Can an affair help a marriage?

Answer 1

Yes.
What is the affair you are talking about in your case?

Answer 2

It would depend on why the marriage is shaky in the first place. If there is a reason, say your spouse is incapable of meeting normal marital obligations due to health or physical issues i.e. obesity, ED, paralysis.If this is an extremely important part of your life and needs which you would end the marriage without, then an affair my give you what you want. This is with the understanding that it is discrete and is carried out with attention to health issues since you don't want to pass anything onto your spouse. If the affair is between consenting adults with the clear understanding that it is nothing more than an affair for each other pleasure with no binding ties I see no problem with it. If you are thinking of divorce because of this type of problem anyway then if the affair is discovered and causes themarriage to end nothing has been lost or gained. However if the affair is only sporadic and safe and allows you to love and care for your spouse aside from this issue, both of you may be happy for many years.

Answer 3

A definite NO... why?

When the other half thinks about having an affair, this is a sign that the marriage is on the rocks. Ask yourself a question. Why is this happening? Then find means to resolve it. It does help when husbands and wives talk so they could do something about it before it's too late. It's never easy but if you love your husband/wife, you'll do anything for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health .... till death do you part.

Answer 4

no, being with someone other then your mate is defiling the promise you made to that person. lets say you cheat on them and then you realize you are totally in love with your mate because that other person wasn't what you were looking for. you have lied and hurt and destroyed trust with your mate and even if you keep it a secret, you should feel guilt and if you don't, maybe you really shouldn't be married to that person. Anyway you look at it it's a no win, i know from experience, it happened almost 3 years ago and i still work hard to earn his trust back. If you care about the other person in the marriage, you wouldn't be even looking at other people to have an affair with. Problems in a marriage should be dealt with within that marriage, without anybody else getting sucked in.

Answer 5

Only thing an affair will help is to END the marriage. When you got married you swore an oath to remain faithful to the one you married. I know that doesn't seem to mean much these days, but You did make that prmise. Bering unfaithful can never strengthen a marriage. ALl it will do is cause hurt.

Answer 6

Never can an affair help a marriage it will destroy it

Answer 7

I do not think so. For some reason the very idea sounds like it would hinder then help a marriage. But, to each their own. Maybe you should ask a therapist or Doctor Phil.

Answer 8

Sorry i don't think so the only thing that it can do is wreck a relationship and cause the other person pain. If this is something that you feel you want to do you should ask yourself if you still have feelings for the person with whom you have the relationship with, and if the answer is yes then be man/women enough to tell the person BEFORE getting involved with someone else. Remember have respect for the person your with now and respect for yourself.

Cheers :)

Answer 9

Being that I am most certain that majority rules, then I would say, that in most marriages, Why.....most certainly it would help the marriage...........That is help the marriage right off its feet, meaning END. Try studying reverse Psychology, unless your intrested in freaky-tales
(3-somes), which could turn your marriage into a few forgotten fairy-tales.
Bye, Bye, Bye,Bye NOW!!!

Answer 10

in no way will it help your marrage. whoever you are having this with might tell you what you want to hear for a while and what happens when he or she moves on. , you are left in the cold your spouse will either divorce you and in fact he or she will never trust you in no way at all in the end you lose every thing even your self respect and over what a affair , my opion?