Yes, lately I've been bad mouthing, wisecracking and discriminating against others w/ my bothersome questions & answers. If I missed you before I would like to again apologize for all the crap that you had to put up with just because I was having a bad day/week/month/year. I am sorry and I promise to never talk/write about gays(male or female) in a bad way again. And any remarks that anyone wants to make towards me just let me have it 'cause I sure deserve it! So, can someone, with time, learn how to get along with others that are different?
2006-06-23 19:47:58 · 16 answers · asked by kika 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Not sure if this apology includes me (so it would be presumptuous for me to accept it) but no offence taken anyway because, luckily, your suggestions about my possible past were off the mark. I could also appreciate that you had perhaps misunderstood a generalised answer I gave (that I hadn't actually applied to your own situation).
For the record, I don't think I'm an idiot either but, of course, that's just my subjective opinion! ;-)
2006-06-23 22:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by CJ 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
OK, I am going to let you have it...you asked for it and probably deserve it. To me, this is not a game....for the most part, people here think of this as "Dear Abby." Those who ask questions usually have a problem, be it big or little. They deserve an answer that is to the point and real. I try to give them that IF I am going to take the time to write at a keyboard. Time is precious and once spent, will not come back. When questions are asked that are inflamitory, they incite answers that are a total waste of time...time that could have been used to help people who really need help. The simple fact is...I am gay and I am NOT different. I think, I make money, I own a great home, I have fancy cars, I have SONS who love me, I am fair to all, I am honest with my clients, and I live openly. I do not judge people who think differently, other than to occasionally feel sorry for them in their misery-laden lives filled with hate.
Whatever epiphany you have had, I hope it is for real, that you have put down the valuable energy it has consumed, and leads you to a more productive life. Good luck in your journey.
2006-06-23 20:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they can...and I'm not going to say anything bad about you just because you had a bad day. I had a bad day today myself.
The first thing we have to realize is that EVERYONE is different. We are all unique, and if we were all the same, what fun would that be? I would not want all my friends to be exactly like me, that would be really boring. We have differences so we can learn from them-so we can learn patience, tolerance, etc. I am not gay myself, but I have some friends who are, and they are as nice as everyone else. :) Maybe if you talked to a few, then that would help you get used to them, and try to find some common ground.
2006-06-23 19:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you with time, learn to get along with others who are different? Yes. If you have a straight friend who has a gay sibling or friend, get to know that person the next time there is a BBQ or other group gathering. If it doesn't work with that person, just keep meeting people and keep an open mind. When an opportunity presents itself, let friendship take it's course. Over time, your problem will be solved.
Former homophobe.
2006-06-23 21:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by lucy_ritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny! Will you feel better if I insult you some? I know what you mean. I feel bad too but I'm just trying to answer questions as fast as I can and this is just a game so I think it 's okay. Maybe not. Oh well. I just try not to do it any more. Good luck apologizing to everyone.
2006-06-23 19:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by Scott R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for your apology.
As for your question, if you truly want to understand the gay community, get off the computer and go meet some people. Your opinions about groups can only change on a one-to-one basis.
Thanks again, and have a pleasant day.
2006-06-23 19:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by oldwhatshername 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kika, from one who has also had not only a bad year, but a tragic five years, you are forgiven. Not gay,transexual, or transgendered myself, you know of our earlier conversation about...well, you know what it was. By posting this, I see that you are sincere in your attempt to make amends. May God lift your burdens and grant you peace.
2006-06-24 10:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ancespiration 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say "sorry" - one of the hardest things to do. goodluck with that. :)
i think the secret to getting along with different people is humor. it's universal. and a lot of respect (and tolerance esp. towards religion and sexual orientation).
2006-06-23 19:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by riafanel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can someone, with time, learn how to get along with others that are different?
I don't know but i think not always u learn how to get along with others.
2006-06-23 19:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just walk up to them and say sorry. But in a sincere tone.
2006-06-23 19:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by Armando 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋