importance of faithfullness in marriage.?

Question

do u think that we should share each and every thing or moment of our life with our partner?
b'coz there r sum areas in our past life where we generally avoid to go. then is it necessary to tell that thing to him/her?

what do u think?

Answer 1

I don't think you have to lay out every single secret that comes down the pike. Some things you shouldn't have to share with anyone else. Generally, if it's important to the marriage, then go ahead and share it with your spouse. But above all be sure there is trust between the two of you and never do anything that would threaten that trust.

Answer 2

IF you feel you need to know your partner's past, then be prepared to tell all. Some things are left in the past. But, I also believe that everyone should have an HIV test prior to any sex...and care used for a considerable period if the tests are negative.
AS far as fidelity goes, I think this becomes a matter of choice between BOTH parties, not a slipping around thing. Unfortunately, an open relationship dooms the pair to a life of safe sex..that is the only draw back I can see IF both parties are very secure in the relationship.

Answer 3

I think what happens in the past should stay in the past, unless it involves the future, like you have kids, or an illness, stuff like that. Other then that it should be a don't ask, don't tell policy. I have been married for 13 years and we still don't know things that each other did before we were together. Every now and then something will come up like someone he dated will run into us while we are out, but no matter what she looks like I respond the same way "You used to date that, how much did she have to pay?" then we laugh.

Answer 4

Depends on the agreement between the two of you.

Personally, I think the past is the past and what a person doesn't know won't hurt them. But I also wouldn't do anything now that would hurt my wife in the future.

However, if I did something in the past that my wife doesn't agree with and she finds out - it shouldnt' be held against me and vice versa. If you had any questions or doubts it should have come up before the marriage started.

Where the line comes in... is determining when something should have been told. i.e. if I killed my previous wife, should I have told you about it before we got married? I'd say yeah, that's a moral obligation.. but where is the crossing of that line and what you should tell? Dunno.

But in general, you should ask your fiance as many questions as you can. There's a darn good reason (hopefully) that you're marrying(ied) this person. Hopefully you've gotten through all the questions and answers - if you haven't.. try using answers.yahoo.com :)

Answer 5

*Faithfullness* Very important; especially n "MARRIAGE" !!!
And "No"! Not every moment of your life should b spent w/your partner. When u choose someone 2 b your partner & they accept u as their's, u both should give one another space anytime its needed bcause it'll help keep the relationship healthy! And yes, I agree that certain things in your past should not b mentioned @ all depending on whether r not u feel they will help r hurt your relationship! For instance; my lady may have been a victim of rape, child abuse, drug addiction., & may not feel good talking about it bcause it brings back unpleasent feelings... I want to know this bcause I know things that I can do to try & make her life better w/me! But, sometimes the best thing u can do is try to b understanding when the person you're/w don't want to relive a painful past...If she chooses not to talk about it, I have to respect her right to privacy!!!

Answer 6

Faith is the base of a relationship which relation it may be whether its the relation between a mother and a so or the one between two friends or lovers.there are things which u may not be able to share with ur partner.but there should also be nothing which will affect ur future that u need to hide from her.things in the past need not be always sweet memories there can also be things which u never like to remember.so speaking about ur past is not necessary provided that u feel even if ur partner gets to know about ur thru someone else there would not be a question of misunderstanding

Answer 7

Generally, yes. Details, no. Assuming your talking about a life partner, and not your first date, your partner (like you) has the right to feel good in a relationship, or discontinue it. If something in your past is a deal breaker, your partner has the right to make that call. (if something that happened in your distant past is a deal breaker, you're better off knowing that sooner than later yourself) Having a general knowledge of your partner's past is a reasonable request. Requiring specific details of your partner's past is petty jealousy or low self-esteem.

However, if they insist on painful details, that's a signal to you that your partner either distrusts you (valid reason?) or has low confidence in general. You should be sure these are addressed before you move on. And never lie, because then your relationship will always contain that lie.

Answer 8

Everyone needs a certain amount of privacy, married or not. I don't understand why some must have full control over their partners lives...And that the other lets them. Why choose a person to be with for the rest of your life, If you don't trust them?? If you can't do your own thing apart, Then enjoy each other when you're together....I just don't see the point.

Answer 9

No, don't tell the other person the things that happened in the past, it will only hurt them. But you can share the things the happen to you every day. You should be faithful in marriage, it keeps the trust and faith in each other.

Answer 10

I dont think so. Your past is your past and thats where it needs to stay. If you share it all then this may make your spouse look at you differently. You are who she fell in love with and you may be different now than what you was in the past. If she knows things from the past there could be some trust issues. Just love what you got now and leave the past where it is.