When is it good to be a parent?

Question

This is not when did you know that you wanted to be a parent... How do you know that it is the right time in your life to start a family. How do you know that if you are pregnant that you will not **** up. and how do you know if you are going to be as good as your parent(s) or better. And If you are ready then how do you conceive.... Which way is easier and if you wish and pray does it work.... And why is it when you think that you are ready the people around you who dont deserve it or cant handle it are the ones to recieve the blessings???????????????? help me please

Answer 1

There is no certain age that is right to be a parent with the exception of school aged parents. i was 28 when I became a Mom for the first time and 36 the second time. I had all the same questions that you have. Am I capable? Will I be a good mother to both my kids or will one get less of me? Can I handle this? Am I ready for this? Bear in mind, God never gives you more than you can handle. One cannot say who deserves a blessing from God (a child). Only God can do that. God will also choose when to bestow that blessing in His time. I know that is hard to hear, but so true. I got pregnant with my son using a condom. I truly believe that God allowed that so that I would finally be forced to go to the doctor and find out that I had cancer and had had it for at least 6 years.

The fact that you are asking these questions of yourself hints that you have given this a lot of thought and want to be a good parent. As for if you will be better ar at least as good as your own parents - do what all good parents do. The best that they know to do. And don't be afraid to ask questions or for advice. Your child's doctor is a great person to ask advice from. Believe me, he has heard it all. And he gets input from all the other mothers in his practice. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Ok you should be financially stable in your life.. you should own your own home because this is the most important thing a parent can do for a child (paying rent is foolish, and kids need yards and a sense of permanence - growing up in an apartment or rental house offers no stabiltiy)
second - old enough that you have watched others mess up.. some spoil their kids - give in if the kid whines.. this is setting up for disaster when the kid is a teen, so watch people now see what mistakes they make and see what they do right
third - back to finances - a childs most formitive years are the first 5-6 a parent needs to make a sacrifice at this time, if one parent can stay home wiht the kid till 5 yrs old it will turn out much better than those babies dumped in day care at 6 months - so you need to be financially well off enough (or willing to make sacrifices in not buying so much junk) that one parent can stay home with the child or even work part time only....

Too many people have babies because they are selfish and they are not mature enough to put the needs of the child first.. they have a baby because society loves babies and they want to fit in.. or because of some other need.. but seldom do they really think about what matters most.. the new car? or the baby having time with its mom and dad....

the best age to have a child is between 28-34. You are more settled in life, know what you want, and know what is important and what isnt. You are more patient and able to be a better parent.. any younger and you still want time and things to do for yourself.. any older and you just dont have the energy....

having 1 kid ONLY is best for the future of that child and the planet as a whole.. more is putting too much of a strain on our planet as people are not dying off as young as they used too.. it is estimated that within 100 years (I think less) there may be executions based on a persons age to limit population

Answer 3

I don't think that there's a certain age for becoming a parent, just a certain level of maturity and financial ability. Children are so wonderful in every aspect, and so complex...They will break your heart on a daily basis in good ways and tough. You have to be ready to grieve in their failures with them and then triumph with them during their victories. It's an emotional rollercoaster.
You take what you know your parents did right and use it and eliminate the things they did wrong only to find that you've done something else wrong because there is no such thing as a perfect parent, and thank goodness that's ok. When you're ready to concieve start charting your cycle, basal body temperature and maybe even check into an ovulation prediction kit. All of these things will assist you in your attempts. Please keep in mind that it can take a good while to become pregnant ( even over a year for some couples) Best of luck and just enjoy trying! Whatever you do don't stress or it will take longer.

Answer 4

Noone is ever ready.. I have 3 boys and I'm still not...There is never a right time to have a child. Some people put it off forever cuz its never the "right time". Just makes sure you are happy with yourself the way you are now and if you are old enough just let nature do its thing. How do you conceive? It just happens...

Answer 5

it would be better to have at least one child in a year or two after marriage because you don't know how long you will have to try to become a parent.If you start it very late and the age of women exceeds the age a being able to give birth to a baby then what will you do.

Answer 6

After being a child yourself around 25yrs u should be ready.......

Answer 7

when ur age is above 28.. that is more matured age..

Answer 8

have alot of sex and dont stress, eat right

Answer 9

I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE SAYING. GO FIGURE. THATS LIFE.

Answer 10

when you are financially secure, and EMOTIONALY secure