I'm 18 years of age and I am now at great onyx job corps while my soon to be husband is in the milatary makin money. I have been here at job corps for about 4months and a week after I got here I met a guy. We have been chillin since then. He soon told me he loved me and I said it back like a fool but didnt mean it. We soon had sex not to long ago and I am now pregnat with his child. But the twist is while Im talkin to him I still have my soon to be husband on the side but the guy at Job corps knows about the guy in the mliatary but he dont really care he still says he wants to be with me but the guy in the milatary dont know about the guy at job corps he still thinks everything is all good. So what am I to do I think i do wanna be with the guy at job corps. how would you choose!
2006-06-23 19:07:41 · 26 answers · asked by brandnewyear06 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well u r in some deep sh*t, first thing first come clean, u messed up so stop stringing your Mil.dude along. It is not cool or fair. obviously your not in love with him cause if you were you would have waited for him!so just tell him and let it go it can't be any worse than what you have already done! Not to mention you can be putting him at risk of catching something seeing that you did not protect yourself. Do him a favor and let him go! but only after you fess up!
2006-06-23 19:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In a way, you have already made the choice. If you really were satisfied with your military-man, you wouldn't have slept with job-corps-guy. You don't want to hurt your military-man, so you have not yet told him. Big mistake. Tell him, so he won't be surprised to see you all knocked-up with somebody else's baby when he gets back. No matter the way you tell him, he will be hurt. It will be easiest on YOU to tell him now while he is still away and so this won't be eating at you until he gets back. You are putting too much stress on your pregnant body by letting this constantly eat at you. Tell him, get it over with, and get on with your life. Telling him will be like pulling off a band-aid. It will hurt for a minute, but life has to go on.
PS Try to eat a healthy diet while you are pregnant and when you breastfeed, this is the part of the baby's life that the brain does most of the developing and take a prenatal vitamin. A healthy diet should consist of lots of fresh fruits and veggies amongst other things. Processed foods are not good for you or the baby.
I don't condone your actions, but I know what it is like to make mistakes. Right now, the only one you need to worry about is your baby and what will be healthy for him. Maybe you should save the drama of a boyfriend or man for later in life. I don't really know what to tell you, but I hope you have learned from this experience.
2006-06-24 02:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow Jennifer b is a little harsh! I think you should be straight with that guy and tell him about the guy at job corps. But I wouldn't exactly believe that deep down the guy at job corps is not hurt at all by that. It is time for you to really think about who you want. Getting married might not be the best thing right now because I'm not sure you are sure of what you really want. But I would defintely be honest with them both. Good luck!
2006-06-24 02:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by Cajirenee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once your soon to be husband returns from the military to his pregnant fiance, I don't think the decision will be up to you anymore. Is the father of this child going to support you and your baby? Where are you going to live? What are your parents going to think? How are you going to raise this child properly? These are the kinds of questions you need to be asking yourself. It sounds like you've already made up your mind, but like I said, I don't think you've got much of a choice in the matter anymore. Unless your soon to be husbands love for you can continue after the news of your pregnancy... while hes overseas fighting for yours and this countries freedom your having an affair with some guy you just met four months ago. I know that sounds a little harsh, but put yourself in your fiances shoes... how would you feel if he called you tomorrow and said, "Honey, I slept with a prostitute and shes pregnant with my child. You still want to marry me right? Give me a few days to think about what I want to do... talk to you later." Kinda sucks, huh?
2006-06-24 02:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by Purplelicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you feel extremely bad and you have learnt your lesson. I feel your fiance deserves to know the truth. You should also consider if the other guy is truly faithful to you. If you do really like that other guy better, then I guess you're better off with him. After all, you're pregnant with his child. Whatever you do, don't get an abortion. It is an inhumane act and the child has done nothing wrong. All the best of luck!
P.s. I think your fiance would be even more hurt not to know the truth.
2006-06-24 02:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by G K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from someone who has a fiance in the Navy and is at home by myself all the time, you dont care about the military guy. I would never do that to my fiance, the thought has never even crossed my mind. Im sitting at home pregnant with his child, while he goes and prepares for war. What is wrong with you. That man is defending our country, and not only do you cheat on him, you get pregnant. Tell him now, and then forget you ever had that relationship. He wont want to date you anymore.
2006-06-24 03:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by HCW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweety, but if you're engaged why would you be messing around with someone else? Not smart! And why in the world did you have UNPROTECTED SEX. i Mean dayum, if you're gonna cheat atleast be safe and use a freakin condom. Not just for the risk of pregnancy, but also STDs. You have A LOT of growing up to do before you should even think about getting into a relationship with anyone! Not to mention the growing up you'll have to do to be a mom! You need to think about things before you do them!!!
2006-06-24 02:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG~ Girlfriend you are messed up. No one can help you but you! You are messing with two gentlemens heads and if you think that is OK well put the military boots on and see if you would like it if either of them did it to you...You should have shame. YOU need to learn self pride and respect for you before you think you can even be a mom..wife,,or lover...There is more to being then the games and sex that you are playing think of your future and your child.....
2006-06-24 02:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by MissChatea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's either Corps Guy or you are gonna be a single mum! Either way you've lost Military Guy....
Suck it up and deal with the consequences of your actions.
2006-06-24 02:15:39 · answer #9 · answered by UN1C0RN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u are a slut and if u cared about the guy in the military then u should get an abortion say **** off to the new guy and stay loyal.. would u like him to go **** sum chik while u r serving the country to make the way u live perfect...i doubt u would so think about that
2006-06-24 03:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by paulwallballa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋