me ex-husband doesnt support my children my new husband has been for two years?

Question

my ex-husband owes over $13,000.00 in arrears where should that money go to ? my kids? our family ?or husband and i. may sound like a dumb question but just want some opions.

Answer 1

CHILD support is supposed to be for the CHILD(REN) and their expenses.

Answer 2

Assuming you ever collect it, it should go into the same place all other income goes.

Notwithstanding previous comments about it not being the children's money, the fact is that the money is supposed to be used to ensure the children have the highest possible level of financial support.

When people have several sources of income, it can be difficult to prioritize, but child support should not be used to buy a new SUV, boat, motor home or anything else that is for the primary benefit of the parent.

It is not considered income for a very good reason, it is not income. It is for supporting children.

If it was income, it would be taxed as such.

Any child support that is not needed for direct expenses related to providing food, clothing, shelter & medical care (assuming he isn't responsible for medical care) or other expenses directly related to the children (school, hobbies, etc.) should be applied towards a college trust fund for the children.

Child support isn't supposed to pay all the expenses, it is only supposed to pay for half the children's expenses and those usually represent a fraction of the total expense (rent, utilities) of operating a home.

Answer 3

If you and your husband have outstanding debts catch them up put the money to use raising the children , food , clothes , toys , any thing , give your husband some help he needs it , I know from experience ,My second wife had 2 children when we married , girl age 6 , boy age 5 , I supported them until they were adults Treated them the same as my own 5 , sometimes things were slim , and we did without things , but we didn't ever go hungry and I already owned my own house so we had a roof over our heads too, Tho my wife had full custody I made sure they got to visit with their father and we let them make up their own minds about what kind of person he was , he never paid a cent of child support

Answer 4

Weeelll, his child support is determined based on his income and yours. He is required to pay a certain percentage of support for the kids based on the total income combined. Since he hasn't been paying it, this means you and new hubby have been providing 100 percent of support. When (if) you get the money, you could use it for what ever you wanted. If it was me, I'd spend at least some of it on the kids as a nice thing, just things they wanted and not needed. What most people don't consider is that child support is not JUST for buying clothes, shoes, etc.. Kids also need a roof over their heads, food to eat and medicine..as well as lots of other things. therefore, child support isn't just spent to buys "things" for the kids. Do what you think is best, and what makes you feel right inside. Also, are you aware that in most states, if ex hasn't seen or paid support for his minor children in two years (sometimes less) the new hubby may legally adopt them.

Answer 5

First of all, I'm curious as to why you think your ex-husband will ever pay the money since he's $13,000 in arrears without any apparent consequences. Let's assume he does. I'd suggest that you and your new husband consider developing a homebased business for the following reasons:
1. You can develop multiple streams of revenue
2. Each of you can almost immediately begin bringing home more money from your current jobs because of the excellent tax advantages of having a homebased business.
3. If your children are between 7-years-old and 17-years-old, you can make almost all the money you spend to support them tax free.
This way, the $13,000, assuming that you get it from your ex-husband, can be used to benefit your entire family.
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Answer 6

Child support is intended to assist you in the costs involved in raising your children, including mundane items like mortgage, utilities, clothing, food, etc. If you have struggled along without it, anything you get from him will only replace what you and your husband have worked for. Not a dumb question, common one. Don't let anyone tell you that it is the kids money, it is paying you back what you are owed.

Answer 7

Take him back to court and take everything including his dreams. When he has to sell everything he owns to pay you, put it up for the children's college or a start for their new life when they are grown. The money you and your new husband have put out is already spent. Let it go. If your ex is not supporting them monetarily, he's probably not offering much in the visitation department either. Make sure the children have at least a stable launch pad. Go get him and don't let him get behind again. Judges do not like contempt.

Answer 8

it goes to the child support office...and if he puts it in your hand... it does not count. it has to go through the courts.. child support is used for assisting in the childrens well being... clothes..food..medical..of course comes first... but a portion of the rent..or mortgage.. utilities... are also considered...after all they have to have a place to sleep and live.. they have to have heat and light. that is nice of new hubby to help..with kids.. but it is considered a gift... if he doesnt adopt... or document through court as well. he should keep track of what he does..with a paper trail..and it could be considered a loan that has to be repaid... check that out though. also a smart mother..would not hand 13 thousand over to a new husband just because he has been there. if i got 13 thousand i would set aside money in a trust or savings for the children...and then pay child related bills.. to make life better for the whole family.

Answer 9

the laws have become very strict for deadbeat parents. go to children and family services in your area. once you recover these arrears, the are for your children. their well being and education. your new husband will probably get a break from having to support them, but really, the money is not to pay your new husband back. if this is behind your question, think it out, talk it out or get out if that is what this is about.

Answer 10

The child support that your ex owes, he owes to you. You are the custodial parent and he owes you for his share of the children's bill for food, clothing and shelter.

It is NOT the children's money. It is his share of your cost of raising those children. It is not your new husband's money. It is your share of the cost of providing your children with food, clothing and shelter.

If your ex isn't paying it, there are local, state and federal agencies who will MAKE him pay it. First go to your local district attorney's office and find out where child support processing happens in the district attorneys office. If that isn't satisfactory and if nothing happens on that level, go to the attorney generals office in your state. There are federal guidelines that compel the district attorney on a local level and the attorney general on a state level to get your child support.

If that doesn't work, go to both the district attorney and the attorney general and ask for a support modification whereby you ask for MORE money. In doing that, the whole record of his payment gets noticed and they start to garnishee his wages, put him in jail or whatever else starts to happen.

Answer 11

Those questions have already been determined by the family court in your area and the social service agency assigned to oversee and collect payments is where you need to return to in order to answer questions on your particular situation. Of you have not been through family court and received a judgment in your case, then it sounds like it may be you next step.