if he says after 3 years he won't get hard and its not you he has to screw around is he worth having at all

Question

details he started hitting me in aug of 05 he claims he loves me to death he plays with my head i know i have to get out of this but my heart says stay i built this dam life now the sex issue is on the table he jacks off all the time he wants other women does every man screw around on women

Answer 1

I am a man... so you may not want to hear my answer, but no, not every man is like that. He is an abusive being which meant that he probably was dealt abusive punishment as a child. You say that " he jacks off all the time and he wants other women". This is the key for your way out... drop this man, get a restraining order and move on... There is a special man out there who will treat you with respect and pleasure you in ways that you cannot imagine. And guess what... THAT man doesn't hit you. Just do like I said. drop him, restraining order, and move on babe. Stay with a friend for a while and let your love life get back on tracks. You can do it.

Answer 2

If this guy is hitting you, as in physically asualting you, that's a greater reason to get out now. If he tells you he can't have sex with you because he physically can't perform, but has no problem masturbating and having sex with others, that ought to tell you something. If that was really his problem and he loved you there are plenty of meds on the market now to solve that problem and he wouldn't cheat on you and he surely wouldn't hit you. It's been said that we teach people how to treat us. Sounds like your decisions to tolerate these actions are teachinghim it's ok and he can do what he wants with you. You need to cut your losses and move on. If he assaults you again call the police; he'll get the message real quick because I'm guessing you have been staying together and probably still are. Every state now has very strict family violence laws which cover anyone living together or even just staying together part time. He'll be arrested without a doubt. Even if you are not living together, it's still assault and at the least he'll get charged w/simple assault depending on if you are injured or night. Then tell the officers you want him to be issued a Criminal Tresspass Warning, which is you telling him not to return or comeon your property again in the presence of witnessing officers who will document it in a report and give you a copy of the warning with his namme and their report number. If he returns after that, whether he's there when police arrive or already left, he'll be arrested for Criminal Tresspass. If he continues to contact you at work, in public, by phone, or harrasses or follows you, get a restraining order or a protective order. It sounds harsh, but you need to get this guy out of your life. Trust me, if he can get it up with another female he's lost interest in you sexually. I think you know that and just don't want to accept it. There are plenty of decent guys out there who will treat you right and contribute to a happy sex life. If you fail to stop his physical abuse, it will only escalate; it never decreases or ceases. I've answered thousands of domestic violance calls over the years, and if the assaulted payy doesn't put a stop to it, eventually she's either severely injured or ends up dead. Trust your instincts, you know it's over.

Answer 3

The fact that you're even asking this question, you need to talk to a professional because you need help. Your self worth and value seems non existent. He was never worth having at all. And no every man doesn't screw around on their woman...only jerks. The odds of him becoming a better person and changing...don't hold your breath unless you plan on it to be your last.

He hits you and loves you to death...more like he's going to cause your death. Look online or in the phone book. Go find assistance for battered women...I wouldn't threaten breaking up or leaving until I get advice on steps to take from people who deal with this situation day in and day out....and like I said people as in who help battered women.

Answer 4

It seems like there is too much going on besides the "sex" issue. You guys don't have that connection anymore and it appears he needs outside stimuli. That in itself is not a good thing. You can suggest counseling and therapy but if he refuses then you need to make a choice. Either be together and be miserable or alone and stress free. And by the way we don't all like to screw around. Good luck and let your conscience be your guide.

Answer 5

first of all,no man should hit a woman,for any reason.He is using you so he wont be by himself,and has someone to blame for his messups,you need to start thinking with your head not your heart,right now you need to worry about whats good for you and not feel sorry for him.Your peace of mind is more important than a sex life right now, get out of this relationship asap.

Answer 6

He's being unreasonable by treating you the way he has. AND he's hit you. Sirens should've been going on in your head. Leave him now. Things will just get worse. He doesn't deserve you and you should go and find someone who will treat you right and love you.

Answer 7

There will be no fire without any spark , have you done anything to hurt him first , please think it over or is it that you are not able to make him hot , when he can jack off so many times and want other women there must be some thing which is missing in you , please think and see .

Answer 8

No most men are not like him, and if he is hitting you get the hell out. Leave the loser to play with himself.

Answer 9

no but you really need to leave him let him play with himself and get out of there

Answer 10

no sweetie we dont, if he does that to you, you need to get out, there are still some of us looking for a good woman, to love , good luck