Your mate finds any reason possible to say your seeing someone else. But they are the one always out. Is it insecurity from prior relationship, or is it they sre the unfaithful one?
2006-06-23 19:02:43 · 21 answers · asked by DJ 2b69in 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They are most definitely the guilty one! I have been in the same situation in the past. My husband use to always accuse me of cheating when he was the only one going out at night and I was staying home with my kids. How in the world would I be cheating while at home with 3 kids to take care of. And sure enough I found out he was the one cheating. It is all an insecurity thing.They feel so guilty for cheating, but just can't admit to cheating so they have to blame their spouse, because it seems to make them feel better about themselves.
2006-07-05 08:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time it is their own insecurities causing them to point the finger. I know what you mean, because my husband would always make accusations against me, and all I did was sit in the house. All you can do is hold strong, or present them with an ultimatum. Stand your grounds, try not to be too defensive, they'll turn that on you as well! It's a hard area, but you can get past it. On the other hand, they could just honestly feel that you are being unfaithful, in that case you just need to sit down and have a heart to heart conversation. Good luck
2006-07-05 14:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by luvleesoljagurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe there can be any one answer for this question. Surely there could be many possible explanations that would cause ones partner to continually make accusations of infidelity. Insecurity, guilt, psychosis of different forms all may cause this delusional jealousy.
Seek professional or trusted advice and really evaluate the foundations of the relationship, the future of the relationship and "health" of the relationship. Is this situation the best for both involved? Best of luck...
2006-06-24 02:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by Joseph L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may have been cheated on in the past and they are expecting the same to happen again. They may be cheating and is afraid that you are doing the same, or they maybe just jealous and insecure. What ever it is only time will tell and if you look close enough you will find the answers out yourself.
2006-07-06 08:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a couple of reasons he could be doing this.
One: He has low self esteem and thinks down deep hes not good enough for you and that youll realize this yourself sooner or later.
Two: He's a control freak who needs to know youre thinking of HIM 24/7 this is also a very immature way to think. You might wish to ask him the next time he accuses you of cheating, "If you can't trust me, how can you LOVE me?"
2006-06-30 22:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be the way they were brought up, possible past abandonment issues brought to the surface in later life.
No it does not always mean they are cheating. It just means they don't trust you.
If there is no trust, there is no relationship.
2006-06-24 02:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by KelBean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS NOT ONLY A QUESTION OF IF THEY ARE THE REAL GUILTY ONES I THINK THEY ARE INSECURE AND UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THE FACT THAT THEY CANT CONTROL THERE FEELINGS. I THINK REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY IS THE ANSWER USE IT AS A COMPLIMENT THINK OF IT A YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND HE CANT SAY IT IN THE RIGHT WAY MAYBE HE IS AFFRAID THAT YOU WILL ONE DAY AND WHY DONT THE TWO OF YOU GO OUT TOGETHER ?
2006-07-04 12:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by chrltthnsn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend is married to a man whose first wife went out sleeping with a lot of other men while still married to him and when he found out he was very hurt and got a divorce from her and custody of their child (she is a drug addict). Now he is very suspicious of my friend's movements and one time while we were out together he called several times to check on her whereabouts. In another case, a man I dated was cheating on his wife and accusing her of the same (which she eventually did). So it can go both ways. I guess you need to look and see what is going on with him.
2006-07-03 15:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant say if your mate is cheating or not but i can say usually when one acuses the other so many times for something they are not doing,, its usually their own mind feeling bad. at that point one thinks if they are getting away with cheating, the other partner must be cheating too.
2006-07-03 17:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by abadkittyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, but most the time they are just very insecure people... Instead of getting mad, give a little more of yourself, and make your spouse feel good about themselves......
2006-06-24 02:24:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋