I truly love my gf, but this whole situation of mine (please check my past questions,cause it doesn't make much sense writing everyhing again and again - shortly - my mom does'nt accept my relationship and my gf, she's desperate to do ANYTHING just to keep me away from her and stop me from, as she said, destoying my life) is eating me alive and I get more scared now about what will future bring. I'm not sure of anything, except that I love my gf and that I don't wanna hurt either my mom or my gf. I scared of what my mom will do, I'm scared of what she can make me do and what's more that in the end, even tho I love my gf with all my heart, I'll obey my mom... then my mom won't get hurt, but me & my beloved.. each solution will bring pain to someone..
2006-06-24 01:07:59 · 9 answers · asked by bara_no_seido 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I know there isn't any question in what I wrote, it's just that there's no-one here I can talk with and I need to hear some opinons from ppl who aren't involved..
thanks guys..
2006-06-24 01:09:00 · update #1
I have seen this alot, even with my nephew who just came out of the closet. Parents dont want their kids to say or act like they are gay. They are trying to protect you because they think you dont know what you are doing.
Consider this, talk to your mom and tell her more about your feelings and how you feel about your girlfriend. Explain that you know about the choices youre making and that you have considered the choices carefully( you have right). Explain that you need her support and respect her opinion but you also want to be happy in your life and that your gf makes you happy.
Make no mistake, living an alternative lifestyle is difficult but it is not permanent, if you change you mind it is easy to move on in another direction later.
2006-06-24 04:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by walter4p46 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are adult enough to make your own decisions, you should be old enough to know that sometimes there is not a right answer for everyone involved in a single situation. Do what you feel is right, explain your reasons to those you believe you have hurt and move on.
If you are too young to know that, you had better trust your mother.
2006-06-24 08:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel you can sit down with you mom and tell her all about you and how you feel, then maybe you can write a letter to her, explaining all of your thoughts, feelings, fears and happiness to her. I think it's important to help her understand who you are and that you're still her daughter that she loves and that you love her. But let her know that you need to be happy.
2006-06-24 11:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by gmfo22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And that is how you have to see this situation. That no matter what you do, someone will get hurt. With that in mind, remember that this is YOUR life, not your mothers, not mine, nor anyone else's.
YOUR happiness is first and foremost in the world. Be happy.
2006-06-24 08:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the end you gotta be true to yourself. if your mom can't accept that, then you gotta move out as soon as you can. I'm not saying you should stop loving your mom, just prevent her from controlling your life.
2006-06-24 08:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you the only child you have to grow up take charge of your life you cant listen to mom the rest of your life you have to make mistakes and be happy
2006-06-24 08:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust in the LORD, HE will bring you through all of this...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-06-24 08:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your girl friend, your life, y worry about ur mum. Tell her she's a homophobe! be assertive.
2006-06-24 08:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by meta-morph-in-oz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your life, live it.
2006-06-24 08:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋