have them, i guarantee it) and when you are healthy you can prosper again. You may not get divorced, people do change their minds, but you both need to see a good counselor together to get the issues out in the open for discussion. good luck.

Answer 9

Well, just like marriage, divorce is bi-polar activity.The way to understand and appreciate a marriage is to count on the subtle side of it. One should not marry a person with whom he/she can live, but without whom he/she can not. We do great mistakes trying to impose the burden of living under the same roof on marriage. Marriage is a much bigger issue. It transcends everything. There is no point on holding on a marriage. It will be like holding sands on your palm, the more you try to hold, the less you have. If the bond of marriage is there, future will witness the strength.

Answer 10

First, believe it or not, move out. Strange as this sounds it will give both of you breathing room. Second, usually there is a third party lurking around. Let that play out. Go and talk to a priest or minister that has dealt with marital problems, it doesn't matter if you have or know one. Don't drag your partner to a counseller if they are unwilling. And usually they are or want to prove that you are the cause of the problems.