Also, I had an ultrasound when I was about 15 weeks, now Im 24, but are still unsure of the sex of the baby. If I request it to my doctor, can I get another ultrasound?
2006-06-23 18:37:26 · 21 answers · asked by totally unsure 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
uh! morally No! but if you are planing on giving the adopted parents the stuff you receive or have the Baby shower for them then by all means go right a head!
more than likely you can get another ultrasound it all depends on the doc.
2006-06-23 18:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Requesting another ultrasound may or may not get you another one. Most doctors won't do an ultrasound just for the fun of finding out what the sex is. They usually use them only for health/development/or lack thereof reasons!
I dont think that you should have a baby shower. The family that adopts the baby will have a baby shower once the baby is born and in their custody. There really is no point to having a baby shower if you are going to give your baby up for adoption, what are you going to do with all the baby stuff once the baby is with someone else? Good Luck
2006-06-23 18:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think even if you plan to give your baby to adoptive parents, a baby shower would be fine. You can give the shower gifts to the newly adoptive parents. After all, the gifts are for the baby. Years ahead down the road, the child will know he/she was loved and thought about by her or his biological parent and friends.
Adoption is a selfless act of love for a child. If you have adoptive parents already chosen for your baby, you may have an open adoption which would be another reason to accept a baby shower.
24 weeks is still pretty early. Your doctor will order another ultrasound soon enough.
In the meantime take care of yourself so you have a healthy baby. Good luck to the both of you.
2006-06-24 13:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think it's wonderful that you've decided to give your baby up for adoption. There are so many wonderful people out there who want to have children but are physically unable to. That being said, I think it would be best not to have a baby shower. Receiving gifts for a child you are not going to raise is only going to cause you a lot of heartache. There must be a good reason that you've decided on adoption, and having a baby shower could change your mind. Just try and remember why you're doing this.... so you and your baby can have a chance at a happy, fulfilling life. You are doing something very special and unselfish. As far as another ultrasound, do you really think it's a good idea for you to know the sex of the baby? Like I said before, I would steer clear of developing any kind of emotional attachment to your baby. This will only make the inevitable separation that much harder for you. Of course, you should have all the recommended ultra sounds and doctor appointments. Best of luck to you.
2006-06-23 20:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by Purplelicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it. Why would you want a baby shower if you're giving the kid up for adoption? People who adopt are generally better off financially than average, so why would they need help buying basic baby supplies? It seems like it would just be more painful for you. If nothing else, it just seems in bad taste. I'm sure that this situation is painful for you, so why make it even worse? If there is a strong possibility that you might keep the child, then yes, by all means have a shower. Otherwise, I strongly recommend against it. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-06-23 18:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by olelady55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you could if you know where the baby will be going and you can give the stuff to them. Or if you are using an adoption agency you could give the stuff to them if you feel comfortable. Maybe, if you know who the adoptive parents will be, y'all could do the shower together, But the point is it is YOUR decision only, Do what you feel is right. Remember the baby is yours up until you sign the papers. I will be thinking of you and your baby. Whatever you do will be the right decision. The ultrasound depends on your insurance probably, or is the adoption agency paying your bills?
Remember this: YOU WILL ALWAYS BE THE BIRTH MOTHER!!!
God bless you!
2006-06-23 19:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a beautiful thing to do. I can't imagine what you are going through. You are a true hero, not only to the baby's adoptive parents, but to your child.
I wouldn't have a shower. Showers are for getting baby supplies.
Maybe you could throw one for the adoptive mom, if you know who she is. The both of you could sort of share the fun.
I would send announcements to your family and friends that explain about the adoption. Have a "welcome to the world/going away" party. If it is not too painful.
2006-06-23 18:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a definite decision to place the baby for adoption then you should not have a shower. A shower is traditionally to welcome the baby and to provide the mother to be with items that she will need for the baby's care. If you aren't keeping the baby then the shower becomes pointless.
2006-06-23 18:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by zaffaris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well a baby shower is to get items u are going to need to raise the baby but since u wont be i wouldnt recommend having one sorry. and as for the sonogram most insurance companies only allow a certain amount of sonograms so u might need to check with them and then ask ur doctor. they will most likly do another one anyway but u could wait and see then. but if not then just ask.
2006-06-23 18:42:24 · answer #9 · answered by army_wife_9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't have a baby shower. You won't need all of the stuff anyways. Why make it harder on yourself to celebrate the coming of the child or find out the sex of the child if you're going to give it up? Don't torture yourself.
2006-06-24 13:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋