Any women care to explain this please??

Question

Me and another single male friend of mine decided to do a test. For two weeks we would go out to clubs to pick up women and we would act like gentleman, very nice, romantic, affectionate, etc etc. After those two weeks, we then went out to clubs acting like complete jerks, arrogant, cocky, insulting to women (no physical abuse) and we picked up 3 times more women during the two weeks we acted like jerks. The two weeks we we acted like gentlemen we got very few responses. And this is all kinds of women, single, married etc. Married women especially responded to our "jerk" attitudes. So what is the deal ladies?

Answer 1

Dude I like your style. Great test. When I was single though, I would walk into a place like I was the only guy on the planet. I had so much confidence that I would walk out with someone it drew attention. Arrogant maybe, but it worked! I was however not a jerk to anyone. I acted very respectful, courteous, and a true gentlemen. I think that is something that is missing these days and when women see it, they are all over it. When is the last time you saw some guy stand up when a woman sits down at a table? Very rare, but, if you do things like that, you will be a great success. I have been with allot of different women, I am not bragging, well maybe a little, but the secret is always be respectful, confident, and most of all be a gentlemen, that my friend is something women just don't see anymore.You will be one in a million and the one they go home with.

Answer 2

When you pick a woman up at a bar, they are just seeing a quick glimpse of your personality, not the real thing. In your case, you were giving them something made up. Regardless of that, my theory is this.....women like confidence and strength in men. The Jerky Guy persona exudes this in the initial meeting more than the nice guy persona. So, although you may be able to get more interest up front with "Jerk", I don't think the interest would continue over any period of time. The "jerk" would become annoying in a short time and then she would long for the "nice guy". The key to it, guys, is this: It is possible to demonstrate confidence and strengh to a woman without being an ***. You can also be nice without being a wimp. It can't really be that hard, just treat a woman the way you would want to be treated by her.
My husband picked me up at bar. He is a very good example of what I'm saying. He radiates the confident, secure, strong male vibe, a real "mans' man". At the same time, he tells me he loves me many times during the day, brings flowers on a regular basis and not afraid to do housework. It is possible to be the best of both worlds.

Answer 3

There are many many women that have low self esteem. More do than not. The ones with low self esteem tend to gravitate to "jerk" guys because they unknowingly feel that is all they deserve. It stims from abusive family life growing up, weight, looks, etc. Sure you can hook one of these easily, but good luck getting rid of her. When you acted like gentlemen, the women that responded to you felt they deserved to be treated with respect & would have walked away the moment you acted like a jerk. Which one would you want raising your daughter ?

Answer 4

You need to look at the type of women you picked up both times. Regardless of whether they were married or not.

I can bet that the type of women you picked up when you were gentlemen were a more mature, classier type. As opposed to the type of women I am sure you picked up when you were being jerks.

Take a look at that. Either way, married women shouldn't be being picked up, so I'm wondering how many you picked up while you were being gentlemen, probably none. I am sure that only Jerky wives would be out there looking to be picked up.

Answer 5

Both men and women in this generation have bought into the feminist lie that women want to be treated just like men, or even better than men, but our basic instincts are still the same. Women want men who are strong and can protect them. Unfortunately those are not readily available anymore so we tend to gravitate toward the "bad boys" as a sad replacement. What women really want are men who will not bow down to them, who will protect them even from themselves, who are not afraid to stand up for what is right. Look at John Wayne. Honestly he wasn't that good looking, so why was he so attractive to women? He had that perfect mix of touch and sweet going on.

If you really want to attract women, no matter what your appearance is, learn to be a dominant male. Go to some of the Yahoo groups like Dominant Men and Submissive Women and learn from the doms on there. Read "Man of Steel and Velvet". It's an OLD book but has great advice. If you're a Christian, go to the "Patriarch's Path" website and read the advice to males learning to be the heads of their households.

Answer 6

Because some silly women confuse jerky and arrogant with confidence. You two should be careful! Any jerk knows that when it gets down to it, quality is much better than quantity any day!

Answer 7

I can't speak for all women but I wouldn't have let you be a jerk to me. I guess they liked the bad boy attitudes.

Answer 8

It must be the sort of places that you hang out. I for one much prefer gentlemen to jerks.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I have 2 theories:

(1) As a breed, we women are taker carers. We want to take care of something broken and fix it. We choose men that are beneath us and want to help "raise them up".

(2) We do not believe that we are as good as we really are and secretly think that we deserve less so we settle for negative behavior from our suitors.