my boyfriend and i were on a trip together i went down to the shop to grab some milk and when i came back i saw him having sex with another girl on in our bed so i left him...ive been quite happy moved on and found a wonderful guy and were married...then about a week ago my ex came back on my doorstep and begged for me back of course i said no...but oh no he wouldnt take no as an answer and he keeps ringing and bugging me and my husband and my husband cant take it anymore so hes about to leave me!!! i need advice and quick!!! its not fair i have been cheated on and now the guy that cheated on me force my hubby to leave me HELP!
2006-06-24 00:24:34 · 14 answers · asked by Prof. Horse Rider 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to be completely honest with your husband. If you haven't already, and i am sure you have, i would tell him about what happened. Try to find out why he is thinking about leaving you. Maybe he is a little bit insecure?? Or perhaps he has gotten the impression that you are still interested in this other man. If you truly don't want him coming by and ringing you all the time, see if you can't talk to the police about it, sometimes they will simply go and talk to him and he'll get the message. If nothing else it would tell your husband that you are serious about staying with him. Good luck..... on another note, it must be rather disappointing to have your husband not stand by you, and choose the easy way out instead?
2006-06-24 00:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Number one, your husband should be standing by your side. I know it has to be hard, but his leaving will not solve the problem. The only thing I can say is change your phone number, and do not answer the door. Hopefully he will tire of his actions. I do hope your husband will reconsider. Make sure you have made it very clear to your ex that you no longer want to have anything to do with him. You can always apply for a restraining order against your ex. I wish you the best. Tell your husband to hang in there.
2006-06-24 07:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband repeatedly that he has nothing to worry about and you only want him. and keep telling your ex no, he'll eventually get the point. although if it is so easy for a situation to cause your husband to call it quits maybe there are other problems as well. you should have a long talk and smooth out all the edges. i know if i had a husband, not only would he be standing by my side, but he'd be helping me close the door everytime my ex showed up for me.
2006-06-24 07:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by madison018 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops and file a report on harassment. Put a P.P.O. on his stupid butt. And when he breaks it, call the police. Don't allow that jerk to split up you and your husband. That is what he is trying to do. Record every thing he does. When he calls don't answer the phone just make a record of it. If he shows up tell him to leave or you will call the police. Get the law involved before he does break up your marriage.
2006-06-24 09:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by brighteyes62301 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy - file a restraining order - tell your husband that you would consider moving away...whatever you have to do to save your marriage. Discuss how you feel with your husband and make sure you have no contact what so ever with your ex.
2006-06-24 15:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by auntb629 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your husband and tell him how this other guy means nothing to you.
Ask hubby to work with you to get the jerk to go away.
If your hubby sees you are sincere, he should want to cooperate.
If not, you have 2 jerks in your life.
The 2 of you may wish to involve informing the police.
2006-06-24 07:56:58 · answer #6 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report to the police and get a restraining order. This ex should be shot. How is it he has your phone number and address after all these years??? Something's fishy I think. You were still in contact with him? Ask yourself alot of questions.
2006-06-24 10:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there really isn`t much you can do about the "stalker", maybe talk to your local law enforcement. and as for your husband, why can`t he stand by you, it` not your fault this guy is acting so stupid. maybe if you guys just try to ignore him, he`ll get the idea. your husband should stick by you, if that`s all it takes to make him leave, maybe you should take a good look at him.
2006-06-24 07:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by broncobillie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File a restraining order agains this guy! People do not have the right to harrass each other. I do have to ask though...why hasn't your husband pounded this guy into the ground?
2006-06-24 07:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by Gregie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats messed up....sounds like your hubby needs to handle the situation and tell the ex b/f to hit the road and leave you alone.
2006-06-24 07:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by amazincajn_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋